and we broke up very suddenly and she went back to her ex. well than she found out she was prago. he dumped her I was really mean in the break up but want to know if its my kid she b prago with. we only knew each other for like 2 weeks the amount of time we went out. and we have not talked since i kinda think she may not want to tell me or maybe is scared of what i might say do to me being a toatal jerk +++++++some when my emotions are toyed, with and I act pretty sadistic. so how do I go about finding out details befor I ask her straight out. and I will ,but I must give her time. gotta be patcaint on these deals. she didnt want to talk to me aftar the break up and wouldnt respond to me so I guess im scared of the rejection. do women have a hard timebut giving the situation it would be hard for me to tell some one that too but what the heck am I gonna do. cause if it is mine I gotta marry her and not letr her get an abortion cuase its half mine
2007-12-25 22:10:08 · 14 answers · asked by whatup? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh My God.
1. I hope that the girl is not pregnant with your baby, because no child should have a father who cannot even spell the word "pregnant". I'm surprised you had the brainpower to even make it to this website. Please, please do yourself and your future offspring a favor and get an education. Go get your GED and get a job, because babies are very expensive.
2. Ask her. Put on your big boy pants and ask her if she is really pregnant and if the baby is yours.
3. In order to find out if the baby is yours you must wait until the child is born to do a paternity test. They will take the baby's blood to look at its DNA to see if it is a match to your DNA. Or if she has to have an amniocentesis they could also do a paternity test then as well, but is less likely they will need to perform an amniocentesis.
4. Just because she has your child does not mean that you must marry her. I feel sorry for anyone dumb enough to marry you. She would probably do better raising the child on her own.
5. You cannot stop her from getting an abortion, it doesn't matter whether or not you are the father or not, legally you have no power over her whatsoever, even if you are married, and she can do whatever she wants. If she doesn't want to have the baby she can go and get an abortion and you can't do anything to stop her.
For the future I would suggest not sleeping with someone after only knowing them for two weeks. I also suggest psychological counseling for your awful behavior towards women in general, and in relationships. Anyone who describes themselves as sadistic should not be around women or babies. I hope she isn't pregnant and I certainly hope the child is not yours.
2007-12-25 22:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the risk of sounding harsh, it would have been a good idea to consider the possible outcomes *before* having sex.
You were a jerk to someone with whom you experienced the ultimate act of intimacy... now you might want to marry her? And what if she refuses to marry you because you were a jerk?
Not *let* her get an abortion? I've got news for you; you can't stop her. This is why it is so important to keep it in your pants if your sex partner isn't on the same page as you when it comes to parenthood, marriage, etc. Casual sex without love and commitment --- and common values when it comes to abortion, adoption, parenthood, marriage, etc., etc. --- is a big risk, as you are now discovering. Take this event as a lesson for future relationships.
Just suck it up and ask her flat out. And get a paternity test for proof.
Be nice to her. Be contrite. Apologize for being a jerk. If it's your kid and you really want to make it work with this girl, show her how committed you are. Get down on your knees and beg if you must. Swallow your pride --- you were a jerk and now you gotta take responsibility for that.
Good luck. I wish you the best --- truly --- it is noble that you want to marry her and raise your baby. Kids need fathers and far too many are absent, so kudos to you for wanting to be there.
2007-12-25 23:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Gemma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL sorry buddy that is where you are wrong. You may think you have a say in weather or not she keeps the baby, however she can do what she wants regardless of what you want here to do if she chooses not to consider your feelings. I believe the law states that since the child is growing in the women's body she has sole decision making ability on weather or not she can carry a child to term or terminate a pregnancy don't quote me on that but I believe that is it may very from state to state. Just thought I would help clear that up for you.
2007-12-25 22:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I wouldn't risk it but that is just me. Amnio can be really risky, and can cause preterm labor along with a bunch of other problems. I am only 22 and they could not give me a 100% chance that everything would be great, and we have absolutely no defects in either side of our family. Just think, are you going to love that baby no matter what? Than whats the point. Good Luck!
2016-05-26 06:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should do something really nice and just tell her that your sorry (that way she'll be impressed that you would go thru all that just to apologize and she'll forgive you)and just talk to her and ask her if there's a posibility that it is yours and ask her to forgive you and see if she wants to still be friends that way you guys can try to get a lil closer and when the baby comes go get a dna test and if the baby is yours do the right thing like you said marry her or if dats not a option just get back together and try to make the best of it! good luck...also lol let her know that your willing to step up and take care of her and the baby and that your going to be there for her 100% and do everything you can to help her out.
2007-12-25 22:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a man right....!!!! Then do the only respectable thing a real man would do and just go up to her and find out if the child is yours... You should have covered your end anyway and you wouldn't be in this situation... OK, even if she don't want to talk with you, you have to figure out a way to break that code and get the answers you seek... It isn't going to be as easy as it was getting her into bed, but now you have to deal with the consequences.... Good luck...
2007-12-25 22:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by 6ninja 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to find out if the baby is yours or not, and tell her that you will give her your full support whether the two of you worked out or not. It is not the babies fault. Just show her some support and tell her that you'll be there for her and the baby no matter what. Thats the best that you can do for right now.
2007-12-25 22:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoo User 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did you find out? and you've got to put all your differences aside because is a new baby coming to this world. Just go there and tell her what u've heard and if it true take her back. But u've got to be sure, try some DNA test and all them medical thing only if she approves, don't rush if is urs no matter what it will grow to be urs. Just be gentle with her, she's got a lot on her mind right now.
2007-12-25 22:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by asuoonline 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better start getting more than just a little worried. No matter what happens, she will eventually get around to coming after you to claim your responsibility as a daddy. If it is yours, the longer she puts it off the more it is going to hurt financially when a judge rules against you and forces you to pay child support.
2007-12-25 22:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if there is any chance that the baby may be yours. do not tell her that you intend to marry her until you find out the DNA results. You do not want her to just say yes to get you to marry her. Do tell her that if the DNA results show that you are the father, you will help her with your child.
2007-12-25 22:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋