My friends and I went to see the new Will Smith movie tonight and we had to get our money back and leave (along with a whole bunch of other people) because there was a group of like 5 black kids that were making too much noise.
The thing is - the manager refused to go up and tell the kids to be quiet or leave... he was utterly terrified of having a confrontation with them.
If the noisey kids had been white, he wouldn't have hesitated and they would have quieted down right away.
I told them to shut up (and they didn't) but it should have been the manager.
What makes someone so scared of black people that they won't even try to do their job whereas black folks are involved?
2007-12-25 18:41:44 · 18 answers · asked by rabble rouser 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
a couple more notes - me and 2 of my friends are white and 1 black friend was with us... he was the first to get frustrated and want to leave.
Secondly, we were the 3rd group to complain about the kids... the manager saw how rowdy they were - and the color of their skin.
2007-12-25 19:02:10 · update #1
Because as much as we dont wanna admit it...we are racist and we see the news and more criminals are black so we dont wanna get our *** beat
2007-12-25 18:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Heidi Anne 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Quite frankly, I'm with the manager. Lots of black kids in that situation are well aware that they carry some immunity around because of their skin color, and they take advantage of it. The manager probably knows all too well that a group of black kids who get corrected are a lot more likely to cry foul than an equivalent group of white kids. It's not pretty, but it's a fact. There's some social "catching-up" to do within the black community, and the reasons are numerous.
This is NOT to say that I think black people (or any other color) are inherently bad, stupid, or anything else negative, because that is definitely NOT what I believe; it's simply a segment of our society that has some growing to do in some respects (maybe the subject of a dissertation or three???), and that takes time.
2007-12-26 04:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by Dances with Unicorns 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I guess it's because if they said anything to them they would have been accused of racism. Many years ago I took my kids to a public swimming pool. My youngest son was running and I told him to stop. Right afterwards the lifeguard warned him (and rightfully so) A little while later he ran again and before I could say anything the lifeguard made him sit out for about 5 minutes. No biggie in my eyes. But there were several black children and parents rough housing, running and jumping off the side of the pool onto each other and no one said a word. I'm not racist but fair is fair and right is right. If you want to say something to a 5 year old white boy why not say something to the older larger group of black kids and adults. We see it all the time. Racism is brought up everywhere when it's obvious that is not the case.
2007-12-26 02:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by hoppykit 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that's an awesome question to ask ...
Blacks are minority in this nation, they have rights like anybody else, but when they get confronted in some situation, sometimes they play the racist card. They think they are being confronted because of thier color, and that struck them as discriminative.
The manager must have had plenty of these situations happening before, or he got in quarrels with the same kids in the past that's why they prefered to avoid them !!!
My point of view is clear as day when it comes to this issue. Blacks sometimes misbehave and act very rude, so people tend not to like them or rather dispise them NOT because of thier color, but just because of thier conduct.
The manager is not a chicken, he just doesn't wanna cause a stir inside the theatre, knowing that his remarks to them might reproduce the opposite and they become more loud.
2007-12-26 14:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Duda .. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did the manager know the kids were black, did you tell him? If so, why? That aside, fear of being perceived as a racist is what prevented the manager from telling those punks to shut the fluck up. That is assuming that the manager would have reacted differently with white punks. Maybe the manager is just afraid of youths of all races. Or maybe it's because youths represent close to 80% of theater revenue and the manager knows which side his bread is buttered on.
2007-12-26 02:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Hubris252 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi. I think it's a matter of white folks never being very confident about how to address anyone 'black'. We have been made scared to confront them- accusations of racism. Also, there are many black who KNOW this fact about the white, and manipulate it to their advantage.
When I worked in a movie theatre, there was a similar situation for me to deal with. I just told them to be quiet-they are disturbing all the other paying customers. I was called something racial and accused of racism!
My answer to them-(and your manager's answer should have been this also); "I don't care what you look like-you brought that up, not me-but if you are going to sit in this room with others who also paid, you are going to be respectfull of their right to watch, too. I'm doing my job by keeping this theatre a decent place to watch a movie without interuptions".
2007-12-26 06:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by matenmoe 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He has no people skills. He might also have grown up prissy and not like to make things rough. I wouldn't hesitate to approach guys like that. Just tell them to be quiet, and if that doesn't work, tell them to leave, and if they won't, call the police. Some theaters like Goodrich hire big security guys in yellow jackets called 'Guest Services', whom I presume handle escorting these thugs out. I guess it got so bad that was necessary.
2007-12-26 12:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you seem to be emphasizing the fact that the manager has a prejudice. . Well buddy, everyone does. Everybody has some form of prejudice that they think of at some point. Whether or not you express it, it's there. You cannot deny it, if you've ever had one discriminatory thought, does that make you racist?
2007-12-26 04:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by andrew t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we have a tendency to stigmitize all black people as being the same. We are afraid of a confrontation. Is it just going to be a verbal confroontation or a violent one. We never know because of some of the things blacks have done. So we tend to shy away from a group of black people.
2007-12-26 02:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by magnolia1518 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
The sterotype that one of those black kids probably had a knife or they would go out and trash his car. Plus the cry of racism always exists as well. The reputation preceded them.
2007-12-26 02:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by dallas 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not all white people are. Obviously you are or you would have demanded the manager do something. You got your money back... stop griping. You allowed them to run you out. That's your fault not theirs.
There's no way 5 kids would run me or anyone I know out of a theater.
2007-12-26 06:59:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋