family gift giving?

Question

My sister every year asks me, what my family would like and every year I tell her. There is Just me and my fiance and my son. Just three of us. Well anyways every year she goes to go to the dollar store and sends us the most cheapest things. Its hurts me that she does this to me, espically since I am family. I spend a abundance of money on gifts for her family which constists of 2 adults and 4 children. I am get even more upset when I call and confirm all the wonderful expensive things they have gotten themselves, but every year we are not being thought of. What should I do? Should I say something? Very Hurt in Mass.

I did say in the begining we dont know and she persists and keeps asking so I tell her specific things that are low cost less than $10. Also I understand that this is not what it is all about but she is my sister and it reflects to me how much she cares when every year she chooses to send me things that are suppose to show her love. I would even accept a pretty card or a homemade bread Im not about the cost its just the thought that is put into these gifts that hurt. She truly is not thinking of us.

Answer 1

Its the thoguht that counts.Yes,Ive been there.We had a sister in law who use to put already used things in boxes like address books (already wirtten on)Finally,I just said We wont be able to trade names next year.Don't put yourself in that postition.
Our family set a price limit like 30 bucks?(did yall do that and she didnt follow it)She still may do it though.SO,just tell her next year it you wont be able to postage is getting to high or use some other excuse.Because you know you are srtting yourself up for dissapointment.
Just know in your heart you did the right thing,..and did it for caring about others not for the present itseelf.(Yes,I know its frustrating.)

Answer 2

how about just stop the gift giving!
i mean i can planly see that you want waht you give!
and frankly it's not about that!

Who cares if you got nothing but dollar stores stuff! You shouldn't be hurt! and it makes me sad thinking that it did hurt you! she got you something that a lot more then some! so let the mertirail crap go! you can lose it all one way or another anyway!
it don't mean JACK!

I only say this because i lost my home in a fire and relized that none of that crap means anything!
if i were you i would take a step back and start to appreciate the things you have that you can't get in a store before it's too late!

Answer 3

Are you telling her you want something that can be purchased at the dollar store? Are you specific in what you want?

Perhaps your sister is poor but doesn't want to tell you because she's afraid of what you'll think of her. Maybe she doesn't know that you know the items are from the dollar store. Is she getting cheap gifts for other people too, or just you?

Talk to her if you'd like, but I'd say next year, get her something from the dollar store as well. Christmas is about giving, not receiving, but if it bothers you as much as it does (and I can't say I blame you), give what is equal to what you receive.

Answer 4

Continue as you are, thank her for the gifts and keep in mind that christmas is about GIVING not recieving. I know I'm not going to be the most popular answer. my family is not perfect either. we have some crazy people too so you are nto alone. (Heck we have people who won't even BOTHER to shop for us!) Just explain to your family that you love your sister and her family enough not to be mad and THAT is a gift. We have another relative who criticized our gifts which were brand new and left the package on the doorstep. she asked if the package was bought at a yard sale. this year she bought EVERYONE in the family gifts instead of just the kids. So maybe it will get better. We actually saw pictures of her daughter this year, something we haen't done since she was born. So it might get better. just hang in there. Keep loving them.

Answer 5

So, you are upset that your sister chooses to indulge her children and spouse rather than you and your family? The fact that you actually ask for anything is rude enough. Maybe she's waiting for the year you grow up a little and quit asking for stuff. When she asks what you would like, the best response would be that you just want her to have a happy holiday and be blessed. The fact that she's going to the trouble of shopping for you, packaging gifts and mailing them should be present enough.

Answer 6

Next year when she asks what you would like for Christmas, tell her you would like some homemade bread or something similar. Come right out and say, "I think it would be a neat idea if we just exchanged homemade gifts for Christmas!" Don't be hurt--what someone spends on you in money in no way reflects their feelings about you, unless you both had a horrible upbringing.

Answer 7

I bake issues and make warm chocolate mixture to grant to acquaintances. I even have 8 grandchildren, so I provide them present enjoying cards and that they could %. out what they choose. comparable is going for my infants. They understand what they choose greater advantageous than I do. i attempt to get my husband a clean device or device he's renowned. whilst i grew to become into working, I had discretionary money for presents, yet for the reason that retirement, it extremely is purely no longer an option. With the tax cuts being achieved away with in January, i think of it extremely is going to be even worse. i like the belief of giving a greenback for each 12 months of age. My grandchildren selection in age from 25 right down to 5.

Answer 8

Just do the same thing to her next year. Get her all Dollar Store gifts and stop spending so much since she does not reciprocate. It's apparent she can afford more but chooses not to, so...return the favor!

Answer 9

Yes you should say something. I was thinking that it was because maybe she was short on money.............. but f she went out and bought expensive things for themselves than that is not the case. If she asks what you would like and does the complete opposite, to me that is spiteful. If not than next year you should do the same thing to her to see how she likes it.
but before you do anything talk to her about it, she's probably not noticing that you're hurt.
good luck.

Answer 10

Just return the favor. Get her things from the dollar store and call it even. Don't get bent out of shape...it's Christmas for God's sake!