Theres This Girl At My School Who Slits His Wrists?

Question

Im Kinda Worried About Her Shes Only 1rst Year So That Means Shes 12 I See Her During Class When Ever Im Late With A Blade And She Has Huge Scars I Use To Self Harm So I Understand But I Dont Know Why She Does Cause She Has Friends And If Anyone Tries To Ask Her About It She Just Runs Away I Want To Help Her But I Dont Know How Please Help

Sorry Tpyo I Ment To Put ''Theres This Girl At My School Who Slits Her Wrists?''

Answer 1

Is it a she or a he?
Maybe she/he is confused as to her/his gender...

Answer 2

Hi there, I know you have said you self-harmed and I don't want to sound patronising but people self-harm for many different reasons: to feel alive, to recreate pain, to numb pain/hurt, for the sight of their own blood, to receive/give them selves care and so on... the list is endless. It is, largely, a coping mechanism for what ever reason... This girl may have many friends but still not be happy, sometimes situations away from school, or things that have upset a person in the past can continue to affect the way they live now.

It's difficult to help her if she isn't ready for it, and you certainly must get her the help of a professional (eg. teacher, councillor etc.) Maybe you could talk to her about how you self-harmed, how it made you feel, and if you stopped explain how you did this. Be patient because she may not want the help straight away, but let her known she's not alone, and that people want to support her.

I am concerned as to why your teachers have not spoken to her/her parents if she behaves like this in lessons...no one can truly make her stop until she wants to do it for her self but the school should be trying to work through this as it's not appropriate for other young students to witness this.

There are various tips which help somebody, such as pressing ice against skin instead of cutting... maybe even writing/drawing/sports could help? Also keep an eye out to see if she keeps her wounds clean. It is important for her to do so to avoid infection. She could use a wound wash like Salvon to clean it, and Bio Oil is great for healing scars. Re-using blades can cause blood poisoning.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Well, I self harm and I have friends and everything but it's a coping mechanism. You'll know that.

Maybe she has problems at home or there's too much pressure on her.

Whatever it is, I don't think it's a cry for help.
But I do think you could approach her and tell her you used to self harm and will understand what she's going through.

Atleast then maybe she'll talk to you instead of cutting so much.

That's what I find most effective, if I have someone to talk to and just help me calm down.

Answer 4

Try these links to the Mind website -

Understanding self harm:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+self-harm.htm

Self harm - A guide for young people:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Other/About+self-harm.htm

The information is easy to read and understand and it will explain about the reasons for someone doing this. The reasons you did it could be very different from this girl. So having a better understanding will help.

There is practical advice on where to get help and support from as well.

Maybe you could encourage her to read this information, or at least give her the web addresses.

You can't force her to do anything, and making it a big issue will only increase her reasons for wanting to hurt herself. It is good that you want to help and maybe in time she will be glad of someone to talk to. But it has to be when she is ready.

My suggestion would be to see if there is a mental health charity close to you:

http://www.mind.org.uk/Mind+in+your+area/

The one I work for has a specific Young Person's Service and have support workers in every secondary school in my area. This is the kind of service that would be able to help and would do it in a way that doesn't judge but does understand.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Honey it sounds like she is carrying around a lot of inner pain.When I was a child I would beat myself black and blue. I was carrying around all the inner pain. My mother didn't like me for some reason. and it hurt me so much that she love my siblings and not me. It was a release for the other pain i was in. She could use some counseling and a lot of prayers. I will pray that the Lord will take away her inner pain and help her to over come the cutting. God Bless you for being such a good friend to her. And I know the Lord will intervene and see that she gets the proper help. Again thank you for being there for her. God Bless.

Answer 6

hey there,

Cutting is very serious and your friend needs help. If talking to your friend isn’t an option, you need to talk to an adult such as your parents or a teacher you trust. Your friend needs to seek professional help because the cutting can be a symptom of something more serious.

this may seem like im cheating, since ive just taken that out of a website, but i'm genuinely concerned and i really hope your friend gets help soon, before she does something worse...
just be there, to support her when she gets help...

i trully hope she gets better

m

Answer 7

First, you need to let your school counselor know. It's a dangerous thing she's doing... you could be saving her life.
Second, be a friend! People cut themselves because the pain inside is so bad that they need outside pain to take their mind off it. If she has huge scars, you can bet that she has a lot of hurt inside. A friendly shoulder to cry on and a sympathetic ear are one of the best things you can give to her.

You have all of my best wishes. It'll be hard to be a friend to her, but worthwhile!
Ivy

Answer 8

i had a friend that did the same thing...so smone and i told her dad, who did something about it and it stopped for ...well its been 4 yrs for her.
to her this may be an addictive habbit, so if u don't want to tell an adult....and somehow get a chance to talk to her...try not noticing the scars and be her friend so she's comfortable, then help her realize there are other things she can do to occupy her free time so that she isnt depreessed at least out of boredom.

Answer 9

could be any number of reasons , is the short answer.

I had a girlfriend who was much older who did that before I knew her..

sometimes it's not even talking about it, it's just taking time to listen to her..

it could be a cry for help or makes her feel better etc.

but there are people who know how to deal with this, hopefully her parents know , if not they should and she should go to the doctors to get help.

Answer 10

Read everything in the link I'm sending you. I self-injure due to constant depression, anxiety disorders, and verbal abuse. I need help, but I can't tell my parents, they don't understand, I've tried before already. I cut my wrists, hit myself, and occasionally overdose on Ibuprofen. Cutting is a good way to relieve stress or depression, but definitely not the way to go. You should talk to her, but DON'T tell the teacher, or your parents, or her parents! Consult her first, and if she refuses to let you help, then you go to your parents about it, not hers, and not the teacher.
Hope I helped. Good luck.

Answer 11

Just because she has friends does not mean she is happy. She can be 2 different people. What I mean is happy with her friends hiding who she is. Alone her real self. Ask her about it and tell her u know what she is going. Having friends has nothing 2 do with it. I have a friend who has been doing this for 4years and she is popular.