My husbands aunt who never gives me presents gave me one this year. I really don't care for presents because growing up we never celebrated christmas. I waited and opened it and it was a big tin of cookies?? I told my daughter,"Hey look at what YOU got and she jumped up and down and said cookies!!" It was so cute she was walking around telling everybody Santa said they can have cookies..
Anyhow this woman never liked me before I was married she was very mean to me even went as far as to pushing me once.
Now that I'm married to her nephew I don't care for the woman I got tired of her bullying me so I said finally," OK I'll give you a reason to be upset now" So I fired back when she would say stuff I don't aknowledge her presence (she used to ignore me when I was just getting to know the family)
So anyhow that present just annoyed me!! but then again everything about her annoys me
She's trying very hard to be nice I can't Stand it.
2007-12-26 04:27:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Any way yeah I have to put on a front for my husband and I just really want to punch her in the face.
2007-12-26 04:28:12 · update #1
Ignore her. It seems hard when all you want to do it beat her with the cattle prongs but that is best advice I can give you. Keep your distance and breathe deeply through the mouth, that helps relieve stress. Good job for sticking for yourself!! Kudo points for you.
2007-12-26 04:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by 사파이어 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have to put a front for your husband he should be the first person to know how she was and is treating you and what you think about it. If you walk into a room and she is thier and other ppl are their just say hello to the entire room, like "Hey! How is everybody doin?". You kill nastiness w/ kindness. She is probably doing that because she wants to make you angrier. If you don't want to talk to her just ignore her when she speaks, don't acknowledge anything. Personally I would have told her where to stuff those cookies as oppose to giving it to my daughter(but let me not encourage bad behavior, you being a mom and all. . .lol!) But like I'm saying you don't have to have any relationship w/ her, you can say hello & goodbye but other than that, that's all that is required. If she questions you on how you are, you can ignore her or straight up tell her you don't want anything to do w/ her and be real just like that.
2007-12-26 04:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Love United 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I'm in your same situation, and know just what you mean.
My MIL has acted extremely outrageous to me, I mean REALLY outrageous to the point where we had to cut her out of our lives. Now father in law is trying to create some peace. They have never acknowledged me on xmas or my birthday (both are during the same week) and this year I got a b-day card w/money, and also a xmas gift of money. It was funny, because it was a nice gesture, but I thought to myself, "Oh great. How do I handle THIS? Someone who is a jerk and then sends me a gift" - it sounds strange but it's really awkward, I know what you mean. Especially in my situation, because I know that my mother in law is not behind the kind gestures. My father in law wrote out the cards and put her name on it...
This is what I did - I *immediately* sent a thank you card, it was very formal and not at all personal, but acknowledged the gift they sent and thanked them for it. I did this because, well, good behavior from these weirdos should be praised - maybe it will teach them that we tolerate and appreciate kind gestures, but don't tolerate rude ones.
Also, it makes the situation a clean one for you - you can't be blamed for contributing to any of the negativity. If she had a story on you where she gave you a xmas gift and you didn't thank her or acted coldly, that's giving her ammunition against you. Send a thank you card, that way you are in the clear and she has nothing on you.
Hope that helped.
2007-12-26 05:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate those situations. This will sound goofy, but you know how sometimes you get a song stuck in your head and can't get it out and it drives you crazy? Use this to your advantage! When you know you'll have to see her, purposefully get a song stuck in your head. Then, let it play over and over until it's time to leave. All the while, just nod and smile. Heck, you may even find it possible to hug her!
This works for me every time. I call it my inner oompah band.
2007-12-26 04:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by vintner 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she wants to put the past in the past and start over with you.
I think you should have graciously accepted the cookies as YOUR gift, and not for your daughter.
Be the bigger person and 'try' to get along.
2007-12-26 05:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most of us have those, when I'm at family gatherings, I try to avoid sitting by them, usually across the room from them. I also try to avoid having conversations. I Usually get away with Hello, how are you, and it was nice seeing you....
2007-12-26 05:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The present she gave you may have been out of kindness. Let by gones be by gones and try to be civil.
2007-12-26 05:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss this with your hubby. Afterall, he's the only reason you're putting up with this woman.
Ignorance, I think, is more powerful than any action you can take.
2007-12-26 04:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by DG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that your the bigger person so just suck it up! Maybe she truly is trying to change, but maybe she is also just doing it to make you look dumb, soooo two faced!
Tell her right up" you were very rude to me when we first met and hurt me very much, it makes me feel better that your slowly trying to change."
this will make her feel bad and make you look good!
after that, I think she wont bother you again!
2007-12-26 04:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow you seem like you might need some counseling...
2007-12-26 05:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by runnercaiti1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋