I had a live in bf and after discovering he continued to look at prostitutes and personals from craigslist.com I asked him to move out. I miss him and hope I did the right thing. He also had a very bad addiction to porn. Please tell me that this was not normal and I did the right thing.
2007-12-26 00:13:52 · 11 answers · asked by twina246 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks guys for the encouragement. Eventhough I know I did the right thing I'm still heart broken. He said my snooping on him was not normal and he should have his own priacy so he had created a new user on the puter that I couldn't access then he forgot and left it up. Besides he did not have sex with me, did not say I love you, no kisses or hugs or affection so I was not getting anything from him.
2007-12-26 00:22:11 · update #1
First of all, you have great instincts! Refusing to be mistreated and emotionally manipulated by that misogyne is excellent: it shows that you are a strong, smart person.
Others may ridicule you for taking such a stand. However, most of them are hypocrites and liars. Only in a misogynistic society, is it considered "normal" to watch pornography. It teaches boys to view the female sex as toys that only exist for their prurient interest, essentially training them to be future misogynes. It also exploits the poor women in the movies, who often have already been sexually abused as children.
Rather than portraying sexual relations as a beautiful and intimate expression of love between a man and a woman in honorable marriage, pornography demeans and distorts the sexual act. Casual and perverted sex are portrayed as exciting and desirable. Personal gratification with little or no regard for the other person is highlighted.
The Bible exhorts men to 'love their wives as their own bodies' and to 'assign them honor,' not to view women as merely objects for sexual gratification. (Ephesians 5:28; 1 Peter 3:7) Is someone who regularly feeds on sexually explicit images of other people truly behaving decently? And is that person really showing honor and respect?
Instead of love, pornography cultivates self-centered, selfish desire. If he really loved you, your boyfriend would not do something that would hurt you. True love "does not behave indecently," wrote Paul. "[It] does not look for its own interests." (1 Corinthians 13:5).
The key is not to settle for just any guy. Wait for one who is truly worthy of your love and never give up!
I know you can do it!
2007-12-27 02:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rodolfo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catching his problem early is way better than having even more heartache as you fall more in love with the man. You can find someone more "normal". Men who are addicted to porn, tend to have sex addictions because they like the endophines they get from an orgasm. Which could of leaded to STD's and a lot of cheating on his side..
2007-12-26 08:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by djlkshfhsdfsfffe 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't stress the porn, it's really not that big of a deal. If he's looking up prostitutes though that could be a potential risk to you so I think you were right in your decision if that made you uncomfortable, especially craigslist.com hookers EEEEWWWWWW!
2007-12-26 08:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by Flavor Vortex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if the right question for you to ask is whether porn is right or wrong. I think the question for you is, are you ok with him looking at it. If it doesn't bother you at all and he is a great boyfriend, then theres no point dumping him. But if you are uncomfortable and unable to tolerate it, then hes not for you.
2007-12-26 08:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by psycgirl25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly natural to feel heartbroken after a breakup, even when you know it's for the best. Hang in there. Remember that you *will* get over it in time! Let yourself feel the pain but remind yourself that it will pass and you will be able to move on and be better off. And be patient with yourself in your recovery. Best wishes to you.
2007-12-26 08:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by Gemma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trying to change his behavior or you trying to change your beliefs would have been the wrong thing to do. You each have to know and love EVERYTHING about the other for long term relationships to work.
2007-12-26 08:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would of thought if that boy were in love with you he wouldnt of wanted to look at other woman.
you did what you thought were right.
2007-12-26 08:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by ILoveYouLewis [: 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. He was neglecting you so for what ever reason, he had to go.
2007-12-26 08:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by Gary B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing
2007-12-26 10:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by panamarandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not normal , your better off without him
2007-12-26 08:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋