I want to propose to my girlfriend, but we have trouble, when to do it?

Question

My girlfriend is visiting me and I am planning on taking her for a tour of the city since this is the first time she is visiting NYC.

I plan on proposing to her. However, me and her are kinda shaky at the moment. We are still definitely together and loving, but we have a few quarrels between us, that we need to work out. (its a common thing [unfortunately])

I am not sure when i should do it. I know for a fact that she will be VERY happy when i do propose to her, because she is always talking about it..

She arrives in the morning, and leaves next morning. I really want for her to be happy with me the whole time she is here, so i thought i might propose early. but then i realized that it would be more dramatic and meaningful if i did it later in the evening, or right before she was about to leave.

What should i do? should i wait till the next morning or evening and find another way to cheer her up?, or shall i propose right away, so that she can be happy

Answer 1

Work it out, then propose.

You don't want any dark clouds over this happy occasion. Before you get married, I'd also recommend pre-marital counseling.

It's *not* common for couple's to quarrel before getting proposed to, and it *would* be a good idea to resolve your issues ASAP.

Good luck

Answer 2

Well, are you worrying more about the location and time of the proposal or that you guys are in a state of fighting and dont know if now is the right time for a proposal?

in my opinion, it would depend on where youll be. If your taking her on a tour then find a romantic spot that you can be alone ... or if your into making a scene of it then go to dinner and do it there, or in a public place which ever you think shell feel comfortable....
if your having problems in the relationship maybe it be best to work them out be4 the proposal depending on the situation, but every relationship has their differences and arguments so it shouldnt really matter when you decide to do it.
if i was you i would wait till everyone got settled in then take her out somewhere and do it ... u shouldnt propose to someone just bc ur fighting right now and you think that will solve everything. ( unless that is the issue that you guys are having ) in that case if she wants it and you want it go for it! and good luck!

Answer 3

well regarding this issue its an answer that will be for life and its not just a moment when u say for her i need u and she say yes for u too
its about a life time and in the other hand ofcourse u know ur status about ur work ur money financial issues ur life with her and needs home, car, money and hope that u have them all. so in the end its a matter of long term not to live the moment and go for the issue to propose only
all the luck bye

Answer 4

Speaking as a couples and marriage therapist, here are two great guides:

Important Questions To Ask Before You Get Married
http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/relationshipadvice-important-questions-to-ask-before-you-get-married.html

Romantic Ways To Propose:
http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/romanticwaystopropose.html

Answer 5

If things are shaky now, they are going to be horrible when you get married. Work things out first. Don't give in to pressure to get engaged. The engagement lasts a relatively short time when you compare it to the marriage- which is supposed to be for the rest of your life. You shouldn't need to "cheer her up" if things are right.

Answer 6

if she really likes u then go for it but not right away.later in the evenin.take her out for dinner if she wish to come wid u any create such an atmosphere.firstly try to sort out all the differences.show all the qualities of a very doting partner, but do not pretend or show off.just be ur ownself.don't be very dramatic a la hindi movies.make it as original as possible.if not for dinner then go straight to her.if not now then never.

Answer 7

DO NOT propose to make things better. It wont work.

This is the 2000's version of having a baby to save a marriage (what they used to do in the 60's) Regrettably i don't think you will listen as it sounds like you do love her and will be blind to any advice you don't want to hear.

Answer 8

Go ahead and propose about half way threw showing her around then, after a few days, you need to talk to her about the "quarrels"

Answer 9

I agree with ki ki. I've talked to a few divorced people and one of the big things was that they wished they would have sorted things out better before they got married. If you have any questions / issues, work them out before you get married.

Answer 10

at night. plan something simple that she'll enjoy for the morning and afternoon, then something elaborate in the evening. go somewhere with a nice view of all the lights in the city.