Is expressing anger haram in Islam?

Question

i wanna know this that often all the bootled up anger leads to frustration & depression

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Answer 1

Assalaam A Alaikum Vanilla,

Anger is not good in any condition. Anger is lawful in cases of religious affair's when its honors are at stake.

Here I have found complete article on it hope it will help you

WHAT IS ANGER?

Anger is a secret weapon of man towards of evils but sometimes its result’s in the destruction of many noble qualities.

It snatches away the wisdom of man and thus he becomes a brute beast devoid of any sense.

Anger is a temptation of shaytaan and deception of shaytaan

Anger is the root of all evils.

Anger is a spark of fire that are always bursting.

Anger is a very bad condition that weakens the person Iman (FAITH)

The meaning of anger is a rage fierce, displeasure, passion excited by a sense of wrong , physical pain, inflammation, mad, hot tempered, choleric, inflamed, A violent passion excited by real or supposed injury.

Anger is the strong feeling caused by extreme displeasure.
Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure and hostility.

ANGER AND WRATH.

When someone is angry, mad, and reaches a state of having wrath against any person, he should make a special Du'a. In doing so he will cool down .

It is reported that the Messenger of Allah Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said (narrated by Sulaiman Ibn Sard and reported by Bukhari and Muslim ) that while Sulaiman was with the Prophet (PBUH), two persons were blaming each other. The face of one became red and his jugular veins swelled. the Prophet (PBUH) said. I know a statement if he or she say's it then the person with anger will cool down.
The person with anger should say : "I SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH FROM SATAN THE OUTCAST."

IS ANGER LAWFUL OR NOT ?

Anger is lawful in cases of religious affair's when its honors are at stake. It is an effective preventive measure to safeguard the dignity of man. A person who has no anger is called a coward because he has got no true faith in Allah. The person fears the creation and not the creator. This doesn't give the right for youngsters to become angry with parents when they don't get what they want.

If a person doesn't practice Islam, a person disobeys the command of Allah or a person doesn't listen to his parents then to become angry with such a person can be lawful. But the person shouldn't become too angry because in Islam extreme anger is unlawful because it creates opposition and bitterness.

It is undesirable for a pious man to lose his temper, due to jokes, frivolous talks, quarrels, criticism and greed for wealth.
The real strength of a man lies in controlling his wrath. i.e. Anger.

It is reported in a Hadith on the authority of Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) that the messenger of Allah (Mohammed (PBUH) Peace and blessing of Allah be upon him said :

"The man is not a good wrestler; the strong man is in fact the person who controls himself at the time of anger."
the above Hadith is stated in Bukhari.

Anger is unlawful because it destroys the faith of a man. Bah bin hakim (Allah be please with him) Reported that the messenger of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) . Said: Verily anger spoil's faith just as aloes spoils honey . It is stated in Bukhari.:

" A person should be cautious from being angry."

It has been narrated by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him) That Allah's Messenger Muhammad (PBUH) Said:

“ The strong is not the one who over comes the people by his strength”
"But the strong is the one who controls him while in anger."
In another narration by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him man said to the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Advise me.

The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). Said : " Do not become angry “

The man asked the same question again and again and the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Replied by in case by saying:

“ Do not become angry and furious”

By looking from the advise given by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) we shouldn't become anger and furious. If we remember the advise and saying of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)then the person becoming angry will control his anger.

But the youngster today have forgotten the teaching of our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) there become angry and furious for small reason like if their parent tell them to do something which their donut like there say to the parent in anger that I donut what to do it like cleaning the house or the toilet. So the best person is one who controls him self in anger.

Hadrat Anas: (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the messenger of Allah ( Muhammad(PBUH) said:
Who so takes up his tongue as treasure Allah will keep his secrets concealed and who so restrains his anger Allah will with hold his punishment on the resurrection day and who so ascribes excuse to Allah will accept his excuse.

So by reading this we should refrain from becoming anger.

Because anger destroys one faith. The person in anger forgets where he is and says anything which he regrets after.

Today people are becoming angry because of the lifestyle and the society we live in. When a person is under stress he or she tends to become angry because the jobs not done or their children donut listen to them. There become angry and the anger is taken out on the child.

When a person becomes angry to their parent then that mean he's angry with Allah Paradise lies between your parent . If you treat them and help them then Allah will reward you in this world and the hereafter.

But if you displeased your parent this means you are displeasing Allah then the person will be deprived from Allah's mercy. and the person will get punish in the hereafter.

The aim and objective of reading this is to practice what has been written and refine from becoming angry. To become angry for Islamic reason is permissible but it shouldn't cause anyone harm.

Women should control their anger. because anger effects everyone. So anger is lawful for islamic reason and if ones hourner is at risk's.Other then this Anger is not permissible.


AT THE TIME OF ANGER

As humans beings, we have our our emotions. We react in either positive or negative emotions. Sometimes we may lose our logic and we cannot control our emotions. Hence, we behave in a strange way.

For those who lose control of their emotions and react negatively they have to be advised in advance what to do in such a situation. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) gave us a prescription that makes us control our negative behavior.

By using it, we will not show our anger and madness . Our blood pressure will stay normal. All what it takes is that a person has to read the following statement at the time of anger and wrath.:

" I SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH FROM THE OUTCAST SHAITAN "

( THE WORD YOU HAVE TO READ IS IN ARABIC AND IT IS TAW'WAZ.)

From a personal experience, dealing with children fighting one another and with family counselling, this prescription has worked beautifully. I enencourage that we recite it loudly for at least three times at the time of anger .

Allah will send special angels to protect us from the mischievous Shaitan. Remember what Allah said in Surah Fussilat

( This surah is in the 24th parah Ayat 36 in the holy Qur'ran ) the meaning is below ( Ayah 36):

" AND IF AN EVIL WHISPER FROM SHAITAN ( SATAN) TRIES TO TURN YOU AWAY ( OH MUHAMMAD(PBUH) ( FROM DOING GOOD ), THEN SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH. VERILY, HE IS THE ALL-HEARER, THE ALL- KNOWER "
So the best person is one who controls him self in anger.
When a person is angry he should make wudu (Ablution ) ) and then he should recite the verses from the Holy Qur'ran the anger should have gone away.

The person should prey Taw'waz (aeo zo billahi mnashayta nirazam) and then prey ( Ayatul kursi) which is in the Holy Qur'ran . ( 3rd para 2nd ruku )

Every person male or female should try to recite the Holy Qur'ran everyday because by reciting the Holy Qur'ran it takes away the anger and the heart will become clean.
Anger effects everyone it doesn't matter if the person is young, old, male, and female. So one should try to control one’s anger. There is a great reward given to the person who controls his anger.

May Allah give eveyone the abilty to practices upon the Qur'ran and the way shown by our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).

SAYING OF PROPHET MUHAMMAD (PBUH) ABOUT ANGER.

Allah's Messenger (PBUH)Said a Muslim is never allowed to stay angry with his Muslim brother over three day's , because he who does that, then dies will go to hell ( FIRE ) . ( This is reported by Abu Dawood ) (Sahih Al - Jami ) ( page 7609).

The messenger of Allah (SWT) Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) says about anger:
“ Anger is the effect of shaytaan and shaytaan was created from fire. And water extinguishes fire."

It is narrated in Bukhari that two people were arguing in the presence of Rasulullah (PBUH) One of the two became so angry that his face went red and his veins swelled. Rasulullah (PBUH) Lifted his face towards that person and said to him that I know a sentence if you were to say it your anger will go away. The sentence is ( taw’wz ). The translation is as follows:

“ I SEEK ALLAH'S PROTECTION FROM THE CURSED DEVIL"

THE VIRTUES OF CONTROLLING ONES ANGER.

There are many virtues in Ahadeeth recarding a person who controls his anger. In Tabraani . ( A book of Hadeeth ). It is narrated that Rasulullah (SAW) Said :

Who ever controls there temper Allah will take away punishment from him and who so ever safe guard's his tongue Allah will conceal his sins.

In another Hadeeth which is narrated in (Tirmizi and Abu Dawood): Rasulullah(SAW) Who ever controls their temper in a state that if he wanted he could have took revenge. Then On the day of judgement Allah will call him in front of everyone and will give him the choice of picking the Hoor of his choice.

So by controlling your anger Allah will give the choice of picking any Hoor from Paradise (Jannat). But today youngsters have forgotten the world hear after and there are to indulge in this world that we have forgotten the command of Allah and the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) so from now on we should change our lifestyle. And we should live our life according to the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). because success in this world and the hereafter lies in the command of Allah and the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad.(PBUH). May Allah gives us the ability to practice upon this ( Aamin ).

THE REMEDY FOR ANGER SHOWN BY OUR PROPHET MUHAMMAD (PBUH)
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The remedy for anger is that when a person who is angry should control his anger . In the Ahadith there are three way's shown to control ones Anger.

1). is to say Ta'awwuz

2). is to doWudu (Abulution ) or drink water.

3). is to lie down on the floor

So when a person becomes angry he should perform ablution. Then the person should lie down because when a person is lying he becomes humble because this is the quality of the earth due to it being low and not bursting. This is the opposite to fire which is the origin of shaytaan which results to pride.

When a person is lying down he is far from revenge and retaliation then a person who is sitting is further then the one who is standing.

In reality anger is a spark of fire and its flames are always bursting. The cure is that you extinguish

The fire with water so that the evilness doesn't spread. i.e. by water it means to make wudu(Ablution).

The person who is angry should make wudu.then the person should recite the verses from the Holy Qur'ran which is (AYAH KURSI ) which is in the (3rd para, 2nd ruku). by reciting the Holy Qur'ran the person with anger it will cool him down because Anger is from shaytaan.

The person who is angry should be left alone to cool down and the above remedy should be practice's.The anger should go away.

In the state of anger one should use the above mentioned remedy so that he doesn't regret later.

CONCLUSION

Today I have written about anger and if anger is permissible or not. Anger is only permissible for Islamic reason other then that anger is not permissible. Anger effects everyone weather Young old male or female.Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) has shown us a way to control ones anger so when someone is angry he should follow the three way's shown in the Hadith.

The three way's shown in the ahaadith to control you temper and anger.is the following.:

NUMBER ONE : (1) To say ta'awuz.

NUMBER TWO : (2) To do wudu or drink water.

NUMBER THREE : (3) To lie down on the floor.

The above is the remedy for anger. Its like a person is ill he takes medicine to get better . Like this when a person is angry he or she should take the medicine givin by our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) . May Allah give every person the ability to practice's upon this . ( Aamin).

Whosoever adopts these three qualities in his life Allah will shower his mercy upon him .

1) Who thanks Allah for all his favour's.
2) When he has the strength to forgive he forgives.
3) when he gets Angry he stay's quite and calms down.

So by looking at the Hadith's mention above we could see that the effect of being anger is a bad thing the person is deprived of many benefits in this world and the hear after
Just by controlling your anger Allah will give the person the pleasure of picking a hoor from Jannat. (Paradise)

Anger is a very bad condition it destroy the person Iman (FAITH)

Anger is a cause of temptation and deception of shaytaan so every person should not show Anger to anyone.

There's more harm in becoming angry and not controlling the anger.

A person control his anger Allah will give him a choice of any Hoor from Jannet (paradise).

This is the reward given by Allah to the person who control his anger so may Allah give everyone the ability to control our anger and save us from this satanic effects.

May Allah forgive our sin’s and give everyone the ability to practice Islam and the straight path

The path shown by our Holy Prophet Muhammad.(PBUH)

Answer 2

Is music haram or not? This is a HUGE controversial topic that is much debated. As I am not an Islamic scholor, I will not declare that music is haram, or music is not haram. I will just tell you my opinion about music. I try to avoid music as much as I can, and I always listen to nasheeds or quran if I ever get the urge. At times, I cannot avoid music such as when you are in a store and they are playing it, those are the times that one has no control over. But then there are times like right now, when I normally I would be playing the radio on, I have a quran recitation on. Anyway this is a huge topic and unless you talk to an Islamic scholor or sheik you will not get a direct answer.

Answer 3

expressing anger haram islam

Answer 4

It is a verY difficult task to control one's anger (I myself struggle with it everyday.) It is not haram to be angry but Rasulullah (saw) has a few hadiths stating that the best person is the one who can control his anger. If you are expressing your anger in ways that lead to you disrespecting your parents or elders, hurting your friends, cursing a lot, causing physical harm to others, etc. then you should be aware of the fact that these consequences of your anger are sinful and should be avoided. You can just type "anger haram in Islam" in google and many websites will come up that have concrete references (Surahs in the Qur'an) about anger in Islam according to the Qur'an and the Rasul (saw).

Bottled up anger leads to letting your anger out in ways that could be potentially harmful to you or those around you. Try to understand the source of your anger and try to avoid it. If this is impossible, then try to get into some sports, an activity, or a hobby that will help you let out some of this anger that you will have bottled up!

And remember that there will always be things that will make us angry because we are living in this crazy world, but know that you must pick and choose your battles!

Answer 5

in islam, it is not just halal(permitted) or haram (forbiden), but there is Makroh(better not to be done) and Mobah (better to be done). i think anger is Makroh (this is my own opinion. i may be right or wrong. this needs a confirmation from someone who knows better than me i.e. Imam)

the following are ayat from Quran that mentioned anger followed by an aya from Quran that shows the solution:

1- "Those who spend [in Allah's Cause - deeds of charity, alms, etc.] in prosperity and in adversity, who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allah loves Al-Muhsinun (the good­doers)." Quran 3:134

2- "And those who avoid the greater sins, and Al-Fawahish (illegal sexual intercourse, etc.), and when they are angry, they forgive " Quran 42:37

our prophet Muhammad (PBUH) told us: do you know who is the strong? the strong is not the one who can beat others, but is the one who can resist his anger.(i hope my translation is showing the exact meaning)

the solution:
"The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allah ordered the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly), then verily! he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend. " Quran 41:34

the above solution is very obvious. i can't say something better except, its a soultion that i've seen its effect practically

Answer 6

This is from my logical point of view. Anger is not haram in Islam. Because, if you do so, then crying or laughing should be haram too. Afterall, these are feelings of different nature. If feeling sad is not haram, then anger is not haram just not encouraged in Islam because it can leads to harmfulness.

Answer 7

It is better to forgive than to hold your anger. Allah commands: “… They should rather pardon and overlook. Would you not love Allah to forgive you? Allah is Ever-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Qur’an, 24:22)

A few more: "

The repayment of a bad action is one equivalent to it. But if someone pardons and puts things right, his reward is with Allah… (Qur’an, 42:40)

…. But if you pardon and exonerate and forgive, Allah is Ever-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Qur’an, 64: 14)

Answer 8

If it was Haram , Hazrate Omer (Radyallahu Anhu) wouldn't express it all the time. He was very affraid of Allah

Answer 9

anger is the self emotion within us that over rules our own frame of thought and we let make a fool out of use for the moment.

Answer 10

Those, who spend in prosperity and adversity, and those who suppress anger, and pardon men; and Allah loves those who do good;

And that He may remove the anger of their hearts. And Allah turns with mercy to whomsoever He pleases. And Allah is All-Knowing, Wise.

Holy Quran

As for those who control themselves in rage, desire, fear, and lust, Allah will prevent Hell from burning their bodies. The firmest handle of faith is to love, hate, give, and deprive-all for Allah's sake.

The prophet of Allah peace and blessing be upon him use to say:

"Whoever suppresses his anger, when he has in his power to show it, God will give him a great reward."

"He is not strong and powerful, who throws people down, but he is strong who withholds himself from anger."

Answer 11

i would say anger is haraam you should be at peace and i understand that there are things that are very frustrating and things that hurt ones soul deeply but everything can be handeled peacefully

so calm and seek help from allah(swt)