I have a 3 year old and have lived in this street now for 8 months...theres a woman over the road who has a 4 year old girl..they are a lovely family...we have spoken in the street and although my 3 year old is a bit shy, she and the other child seem to like each other....problem is I am also a little bit shy and so is the other girls Mother!
We exchanged christmas cards...just popped them through the letterbox...but I would really like to get to a place where the kids can play with each other...in their gardens obviously they are too little to play in the street.
How do I approach this? My little girl starts nursery in January but it is a different one to the neighbour....they could always play together in the afternoon or something....should I just ask the neighbour and her little girl round for coffee? Help me to get the nerve up to do it! I know it is silly but I feel so shy in this sort of situation!
2007-12-25 21:01:44 · 7 answers · asked by Daisyhill 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
grow up go talk to her just say lets have cffe or bring beer
2007-12-25 21:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by whatup? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you get up enough courage go round there one morning and ask her over for coffee. Just say your daughter is a bit bored and keeps bugging you and you thought it would be nice for them to have a play while you two chat.
Or wait until you see her in the street again and do it impromptu style. If she can't do it right away then say how about tomorrow or the next day. Make a 'date' so its not left up in the air as to when you will actually get together.
I lived next door to a lovely lady for months before we finally had coffee together. I moved from there last year but we are still the best of friends and see each other at least once a week for coffee! Our kids love seeing each other and I babysit for her all the time and does for me.
It just takes the once to get the courage up and then you'll be fine! Don't be shy, she is probably thinking the same thing as you!
good luck
2007-12-26 05:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
awww... don't have to be so shy about this situation, there's nothing wrong to want to get to know the neighbors and have the intention for your kids to play with theirs. Its a healthy thing actually. I am sure the woman also want to get to know you.
remember Bree from desperate housewives? how she always break the ice by baking well come cookies for the new neighbors, you can do that too.
Inviting them for coffee is also a terrific idea.
I'm also shy when meeting new people, but if they are nice and friendly its worth the try!
Cheer up and happy holidays to you and you daughter!
2007-12-26 05:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nailhead_pixie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, most of us are really shy deep down, and we're waiting for someone else to ask... So next time you see her just mention it in passing, like 'How about a cuppa tea tomorrow if you're not too busy'... What's the worst she can do? Say no? And to be honest, she's not likely to if her child is looking for a playmate too...
Good luck, you have the courage so go for it!
2007-12-26 09:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what I'm going to say is a bit cliche but rly just be honest...I think the other mother will like the idea as long as ur not abrupt just approach her like usual, casually and finally work in the proposal of the two having play dates possibly in the future once everyone has reached that zone of comfort...I think if u explain the situation and your good intentions, then both will be received..if she is as u say then she should at the very least be kool about it and you will be relieved.
2007-12-26 05:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by smurf_mackenze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have a little garden party for New Years and invite her over for that?
2007-12-26 05:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by Dee L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her how her christmas was and what they gave their daughter and would they like to come to dinner, etc.
2007-12-26 07:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋