Torn about what to do about me and my Ex girlfriend?

Question

Me and my girlfriend of over a year split up 2 weeks ago, and was really upset with each other for stupid reason, we both made our mistakes that both made things difficult for us (no cheating) and we recently started talking again and made the agreement if we cleared up what was said about each other we can start talking about getting back together...well that part is done and now we are going to start talking about getting back together (i think) im kind of sketchy about this because i dont know if things will ever be the same...a part of me says no move on but the other part of me would do anything for her or to protect her...we have completley different friends...(I stay out of trouble because im going to be a cop) and she hangs out with drink and smoke every weekend kind of people...i have the feeling issues could arrise even after we work this out

What should i do?!

Answer 1

Listen to your noggin. Your right! They well be back because your not talking about them, also because relationships change over time, never fight the change, you can never have the sweet, romantic perid back, thats based on fantasies and you can't fight reality. So really, unless you confront the issues that broke you guys up in the frist place (the things you guys SO wisly descided wasn't important) your going to breck the relaitonhips up due to neglecting the honestly of the communication. You can't deny problems by not talking about them,and espacially becaurse there was HEART-FELT truth behind the things you said. So ether you guys talk about those things, are your going to watch them pop up here and there and eventually tear the relationship apart on their own accourd. Relationships are about GROWTH, not STAGNATION, neglecting that is, neglecting the relationships. And your the cop one, your the one who isn't trying to party, you should know these things...... but the issues you had, need to be addressed, if not, well they well be again, only not by ether of your guys choice. Love means crap, the problem you'll both run into is the HOW to love each other, and unless you talk about that ALOT its going to be heck.