A gentleman? What a load of crap.
A relationship is suppose to make life easier for both people financially by helping share the costs of life.
So why do so many of you women keep bringing back chivalry? We're equal! You have equal rights as we do. You pay also! I'm under the impression that many girls go into relationships just for the money. You work, I work! Stop depending on us!
2007-12-25 22:30:45 · 13 answers · asked by The MAN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it has been a culture... but think of this "why do you guys always think you're better than the ladies?" it maybe is the reason why it has been the culture for you guys to pay
2007-12-25 22:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by mooncoral 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
THE MAN makes an interesting point. im a big believer in chivalry, i always open a door for a lady or elderly person, i will always give up my seat so a lady or elderly person can be seated, if a lady drops something i will pick it up for her.
its not a front or an act its just how i was raised and as i shall raise my children both male and female, its all about respect.
the money thing
when its in the early stages of dating this is my rule. if i am asking some one, how about dinner ? i expect to pay. its my invite, like if i say come over to my place for dinner when u get there im not going to say " what you didnt bring the meal?" its just assumed i will provide it. likewise if i get invited i expect i will be paid for. i dont believe in keeping tabs on things like "well i paid last time" WHOEVER INVITES PAYS!. and in a proper relationship whats mine is yours and whats yours is mine so if you have money with you and i dont you pay its my money anyway, if i have money i pay its yours anyway. in our (my wife and i) all our pay goes into the one account and we use it to pay bills live and do all the other stuff, who cares if one earns 550 a week and one earns 750 i dont keep tabs.
EQUAL RIGHTS!!!!!!!!!!
this seems to be something women want when it suits them.
they want equality? well if thats the case why has a woman NEVER opened a door for me and said you first? it was chivalry once apon a time but now its just good manners.
guys will open a door for a woman or a man! and i believe that women are equal of course they are but they still expect all the percks and dont acknowledge them as privilage not a right!
2007-12-26 06:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let's go back abit in history. A few years back men and women were not equal. Most men had more money as women were not allowed in certain position. So it's a so called unspoken rule where the man pay for almost everything in a relationship, dinner, date or whatever
Today men and women are equal because women kept fighting against the system so on and so forth. So now even though both are equal many felt that the unspoken rule still stands. Many men happily obeyed the rule and the womens know this so, even though the women work and have money, they let men pay.
2007-12-26 06:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by skandrake2000 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When the world is truly equal for women, then you can ask this question. There is nothing equal about getting a lesser pay for the same job, which according to statistics is still happening the majority of the time.
If you want to be on an equal level, find someone that makes just as much money as you do for the same amount of work!!
2007-12-26 06:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing you, as one singular entity, can do about what women think. Women will probably always feel that is the resposibility of the male to pay for dinner and certain expenses. Not all women feel this way, but most do, therefore you will be hard pressed to find a woman who sees eye-to-eye with you on this.
I would suggest not making anymore Yahoo! Answers questions about this subject. This is the second one from you that's I've seen and now you just look like an obsessive loser who is just a cheap guy and doesn't care about the ladies he takes on dates.
Try to find a lady who shares your point of view rather than flaming the Internet about it. If you don't like having to pay for dinner, then stop going on dates with women. Just accept the fact that a worthwhile woman is not going to plunk down her money (that she spend on clothes and perfume and makeup so that she can look nice FOR YOU) for dinner with you.
Even if I liked you and I was billionare I wouldn't pay for your dinner... and trust me, I have bought my boyfriends dinner in the past as a treat. I just don't think that any woman has considered you to be worth the financial investment.
Once, I asked my boyfriend if he would let me pay for dinner. I wanted to do it as a treat for him, and he refused. He wouldn't let me do it! I asked him why and he said that he liked treating me to dinner, and he liked paying for it, because it made him feel good to do nice things for me, because he likes me to smile and be happy and he cared about me so he was more than happy to pay for dinner just so that I could be with him and share a nice meal with him.
When you stop seeing it as an obligation and start looking at it like a gift it might not be so unbearable to you.
2007-12-26 06:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberlyn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lots of girls have the old school mentality that the man should pay or he is not being gentlemenly. But i agree to a point. I think that he should offer to pay, but then again she should too. Part of being a gentlemen is being considerate and offering to treat is generous and considerate... Women should offer too and then you should pretend to fight about it... =)
2007-12-26 06:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by S W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think a gentleman think to do is opening the car door on the passengers side for the date. But the lady like thing to do is reach over and unlock the drivers side for the driver. (watch a bronx tale and you'll understand. It taught me how to be a lady and respect a good man)
2007-12-26 06:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by Ysabel 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I believe guys should do that to make the girl feel special. I just posted a question about how upset i felt on xmas eve because my crush who asked me out for dinner didn't offer to pay for dinner.I mean HE asked me out and if he cared or wanted to impress me he should have paid.
2007-12-26 06:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you talking about girls your dating or a wife?
If your dating, it shows you can support yourself and more. You want to show her that so she knows you can support her and kids later on.
If it's your wife, then yeah bills are sort of split.
If you really don't want girls taking your money, you should just be gay.
2007-12-26 06:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by Josh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%.
Tell her that you aren't a gentleman and you are broke. IF she sticks around, you have a keeper.
If she blows you off, sounds like she is a gold digger.
Nice guys finish last. No matter what they say, girls don't like nice guys. Treat her like dirt and she may even wax the pole.
2007-12-26 06:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋