After finally breaking up with an abusive b/f4 days before Christmas, , should you feel bored, or happy?

Question

One woman finally woke up to what every one was telling her 2 years ago but still didnt have the guts to break up until four days before christmas
She then said that normally hes there with parents and family
. After showing presents, they all went to sleep.
She said she felt bored without the boyfriend there on Christmas night Is this normal
Do you think she was really bored?
Shes an adult in her early twenties
Some women feel guilty after a breakup
Other women feel free at last
Many women feel lost without a boyfriend
They say first theeir father told them what to do and then their husbands.
Many women feel they cant get anybody else
Do they need anybody else
I say be happy and begin your life anew
Find out what you are all about before seeking a new boyfriend.
How did you react on that first New Years night afyter the breakup?

Hes still trying to get her back because he misses using her and abusing her
He doesnt tell her this but he confides in his friends
He tells her he still loves her
I say never go back to him regardlress of what he says.

Answer 1

People are unique so feelings will be too.

Answer 2

Sort of yes and no. This is the first Christmas I have had off since 2008, due to working night shifts. Christmas in my job can be very stressful. But I see Christmas as the overall period from mid December to early January, and it's about the atmosphere. I usually go to the theatre, have meals out, visit my brother, and just enjoy it. It's also the only time of year I eat cheese. It's not about presents as such, although I like the challenge of what to get people. So, more socks for Christmas? Brilliant, because they are useful and they certainly don't end up at car boot sales.

Answer 3

Of course she would feel bored. All though she had been abused, and of course thinking it was her fault which is normal for women that are abused. She has no one there with her. She goes to bed alone after having someone there. She needs to remember that she made the right choice and not to go back with him because she is bored.

Boredom is not a reason to go back into an abusive relationship. I know, I have been there before and always went back because I was bored and lonely. She needs not to make the same mistake I did. It passes. She needs to get out with friends and do something. Go away for awhile to get a clear head and to get away from him.

Good luck to her.

Answer 4

A break up is hard, especially if there are still feelings for that person, even if they were abusive. I have been there before, I felt lonely and sad. I knew I was better off without him, but the absence of him in my life left an empty pit in my heart. It took a few months for my heart to heal, then the feeling of happiness was abundant.

Answer 5

i dotn think bored is the right word, more lonley... well thats how i would feel since your used to having that person with you all the time. but with new years coming up i would be excited for what next year holds

Answer 6

judging only from what you said he was abusive to her
and it makes do fifference when the break up occured.
maybe someone breaking up with him so close to
x-mas will be a much needed wake up call for him/.

Answer 7

An abusive bf?Relieved,satisfied,and free.Clear your mind before moving on.

Answer 8

a sense of lost and out of place...displaced ~~~neither happy nor bored. Time heals

Answer 9

relieved, happy, and maybe a bit lonely, but you did the right thing, just dont go back.

Answer 10

I think that whatever she feels is what she should feel, and her friends should respect it and support her through it.

These are her feelings. Don't grade them, be her friend.