I got a girlfriend and she's live in another country. I really want us to be together,but it's gonna be really difficult for the both of us because of differences in culture and religion.Sometimes,I really do doubt myself,"What if I can't make it through this relationship? Wouldn't it be just a matter of waste of time?" But do you guys think that I should continue on or just play along until she finally gives up? I really need you advices and support....
2007-12-25 22:42:20 · 10 answers · asked by Ferrero Rocher 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You and she should really have a long talk about this long distance relationship.
It's more than the miles between the two of you that could hinder the relationship.
It's the different cultures, the different religions, in addition to the miles.
You and she should talk before investing any more time into it. Then you can decide whether it's worth your time to hang in there.
2007-12-25 22:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think a long distance relationship is a waste of time, unless you both are totaly commited to it and serioiusly won't stray off with another. ......well now that i actually read your full question {answers} you really need to think are you ever gonna be together, or just communicating through emails, phone, letters. All those are fine but the real thing in person is much better and i just dont mean a few visits here or there. You're both diff religions and culture, you need to just not worry about what people think and be with her if you want to. I'm seeing this as a waste of time sorry to say.
2007-12-25 22:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance is hard no doubt. I am currently involved in a long distant relationship that only lives 2 hours away. But, with our work schedules, our homes, and winter weather, it makes it impossible to see each other as much as we would like.We are older than you also and both have had our jobs for 30 years, so it isn't like we can quit them and move with retirement so close.We talk on the phone daily, leave IMs a couple of times a day, and that helps get us through until the next visit. Maybe your girlfriend can look for a job or college near where you live. Start looking for the necessary information that she might need to make her move from one country to another one a smooth one. Good Luck!
2007-12-25 22:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are expecting the relationship to fail then there is no point in being in it to begin with regardless of distance. Its not a waste of time if you two really care about eachother. I've been in one for 4 years now, he lives in Germany and i live in US (Mexican-American). We have very different cultures and our religion is different as well but we have a lot of respect for eachothers differences so it works out fine. Its really hard to have a long distance relationship but it is possible for it to work. It takes a lot of communication, trust and honesty so if you two can do that then you are off to a good start. Webcams would be a good idea for you two since you are so far away they really help. Letters and carepackages are good two just to show that you two are thinking of eachother. People say that cheating is a big issue but remember that cheating happens to couples who are together all the time so its not about distance its about the people involved. Email me if you have more questions, good luck with your decision.
2007-12-26 02:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Isabella20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard!!! But it all depends only on you and you girl friend. If you truly love each other you will go through all the difficulties and will be together. I'm away from my husband right now too and I'm in another country. He is american and I'm russian. I met him in the states but I had to leave because my visa expired but he came to Russia for me 8 months later after I left and we got married here in Russia and had our son he is already a year old. And currently we wait for all the paper work to be completed so me and our son can move to US. My husband come to visit once in 3 months or so depending on his work schedule we talk on the phone for hours several times a day. Of course we had our difficulties and we've been through a lot but we are still together and love each other so much. And really soon we will get our visa and will be able to join my husband.
So if you trully want to be with your girl frien find out what it takes to bring her over to you. But remember it'll be hard ans will take quite a time. So if you are ready for all that go for it if not then not...... But I think that true love will go through all the difficulties and happiness will be your gift at the end.
But you should be absolutely sure in yourself and you grlfriend and be very determined. Good luck!!!
2007-12-25 23:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by aida b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are in love than anything is possible. I speak from experience. I lived in the states and met a man from north africa. We ended up falling in love and I moved there to be with him and get married. We are now expecting our 1st child together. We too come from different cultures and religions. He is Muslim, I am Christian, but we make it work through lots of communication.
You have to be completely sure of your feelings though. You are in different countries and no matter who moves where, it will be very hard. You will have to be prepared to be there for each other unconditionally.
2007-12-25 22:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a 4 year relationship, then we were seperated and the long distance thing ruined our relationship. It wasnt even a trust issue, its just that some people aren't strong enough to be without the one they love, it tears you apart when you miss someone that much but, you should at least give it a try so you'll never have to wonder "what if"
2007-12-25 23:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Bella Swan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy to keep a long distance relationship... but if you love her. It may be worth it, to take the risk of trying. I'm in a long relationship too, but he lives almost 2 hours away. So we only see each other on weekends...because I work and study... but in you case, it's much harder. You won't see each other that much, so you'll have to work extra hard in talking to each other. Thankfully, nowadays, there's the internet and things of the sort. But there has to be lots of trust between you. Good luck
2007-12-25 22:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by RGirll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it is usually a waste of good years in life. One or the other will get tired of just talking or waiting, and move on. Might as well get it over with right now. Better to be honest with her.
2007-12-25 22:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try to find another girl.
cause long relationships NEVER last.
trust me. been there,, done that.
but if you really love her. then it won't be a problem.
you both just hafta love each other and be loyal to your spouse.
2007-12-25 22:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋