I'm 20 and usually get mistaken for being anywhere from 16 to18, and sometimes even younger. I even got stopped at a bar once, gosh! Maybe it isn't so much of a good thing. lol.
And I always find myself opening up to anyone too, even though I'm really shy and quiet. And then I usually end up getting hurt by whatever they say or think, but that's just being sensitive. I guess I'm just a late bloomer, and still trying to find out who I am.. -_-
What do you think of a guy who's like that?
Here's a pic..
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2007-12-25 21:04:22 · 12 answers · asked by Snowypup 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Don't worry, as you get older, you will be so happy that you look older than you are. I got carded for a lighter on my 30th birthday, and let me tell you it feels good. As for being hurt by people's thoughts or words, just remember that it just might be them that has the problem. If you appear younger than you are, some ignorant folk might just denounce anything out of your mouth because of your youthful appearance, and thinking you lack experience, by judging you on your looks. Maybe if you are shy, use that to your advantage. People that don't talk much are sometimes viewed as thinkers and of higher intelligence, simply because, if they aren't talking, they must be thinking about something, right? And choose your words and when you use them carefully, and possibly wait for the right moment to speak, where you will be acknoledged and heard, and respected. Also the way you speak and tone of voice can help dramatically. In speech class you learn to have "command" of the floor. In fact, that might be a good idea, to take a speech class or public speaking class at a local community college.
2007-12-25 21:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you look young like most people your age i havent' seen anyone look 20 when they are 20 i mean most are either looking way older or way younger!
nothing wrong with it
infact most places if you don't look 30 you'll get carded and looked down up on..
if you focus on this your life will be a wreak..
there are other things to focus on! like what can you do to help someone else!
just a thought!
2007-12-26 01:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You look young. Great. Enjoy it while it lasts! Not everyone can say that. I'm older and have actually been "carded" a few times myself, even with my gray hair! All I say is Thanks for the compliment. It usually embarrasses the asker enough. Don't worry about it too much.
2007-12-26 01:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate; I used to get carded until I was about 30! Just keep your I.D. handy, and go for mature-looking styles.
As to opening up too freely - that's something that you WILL have to control with maturity and self-discipline.
2007-12-25 21:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dances with Unicorns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we don't need to see your pick
you'll appreciate looking younger when you hit 30 or so, just give it time (i got stopped in my mid thirties from buying cigs because i din't look 18???--so hubby had to go in and buy his own cigs LOL)
just be patient with yourself, i'm the same way, if i feel comfortable with someone, or i'm trying to make friends, i will run off at the mouth, and say stuff i shouldn't. and they always come back with something to hurt.
so my suggestion, just think really careful about what u want the other person to know about you. if they mean alot to you, then it's okay to open up and take chances.
good luck
2007-12-25 21:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hey its life we all get picked on one or more time in our life's.I looked Young for a long time and still look young. You need to stop letting your self open up to be vonerable so much too it sounds like. You look like a average person to me. hell you should see my ugly butt. I just wouldn't try so hard to fit in.Be your self it pays and takes you places.
And take it from cough it she did it earlier but i was nice and blew it off
2007-12-25 21:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 28 and have still been carded for cigs. It's not a big deal and it will be a blessing when you get older, trust me.
2007-12-26 02:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by vix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it as a compliment...... i always used to be taken as 10 or more years younger than i am.... at 34 years old i was asked for id at walmart to buy an r rated movie!!!
2007-12-26 00:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Rhonda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your looks cannot be changed--so stop obsessing about it. If you going on and on is a problem, then stop and become a listener instead of talking and talking and boring people They probably say stuff because you go on and on and that can be annoying---you are OK--don't worry--relax and you will be fine.
2007-12-25 21:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah you look young, but your cute. just find a few good friends & save your opening up 4 them,people are judgemental.
2007-12-25 21:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋