What are the signs that a man is really over you and has moved on, for instance i havent spoke to my ex in over 3 months, well about 3 weeks ago we seen each other and yes we had sex, well i he told me he didnt have time for games, i told him i didnt have time for games and i told him i didnt want to be his friend anymore cause its taking to much effort and he should go and work things out with his new lady friend and to leave me alone i wasn tried of being used for sex and i will send his ring back he bought me. Well after that i havent heard from him until the 24th he sent me an email christmas card and signed it Love Chris. If someone tells you to leave them alone and they dont want to be your friend anymore why did he send me that email card, Does he want to be my friend still or what? What does it mean when a man says they dont have time for games? Im alittle confused.
2007-12-26 01:11:44 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he was drunk when he was sending the card
2007-12-26 01:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by factisimportant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people sign cards, letters, emails "Love, --name--". It normally doesn't mean "LOVE", it is just a friendly expression in that context.
"No time for games", regardless of it being spoken by a man or woman, means one of two things and you have to ask the person which one.
1. The person doesn't want to do the "standard" courtship rituals that dating normally entails; he/she just want the end result (SEX) and that is all.
2. The person is interested in forming a short (hoping to be long) term relationship and doesn't want to be with someone who is not interested in the same.
To answer your question regarding "how do you know when it is over" ... no more phone calls, no more emails, no more contact -- other than (sometimes) inclusions on holiday greeting card lists.
2007-12-26 09:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Singing Chipmunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have some place for him in your heart , you may take your time to find out real meaning of what had said earlier.It's difficult to say that he just means sex with you and nothing else.Why did you have to have sex again after meeting him after a few months and that too after your relationship had broken off? I have every reason to believe that you love him as you did before.He may be having the same feelings about you. Just allow some more time to pass by when you can understand him better and don't be a "sex doll" for him so easily.In the mean time exchange normal emails with good wishes in response to his usual greetings.
2007-12-26 09:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by bikashroy9 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think either he is confused about what he wants or else he is sporting yet even a bigger game to keep you on the back burner for occasional sex. It is hard to tell without getting him to talk about his feelings. I would try to find out what he perceives as a game from you. If he is willing to talk about it, then maybe he has a perspective that you didn't see at first. If he is just being vague or beating around the bush about his answers, then it sounds like you are a victim of a game.
2007-12-26 09:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by David M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the sending of the email was meant to be politeness. i mean, i heard from some exes i haven't heard from in ages, but they were just doing it because of the whole xmas spirit thing. It may not necessarily mean that he wants to be friends with you. I suppose the ball's in your court, as it were, so up to you. Maybe he means he's looking for a marriage now, and doesn't want any hesitations?!
Sorry i can't be any more help!
2007-12-26 09:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to be civil to you. At least that is what it looks like to me. It was a Christmas card, not an offer to meet up for sex, or a propsal for marriage.
2007-12-26 09:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he "doesn't have time for games" but still wants to play them! Ignore his efforts to contact you and move on. He will keep jerking you around until you stop letting him.
2007-12-26 09:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by Leaf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is confused also. Try not to think too much of it. Only time will tell the end of this story.
2007-12-26 09:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by Gary B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just want s to make sure that you guys are both over each other....i'm sure he still wants to be friends...give it time
2007-12-26 09:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT MEANS THEY JUST WANT TO HAVE SEX.NO TIME FOR LITTLE KIDS GAMES LIKE HOLDING HANDS,etc.
2007-12-26 09:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by closlr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋