I was just told this story by a friend of mine. She started going out with this new guy. They were at his home on a date, watching a movie, and she was going to sleep over. Like around midnight or so, his ex calls him, because she claims she is stranded and has no way of getting home, or where to go for the night. She claims she fell asleep in the library and woke up after all the public transportation has closed. She claims she has no money for a cab to get home. So the guy feels bad and wants to help, basically ends the date with his new girlfriend, and goes and picks his ex up at the location where she is "stranded". The girlfriend got really mad a him because that is disrespect for him to be breaking up their date to go and rescue someone who is no longer in his life. So, she gave him the ultimatum that if he dont take her with him to go and pick up this girl, she was going to leave him. So they went and picked up the ex, and he gave her money for a hotel. Is this guy an idiot?
2007-12-25 21:22:37 · 9 answers · asked by Yahoo User 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not an idiot.
if had've refused to let the new gf go, then he'd be an idiot.
He didn't. He took her. She probably didn't have to give him an ultimatum, she shouldve just said "hey i'll go along if that's ok".
Personally, i think he sounds like a guy that will treat your friend nice.
2007-12-25 21:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by sean24seven 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, and so is the girlfriend for giving an ultimatum because if she didn't happen to be there while the ex called, he would've let the ex come over. The girlfriend should have broke up with him. It makes it even worse that he gave the ex money. He should've told her not to call him anymore. It shows he still loves or cares for the ex especially if he was gonna end the date with his girlfriend.
2007-12-26 05:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by kel5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not every ex has evil intentions. I've called on my ex husband to help me out numerous times, without any ulterior motives, and he's always been there for me. I think this guy is a caring man and his new girlfriend is feeling insecure. She thinks the ex is plotting to get her boyfriend back. Maybe she is, maybe not - I don't know her so I can't comment. But this guy is not an idiot in my opinion, just a big soft marshmallow. I'm sure he'd know his ex enough to know if she was playing games or not.
2007-12-26 05:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I think he's nice for trying to help the ex, even though I understand the current girlfriends reason for getting mad. I'd be pissed. but at least he took her with him in the car so she could see that nothing was going to happen. or so she could prevent anything from happening
2007-12-26 05:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ysabel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would call that person a friend. I would love to have someone like that in my life. Let me have his number, in case I get in a bad situation. He took her with him, so he had nothing to hide.
2007-12-26 05:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its okay to give the ride especially if she went with him. but giving money is going too far. that's his ex for a reason and that means when they cut off the relationship they cut off all ties. financial, emotional, crisis support. i wouldnt have been mad if my boyfriend's ex called and she needed a ride badly and i went with them but the money is just going too far. especially since he and i live together. whatever money we have is "ours" and im not about to let our money go to helping someone who was that irresponsible. why was she looking for a place to sleep anyways? was she homeless?
2007-12-26 05:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by MzDeeDeeL!C!Ou$ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Someone was in need, asked for help, so he wanted to help?
His new gf should stop being so insecure and be grateful she is with a guy who would go out of his way to help someone in need.
2007-12-26 05:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think the guy should leave the new girlfriend for being a b*tch.
2007-12-26 05:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by Josh 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh yeah the guys an idiot for trying to help someone. real dumbass!!!
2007-12-26 05:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by je suis mieux!!! 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋