in marriage? and would they tell you if they had? Would you know if they were telling the truth? and would you condem them for it?
2007-12-25 22:05:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
nope! i never would have the courage plus i don't wanna know! i know they haven't cheated on each other!!
2007-12-25 22:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by MiZz RuBy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can ask but they won't tell you the truth. If they have deceived your father/mother and returned to the marriage without incident they will have no trouble deceiving you. Also think about the reason they have returned to the marriage and kept this a secret, it will probably be because they didn't want to hurt their partner so why encourage them to do so?
Unless you are talking about an affair that came out in the open and is worked through and dealt with. Then don't ask your parents, ask your aunties! But I doubt they would think it was in your interests to know so they probably wouldn't tell you either.
2007-12-25 22:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by dizzzybubble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't for two reasons.
#1. It's none of my business and wouldn't be my place to ask
#2. I've learned in the course of my life that it's best to let sleepin' dogs lie. Revisiting conflicts like that may stir up some very hurt feelings which could lead to restartng an old fight or it may start a new one. Life is not the movies, there aren't always happy endings to every conflict and you're not always going to be viewed as the hero or the peacemaker, in fact you may very well end up being viewed as the buttinski who wrecked the family.
2007-12-26 06:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you the sense to realize that that is not your business?
Boundaries in relationships are good things. Crossing lines unnecessarily is not a matter of courage but it does reflect a refusal to see other people as separate persons from yourself.
2007-12-26 02:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Windi Lea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i so know how your feeling - been through it my self. my dad had an affair, and the way i found out its was worse. it was the most traumatic experience in my life i dont talk abt it except a person i am close with and trust. what has happened has happened. you would need to talk to some really really close to let it out. take care
2016-05-26 06:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't fix problems if you don't find the answers. I have asked, I've been told. Families that work are families that have open communication, lies only cause problems. Avoiding what's happened or is happening is a road to disaster. I do not condemn anyone for their actions as long as they strive to correct their wrong doings.
2007-12-26 21:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And I guess you like to stir up hornets nests too! What, if any, is it your business? Wait till you are grown up with kids and see if you think it would be proper for your kids to ask a personal question like this. Leave it alone!
2007-12-25 23:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O M G! I can not believe this.
I caught my dad this afternoon making out in Fremont with a girl probably my age(25). She had just opened a nice box.
Mind you I got NADA THING for Christmas this year and my mom and sisters got nothing.
MY dad is 63.
I confronted him and he was in shock and grabbed his chest. I called my mom & took photos with my camera. He was fine when he left the hospital but since he got home...I dunno.
2007-12-25 22:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Georgia on my Mind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good could come from knowing? What good could come from telling them that you condemn them for it?
Whatever is good and right, seek those things. Some things are better left unknown.
2007-12-26 01:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your business. Besides, it could bring up some past hurtful memories that they have worked through and are trying to forget.
2007-12-25 22:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what your parents have done or ever did is there business,as long as they love you such a question should never be asked under any circumstances as it will only lead to bad things..trust me
2007-12-25 22:08:18 · answer #11 · answered by flakeygirrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋