He has taken this vow for his religious beliefs...
2007-12-26 02:06:05 · 36 answers · asked by ..................?............. 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It's way more wrong of you to stop seducing a man after you marry him, if you've got to.
Furthermore, I am not sure that any women of the Lizard King should be hooking up with a vowed man.
This is the end
2007-12-26 02:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by Old guy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever occur to you that maybe the reason you want to have sex with this man enough to disrespect his wishes could be precisely because he said he won't?
Maybe you should examine your REASONS for wanting to sleep with him?
Is it love? If so, then you should love him enough to listen to his wants and desires. Do you think he'd want to end up with you if you pushed him to do something he vowed he wouldn't do? If anything, it'll probably make him resent you to the point that he never wants to see you again because seeing you would remind him that he had a moment of weakness. It could even strengthen his resolve to never have sex again until marriage. Especially not with you.
On the other hand, maybe it's just the fact that he is a challenge to you now that makes you all hot and bothered and wanting him to scratch your itch? Ask yourself if you'd want him this much (enough to consider doing something underhanded like try to seduce him against his will) if he never made that vow? If the answer is "no" then you should probably move on.
Trying to make someone do something they don't want to do just to make yourself happy isn't love, sweetie. It's selfish and immature. So think long and hard before you try to seduce him.
If you BOTH seem to be fighting temptation then there are things you two can do to ease your hormones that don't involve actual intercourse. Oral sex is one option (although I'd suggest one of you keep your clothes on at all times if you try this to help sway the temptation to go all the way). You can also try sex toys on each other. You'll still get much pleasure from doing this and, although it'll be frustrating, at least he'll respect you in the morning and adore you for respecting him and loving him enough to abide by his wishes.
That's the type of woman a man wants as a wife. A woman with conviction who will be a partner and teammate in life working with him for the betterment of you both. No man wants a wife who's going to try to get her way regardless of how it'll effect him.
Is he worth the wait? Is a moment of pleasure really worth risking him never wanting to see you again? Because sex complicates things. It always has. Especially if you do it for the wrong reasons.
Honestly, I think you came here and asked your question because you care for this guy. Otherwise you wouldn't have bothered asking us anything. You just would've seduced him and have done with it by now. So think about your motivation behind all this then make a responsible and loving decision.
2007-12-26 02:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by Kamikaze ♥ Kitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know it's not right to try to seduce someone into going against a solemn vow. The result of which, if he weakens and goes along with it, would probably be a deep seated feeling of guilt and resentment toward you. Don't do it.
2007-12-26 02:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by LoFlo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because it's very disrespectful. You don't have to share his religious beliefs, but if you don't respect them and if you try to subvert them as you are considering doing, your relationship will never last. There are plenty of non-religious men who are only too happy to be seduced by you, so why don't you go after them?
2007-12-26 02:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by Somebody else 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong for you to try and seduce him. Respect his wishes and his vow
2007-12-26 02:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you do marry this man and you have daughters, what answer would you give them to such a question? I believe he needs to know more about you. One should be proud of a man with such morals and desire to please God. Please make sure you are a woman who can support such a man in his dedication to God and to what he feels is right. If you have no such aspirations as he does, please let him know. I hope he will not lose out by choosing what's against his faith. There are many tales of men who have had profound falls because they bow to that which is for a moment. One has to think of what practices will follow such practices as seduction. What other seductions will one use in marriage and throughout life? Yes, it is wrong. No one will really be thrilled with having had someone manipulate them. I must give you credit for asking. Please continue to investigate your motives in respect to human relationships...it is a good practice. Have a very happy New Year
2007-12-26 02:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by #1 Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, he's like me!
I am pretty freakin proud to be keeping myself for marriage--even though I have been married in the past, and I probably will not be again, b/c of the very few available men who share my values.
If I never "do it" again, I will die knowing that I kept myself clean. And you know how easy it is to stay that way? Very.
Please don't bother that poor man--you don't deserve him.
Yeah, thumbs down me to death, I don't care.
2007-12-26 02:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by colebolegooglygooglyhammerhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wrong? maybe not, but why do that to him? You just want to make it difficult for him. What does that say about you? Are you that shallow to be worried about that this guy wouldn't sleep with you because of his faith. What would you do if a guy kept trying you and you were in a period of abstinence? Respect his decision and move on.
2007-12-26 02:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by Dean C 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think so.
It is indeed idiotic to refrain from sex because of some hate filled religion, but if this man feels strongly about his vows, you could hurt him by making him break those vows.
2007-12-26 02:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
yes...for one thing..as you have obviously do not share his belief....He will not marry you.
reason being : ?
Christian should not date or marry an unbeliever:
"Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?" (2 Cor. 6:14-15).
2007-12-26 02:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋