I am a 28 year old, single, straight, good looking, successful male and I have a great personality (from NY). I have much going for me in life. I have a great job, I live at home with my family without any expenses, I go to graduate school and I am involved in many community service related activities. For some reason though, I have not been able to meet anybody worth dating. I have only gone on two dates in my entire life and they were more the result of luck than anything else. Most of the people I know that are my age are single and always have been. I never had a girlfriend and haven't even experienced my first kiss yet. Are we just living in a dream world influenced by Hollywood that tells us we live in an oversexed world in which everyone experiences romance starting in their teens? The older I get the more I reallize that love is a rare thing indeed. Lol, how do people even get girlfriends? It must be purely luck or arranged relationship type setups.
2007-12-25 18:10:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try moving out of your parent's house, getting an apartment and living on your own for awhile. It's a big turn off for most women to date a guy who still lives with mommy and daddy. Not to be harsh but it's true. One of the first things a lot of women look for is financial independence. Having a great job but not your own place kind of contradicts itself. Plus, it's kind of uncomfortable for that first kiss, etc to happen when your parents are in the same house! Yes, people do date and have girlfriends in their 20's. I'm 29 and recently got married but we dated for 5 years before getting engaged. It wasn't arranged, we just met and hit it off but that was 5 years after our first meeting (very long story). True love is a rare thing but it'll come when you least expect it. And don't look for love first...look for the traits that you really like in a person. The rest will follow. Good luck!!!
2007-12-25 18:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mommyto3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not true that everyone dates, no matter their age. Some people cannot live without significant others and somehow (don't ask me how!) they ALWAYS have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Then there are people like us, who may have dated once or twice and are in their 20s and still without a significant other. I'm in the same boat as you almost: 21, had one boyfriend for two years, couple of friends with benefits, mostly immersed in getting my degree and volunteer work. You're not the only one out there, I guarentee it. My friend is 23 and has never dated or been kissed and she is the most caring, wonderful person you'll meet.
Sometimes I think it's just an overgeneralization that everyone has been dating since 13 years old. I mean some people will just date just to date. While other wait for love. I know that a friend of mine is always having relationships. Nonstop practically. And the only difference I can find between herself and I is that she is very very outgoing while I tend to be more shy and withdrawn around people I don't know.
Love is rare. True love anyway. Not this puppy-love that everyone who has dated for 3 months decides they're in. Anyway, I guess I'm just here to say, don't worry. You're not alone. Just live your life and love it to its fullest extent and you'll find someone eventually who is right for you.
2007-12-26 02:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by PetRescuer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I am only 19 years old, and when I went to college in Minnesota for about 1 year, I met a few women in their early 20's (22-23) who were already engaged. I had a minor panic attack because I had never had a boyfriend. I've had guys who have asked me out, but like you, I have not found anyone worth dating. I feel like there's a certain amount of pressure on young adults to date / be wild in their 20's, and settle down in their 30's. I think the pressure is a lot stronger for women, who have to think of their fertility and risk associated with pregnancies after 35 years of age.
I say, wait for the right woman. Don't settle for less. Forget what people say, or what Hollywood dictates as correct and 'normal'. Live your life, and have fun!
Good luck!
2007-12-26 02:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lacuca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people meet thru work, and online dating is HUGE worldwide.. the only people who think online dating is for weirdos are the people who are stuck in an "Internet = the 80's" mindset.
In all western countries people are marrying later in life, 30 is the new 21 as they say. Don't rush out and get married because "the clock is ticking" just meet friends, chat at work and if your keen try meeting someone online.
Trust me, in 1 year of dating you will look back and wonder what you were worried about, and god damn dating is fun once the first nerves wear off!!!
2007-12-26 02:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by narasen_mer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My problem was just the opposite, lots of women worth dating, none interested in me. I would say it was the grace of God that I met someone when I was 27.
By the way, it seems that around your age, the girls start playing for keeps and looking for quality, so you've got something going to you. Living at home might be a strike against you.
If finding love is important to you, maybe you need to take a positive step like match.com or eharmony. Or try dating someone that doesn't seem worth it at first, and you might be surprised.
2007-12-26 02:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by roderick_young 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't put yourself out there. Just because you are "successful" or have money doesn't mean girls will flock to you unless they are shallow gold diggers. You have to have a personality and know how to hold a conversation. Maybe you are shy and are not talking to girls you see that interest you?
Do you ask girls out? How are you meeting new people? Try Yahoo personals. That alone will get you leads to meeting other girls.
Good luck.
2007-12-26 02:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by whowhat? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit down and take a long hard look at your life; what are your favorite activities outside of work;
try to join clubs or activities that involve those things; also, volunteer; you would be surprised how many truly great young women volunteer to help others
when you focus on others and stop focusing on yourself life has a way of showing up at your doorstep with just what you were looking for.
get out there and think of something that you can do to help the world out ...
good luck to you and happy new year.
2007-12-26 02:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jean B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
are you straight? cause i have an uncle that has done the samething but hes gay he hasnt really came out of the closet yet but its obvious, because hes 30 yrs old and still living with his parents, even though hes a teacher so he has enough money to move out, and suppousably hes had a girlfriend before but i think its probably a boyfriend lol.
2007-12-26 02:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by kimaam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people date in their twenties. You have to look for people though, you can't just expect one to fall into your lap.
Also, some woman don't want to date a 28 year old man who lives with his family expense free. I would think that you're unambitious for not wanting to make your own way in life.
2007-12-26 02:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to be a little aggressive when it comes to getting the girl. But it does happen I am 26 and happily married for 2 years and been with my husband for 5 years.
2007-12-26 02:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋