i feel like i am loosing everyone. My family hardly talks to me when i call them. My husband hardly talks to me anymore. We seem to fight more then anything with everything we are finding in our apartment, along with everything missing.
I gave him a gift for Christmas and he did not open it at all because the gift he got me magically is missing. He says he got it before we moved had it in a spot where i would not look and now he can not find it.
what can i do to cheer up --
how can i get everyone to come back to me
i feel so alone right now
2007-12-25 23:09:05 · 8 answers · asked by jamieloves31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no he does not do gambling ,drugs, or any of that.
2007-12-25 23:14:34 · update #1
You sound depressed and in need of some counseling. There you will be better able to figure out what's distancing your loved ones.
2007-12-25 23:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon, you sound like you're depressed. This time of year finds many people in depression. It's the shorter days, not enough sunlight. The days are getting longer again. I'm sorry you're having problems.
Maybe you can try counseling. Together, on your own. I lost a present I was going to give one of my daughters. I thought I put it in a place I wouldn't forget, and I forgot. This is why I don't usually buy presents until right around Christmas.
It could be that he honestly bought you something and really can't find it. Give him that. How would you feel if it happened the opposite. You bought him a gift, and can't find it?
As for feeling like everyone is moving away, I really thing counseling would help. Also taking a class, learning something new. Learn a new trait, knitting, crocheting, beading. Painting, something that gets you out meeting new people. Learning something new always energizes people.
Good Luck!
2007-12-25 23:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Keekers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You sound like you are living with depression. There is help. Seek it out. See your general physician first and they can give you a referral.
2. I think there is more to what is going on with your husband than what you are saying in this question. I've been there and done that and it's not easy to talk about. Perhaps consider joining a chat group that has to do with your specific situation and you can get advice in a somewhat anonymous way from people who have been there too.
3. You've got to stop the self-pity party. Nobody wants to chat with someone who is all "woe is me" about everything. There is always someone out there who has it worse than you. Even if you think you have nothing and nobody in your life, there's someone else out there who has it worse.
Always look inward first to see what you can change. Then, once you've changed everything, reassess the situation. If it's still the same, then look inward again to see what else you can change.
Remember the serenity prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
You can't change others, you can only change yourself. Whether it be your attitude, your way of life or your actions towards others, always start with yourself. You may have to take actions that you may not like...may even hate...if it means finally finding some peace within.
Pray continually and seek spiritual guidance and the answer will come to you.
Blessings!
2007-12-26 01:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are waking up to the reality of marriage. Perhaps if you a quite newly married that you are no longer the center of the universe. I think every woman goes through what you are going through right now. You get married to a guy and you have to change everything to fit into his world, and then he gets too busy to pay as much attention to you as he used to. Your parents are less and less in your life and you miss them. He does not remember to get you a gift on Christmas or on your birthday, or any other day. You have to pull yourself out of this and the only way to do it is get something to do with your time. Get a part time or a full time job, or go back to school and get more education, or take a class in something that you are interested in so that you can find people with like interests. Do NOT get pregnant and make the problem worse for yourself. The only other solution is to get away from him. Good luck and may your problems be solved in the coming year.
2007-12-25 23:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a fresh start... including a fresh husband. Clearly he didn't get you a gift, unless you actually saw it before the move.
Is there any reason why people want to distant themselves from you? Perhaps you need to make a change in your life and get out of your rut. Get out, go to the park, take a class in something that interests you, find new friends, or change careers. Change won't happen on it's own, however if it doesn't happen at all, you're not going to stop feeling alone.
2007-12-25 23:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you certainly have a black cloud over you dont you. I think you need to do something new so you have something different to talk about rather than how miserable everything is.
I am sure you can find some places to go and do with your family and husband. You cant change all of them so start with you. Do something nice for yourself and do something new.
2007-12-25 23:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds familiar. Is he using drugs, an alcoholic, or gambling? That is usually why things and money are missing. Your family may be avoiding you due to his problems.
2007-12-25 23:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have depression. Seek a doc. get some meds.
I take Zolf and it does wonders
2007-12-25 23:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋