Personally that's never happened to me as far as I know of. But really this is one of the many reasons why I hate "commericalized" Christmas. The giver gives from the heart and the receiver is suppose to be a "grateful" receiver. So what if you received a lump of coal this year? Throw that bad puppy in the fire place with your logs! ( ^ _ ^ ) More heat for you!
2007-12-26 04:40:05 · 15 answers · asked by Kooties 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Good answer Taylor! Yup I agree.
2007-12-26 04:49:08 · update #1
I would be very offended. To me, it would show lack of appreciation for me giving them something.
2007-12-26 04:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by 2fine4u 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would not be offended! Sometimes it is hard to shop for certain people, and you never know if the gift you selected is something that they would truly enjoy or need. I like to give gift receipts for all my gifts, because then if they cannot use it, they can exchange it for something else. To me, it is more important for them to have something that they enjoy than the exact item I selected for them, you know what I mean?
I have 4 nephews and 2 of them are out of state and we don't see often.....It is hard to keep track of what they are into as far as toys, etc. so I give gift cards or include gift receipts with their presents. That way if my thoughts are off, the size is wrong, or it is something they already have, they are not stuck with something that will just gather dust. And for adult family that is hard to select presents for, I often combine a gift card with something I personally created for them. This year, both my parents and my in-laws got scrapbooks with photos of my kids and artwork they created. So it is a little bit of the commercial Christmas combined with a whole lot of giving from the heart.
I know we shouldn't look a gift horse in the mouth, but sometimes it is very disappointing and disheartening to receive a gift that is so obviously not you. It indicates that the person that is giving the gift doesn't really know you or what you are all about, and if that person is a dear friend or family member, it is hard to stomach that they don't have a good idea of your personality or interests.
Best Wishes for Happy Holidays!
Maria
2007-12-26 05:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mocha Maria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it has happened to me unless it is the wrong size or a duplicate gift type of thing - but really what it comes down to is people listening to, knowing and taking the time to think of something the receiver of their gift giving would like.
There are so many times when people will say *oh I don't know what to get them, they are so hard to buy for* Yet if people had taken the time to listen to the other person then a gift oppourtunity probably would have jumped right out at them.
Say you just think that Grandma would loveeeeeeee to take up a new hobby with all her free time now that she is retired!!! Oh run right out and get her that pair of ski's!!!!
Yet did the person listen to her recently when she was complaining about how much her joints hurt from arthritis and she had trouble moving?? In which case a good massage at a spa and a bottle of Ben Gay would do just fine LOL
(ok I know the extreme.... but people do need to listen)
2007-12-26 05:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't mind if it were something they already had or it was the wrong size, but returning a gift "just because" really is rude. Luckily, a lot of stores have new policies. Very rarely will you find a store today that will give you actual money for a return.
I really feel bad this year because I'm going to have to return the gift my boyfriend's grandparents got me. It's the most adorable sweater, but it's one size too small for me. Bless their hearts for thinking I wear a small!
2007-12-26 06:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It deoends on how they handdle it and why they returned it. If it didn't fit, was the wrong color, or something along those lines, I'm cool; if they were just being picky or they were rude about it, that stings a little. Taylor is right, though, Christmas IS about celebrating the birth of Christ and the present thing is a pagan custom.
2007-12-26 05:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol i like the part about the coal i think i would be sad if someone returned my gift i mean if i never knew i guess it would be ok but if i knew id be sad cuz i want people to like what i get them ive never done it ive kept crap that i would NEVER use and it just takes up space for years untill i toss it or something but i think a present needs thought so u should be able to come up with soemthing that person will like i guess i understand if its the wrong size but other than that i would be sad so i cant do it
2007-12-26 04:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by jas 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, i have done this before and i see nothing wrong with it so i wouldn't be insulted. i would want the person to enjoy their gift and if returning it for money will allow them to enjoy theirselves than that is good. i don't understand the "gift from the heart" thing. i think cash is the best gift because the person can do whatever they want with it. the excpetion to that is if you know that they really want something, then it will just save them a trip to the store.
2007-12-26 04:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by dwadefranchizemia03 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, theres nothing wrong with that at all. They can do whatever they desire with a gift you, or anyone else, gives them. They can exchange it, take it back and pocket the money, or throw it in the dumpster for that matter.
No one should be insulted over this matter, there are much bigger things in life to be concerned about.
2007-12-26 07:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it hurts. Maybe this is why gift certificates are so popular......people can't use the gift and whoever bought it took no time in considering the gift. I'm sure you are very thoughtful and no gift has been returned.
I don't return unless it's the wrong size. If I can't use it, I give it to charity. So not so much commercialism and materialism.
2007-12-26 04:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
What I do when I give gifts I make sure its something they want. Of course they are not surprised by my gift because they already know what it is, however they would not have to return it or re gift it. But no I would not be insulted if they did
2007-12-26 05:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not unless I really, really worked hard at getting someone something they'd love. There are a lot of people that I buy for that admittedly I don't know very well - like in laws, for example. If they returned what I got them, I wouldn't be offended. I'm always guessing at what they'd like anyway.
But if my husband returned what I got for him, I might be a bit hurt. Not because he didn't like it, but because I did a bad job at finding something that he'd be into. I feel like I know him better than anyone, and I really think for a while about what to get him, so if he ended up disliking it and returning it my feelings might be hurt. That being said, I'd want him to return it and get what he wanted if he didn't like it.
Likewise, I am also hurt if someone close to me gets me something I'd never in a million years want. It kind of says, "I don't know you well/I don't listen to you/I didn't try to get you something you'd like".
2007-12-26 05:37:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋