should i sign up as a model so that he might want me more?

Question

i am in love with my good friend but he tells me he doesn't want to go that way. I think it's partly because I'm too just an ordinary girl and there isn't anything that will make him want me. his friends are dating singers (famous in town) and pageant winners.

I've been offered a modelling contract. But I wouldn't be signing up if it were not for him because the modelling assignments will take away a lot of time off my school work and I know I might be under a lot of stress. I don't like posing and all that, which I find very tiring and i get all nervous and get stomach cramps from all that stress.

Should I?

I know i'm pathetic but I just want to make myself a girl that my guy will be proud of.

Answer 1

don't do that,it's the wrong opposite way
if a guy doesn't want a girl for close relationship, that's it
it can't change, the harder you try the more you lose his attention.

Answer 2

I love how people think that if they "sign up" to be a model ( like there is this one list), that they will be working 100 hours a week. Even if you have an agent, work is very hard to find- even harder if you are ordinary, or however you put it.

The modeling agency is probably trying to rip you off by getting you to pay fees and then you won't make money. If a guy can say to you that be just wants to be friends, believe him; if you had ANY chance at all, he would at LEAST fake it.

Answer 3

I'm not sure that becoming a model will necessarily change his mind about not wanting to make a friendship into a romantic relationship. He might be more impressed should you become successful, but then again if you don't LIKE modeling,, you will be committing a lot to something and bringing others to rely on you, just so you can impress one guy. That's not a good enough reason for you to make that kind of sacrifice or for you to betray the trust that others may be placing in you, believing your becoming a model was your sincere desire and not just a ploy to impress a guy.

I know so many females who are overly impressed with the image of being a model that it really doesn't impress me so much. I used to interview hand models, neck and ear models, even ankle models (I handled the print advertising campaign for a large national jewelry chain). I even dated a foot model one time and she ended up being a TOTAL nut job, always looking for obvious ways to draw attention to her shoes and feet as if I was going to fall in love with them or her as a result of her model-quality feet (and no, I'm not a foot fettishist). So my conclusion was that many models can be superficial, vain, and even kookie. I wouldn't count on the model image necessarily bringing you a lot more attention or desirability in other's eyes...unless it is someone like Victoria's Secret or Hawaiian Tropic who is hiring you to model for them. Think more like Sears catalogs and packaged goods as this is where most of the business for models comes from.

Answer 4

My goodness, if you've been offered a modelling contract, you are obviously a very attractive young lady! If he can't see that just by looking at you, without some external status to verify it, what's the matter with him? You deserve better. Don't ever change your life to attract someone who won't love you as you are; hold out for the one who will! He's worth waiting for, whenever you may find him. Plus, you won't resent him for requiring your life to be something you don't like.

Answer 5

If you want to start modelling, you should do it for yourself, not for him. It might be the start of a great career in modelling, if you're the right type. But if you don't want it, it's your own choice.
Your good friend just wants to be a friend, so realize he doesn't want a relation. He isn't "your guy" .
Look for other guys, the world is full of guys, especially for someone like you. Be yourself. Someone will love you one day because you're you.

Answer 6

Listen, if you are interested in modeling and have an opportunity to do it, then, do it. But, do it for yourself, not because of some guy. That is the absolute worst reason to do anything in your life. Darn it girl, do it for you. If you are looking to be happy and successful in your life, never ever do anything for anyone else. The only person you should want to impress and set goals for is yourself. THAT alone is the key to being happy in your life.
Good luck.

Answer 7

No. Dont try and be sumthing ur not or dont so sumthing you dont want to do, just coz this guy might like you if u change. I think its kind of horrible when he said that u were ordinary and "there isnt anything that will make him want you". Sounds a lil bit of a prick. Keep trying and be urself. If he doesnt like you 4 you, then try and move on...

Answer 8

Don't do something you don't want to just because of a guy. Would you want someone to like you because of you being a model or because of your true self? If he doesn't like you, you can't do anything to change his mind. You might regret being a model afterwards. Still be friends with him and if he doesn't like you, move on.

Answer 9

if you did that it would be selling yourself out. if you feel that by being a model, the boy will desire you more or be proud to be called your bf, then there's many things wrong with that. you want to be a model to attract guys, the guy treats you as a trophy wife, your relationship is superficial based on your public persona rather than you yourself as a person...

Answer 10

Never do something you don't want to do just to get a guy. Then you are not being yourself. If he doesn't like you for who you are, find someone else. There are many fish in the sea. Don't get stuck on this one.