My husband was working late at his second job (at a restaurant), when his mom, dad and sister came by after it was closed. I was there too to pick him up and I heard the whole thing. Well, first off he hates his little sister because he thinks she's a spoiled brat (she's 19). That night she asked him if they had any mashed potatoes left and my husband said "No, I threw them out already." But, he said it kind of mean (because he hates her) so she didn't really believe him so she asked the manager (who is a family friend) if they had any left. The manager was like "oh yeah, I'm sure we do." She kind of followed him saying that if it was too much trouble to not worry about it but he was on his way. Sure enough, there wasn't any so he made NEW potatoes which my husband saw... and would have to clean up... so while his sister was walking out he said "Thanks for keeping me here twenty more minutes". Well, she was so hurt by it that she was crying about it later to their parents...
2007-12-26 02:19:49 · 9 answers · asked by Avelyn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
which I understand because he's usually pretty mean to her. But then my husband's dad calls him and says, "You're a heartless Son of a B****" and hangs up. So, are they all insane or is someone truly at fault here? Is calling your son that a little overboard? Mu husband refuses to talk to him and I kind of understand but golly, can't we all just get along!
2007-12-26 02:21:44 · update #1
Tone of voice is everything!! And my husbands tone of voice to his sister is pretty freakin' bad.
2007-12-26 02:41:04 · update #2
I think both sides are at fault here. I mean, I do get the sense that the sister is a spoiled brat - thought I wonder why the manager doesn't have enought balls to say no to the sister, I mean, come on! I am sure that your husband is tired, working two jobs, but I would point out that if he just said what he had to say to begin with, but without the nasty venomous tone of voice, the whole situation might not have happened. Tone of voice can make a huge difference. I think your husband needs to make space between himself and his family. Even with the manager as the family friend, it just seems like the dynamic there is that everyone else tries to fight each other's battles.
2007-12-26 02:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by eldots53 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they are all self absorbed and over the top. What's up with your husband hating his sister? Is she *really* a spoiled brat or is he just looking at her through his sibling rivalry goggles?
He's a grown man, married and out on his own. His sister is 19 and probably still in school, so she's living at home with the parents.
Your FIL was defending what he saw as an unprovoked attack on his daughter by her brother.
They all sound like they've got issues.
Your husband needs to grow up and start acting like an adult, which means he starts relating to his parents as an adult and not a surly teenager. He needs to learn to not let his sister push his buttons. He can't worry about what's going on with his sister, that's her issue and between her and her parents. When he stops letting them get to him, they won't have the power to hurt him. I think that he may find when he starts behaving differently around his parents, they may just start treating him differently. Right now they sound like they are still treating him like a kid but expecting him to behave like an adult.
2007-12-26 05:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the sister is a spoiled brat and got her way with the whole potatoes issue. I think his father saying that was a little overboard for sure but his sister only cried about it so once again she would get her way
2007-12-26 02:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I haven't seen the movie, but I know the story line. What did you find funny? I am not heartless, never been accused of that. I can be cold, though.
2016-05-26 07:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by desirae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it's the dynamic between your husband and his sister that lead to this. His hate for her combined with her 'spoiled brat' ways will continue to cause problems. I suspect that when it comes to his sister he is a heartless sob. Is it over the line for his father to call him that? Yes. Is it true? Sounds like it. If he learns to govern his passions, I suspect life will be easier. Otherwise, he has no influence over her and her parents will feel no reason to govern her.
2007-12-26 02:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by JB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to all get along with these people?
sister is a spoiled baby and your husband is better off out of it
he is working 2 jobs to support you he doesnt need this grief from his family of all people
good riddance to bad rubbish
2007-12-26 02:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you think about that phrase he's really insulting himself and his wife too. Consider what a b**** was supposed to be, and for a guy to marry that kind of woman, doesn't point to the brightness of that man.
2007-12-26 02:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by Fun2010 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Encourage your husband to move away with you. Don't be surprised if at this point, you won't have to do endure alot of convincing.
2007-12-26 02:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I'd say it's about par for the course in that case.
2007-12-26 06:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋