O.K. I realize that this is probably normal; however, it has never happened to me. I have an attraction to my GYN. He is a little younger than me, and not my type (I like the rugged, athletic and bad boy type and usually not that educated). When he walked into the room, I became nervous, also I felt like I knew him instantly. I know a little about transference, but does this fit. Personally, I haven't been that nice to him, but he keeps trying to win my trust (long story). Then, under general anthesia (routine procedure), I told him I love him-his intern told me (and why did he have tell me this?) I don't really remember this, only someone calling me by my first name and then people laughing saying wow (probably imagination-drugs an all). I know I should get another doctor, but I have follow up appointment. I am embarrassed and understand this can go no where good. I just can't get him out of my head. Can anyone help me understand this? What should I do?
2007-12-25 19:43:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
BTW, he has never stepped out of line, always been professional, but acts in a way that he knows I am attracted to him. This is also embarrassing. Well, now of course he knows-I said I love you. If I ask for another doctor at this place, I will need to give a reason as to if he did something wrong. He didn't. I do respect his maturity and I do think he is a good doctor and I don't to do anything to hurt his career. Advice on how to handle all of this professionally....please.
2007-12-25 19:46:10 · update #1
I had a horrible crush on an ER doctor once, and a therapist, and another MD. Very common and not at all in reality. Of course, a great doctor is very sociable, and that's what we like. Maybe "liking" him is better than thinking of the clinical aspect of the visit. Do NOT go anywhere with this -- he will have to transfer you to another doctor, and not so he can invite you on a date!
2007-12-25 19:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anna P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. so, I don't think you need to change doctors. I think you can just be kind of matter of fact about things and as long as he is cool with it, why switch since you like him as a doctor. I have the same thing going on but thank god I didn't go under anesthesia in front of him or I probably would have said the same thing or worse. have you seen him since that incident. if not, you might say something like, "didn't mean to blurt that out..sorry for any awkwardness I may have caused. would like to continue to receive care with you," or something. I don't know if that's a good idea but it might help to mention it casually to clear the air. he probably has a lot of women falling for him. in a way it's no big deal. anyway, those are my thoughts but if you are really uncomfortable you could consider switching doctors. I know, it sucks.
2016-02-18 14:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read all the things you wrote. Just the first few lines. YES it is very normal and common to fall for a male in a position of authority. It could be a doctor, teacher, preacher etc... It happens to many of us.
2007-12-25 19:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure is natural in this time and day why not. my opion?
2007-12-25 19:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋