Please give me some suggestions as to how to handle my family when it comes to me not eating pork, for some?

Question

reason at the holiday times my family thinks that I am going to eat pork because its the holidays. I stopped eating pork (& beef) over 10 yrs ago and haven't gone back since. 1st I stopped because it just didn't taste good to me anymore, but after reading what pork (& meat) does to your body I don't make any exceptions. My brother gets mad at me because I don't eat pork, he always makes our holiday meals & for some reason, it has to have bacon in it or pork as the main dish. Everytime, and he asks me why I don't eat it & I tell him every year & its getting tiring. He acts like he can talk me into eating pork, he thinks I'm being silly, but I don't want to eat it. So please give me some suggestions on how to nicely explain to him once and for all no pork for me thanks.

We all gather at my parents house, he is a cheif, that is why he always cooks. He just gets mad because I don't eat everything he makes. Normally I only eat the side dishes or the appetizers, what ever has pork in it I avoid. I always have something to eat, its just he gets mad that I don't want to eat HIS food that he prepared with pork, I eat his food when he doesn't put pork in it.

oops he is a chef not a cheif LOL!!!

oops he is a chef not a cheif LOL!!!

Answer 1

I'm a vegetarian, and when I go to someone's house (family member) and it's rare too, I grab my own food and if they give me meat, I remove it. If they question me, I tell them like it is. I let them know why, but in a vague way, if they still insist that they can change my mind, I say "I don't tell you what to eat or what to not eat; so mind your own business." heheheehehe. That should shut him up, he's arrogant, I can just sense it, and it's sad. Tell him that he should be courteous enough to respect your wishes and reasons, as it's your choice and your belief and not his. Tell him to fcuk off!

Answer 2

I do eat pork & beef, and I love cooking holiday meals. So maybe a little perspective from your brother's end?

I don't think your brother will stop doing it unless he comes to personally accepts the fact that this is your decision. And I think the only way to make him see it is by putting things into perspective for him. Maybe try taking something that he absolutely dislikes and making him do it. I can't say that it's the best way or niceset way to do it, but I feel that he will see it more clearly. Ask him why he doesn't like it and then put it back into your situation and make him see that it's the same thing. If he wants you to respect his likes and dislikes, tell him that you hope he does the same for you. Tell him that he pushing you to eat pork/beef is making you feel uncomfortable and that you're sure he doesn't want you to feel that way about him.

Of course, I'm saying this without knowledge of how close you are with your brother and where you are from (i.e. family dynamics, religion or race or culture).

Personally, no issue for me. In fact, I'll cook multiple dishes if need be.

Hope all goes well with your brother.

Answer 3

I'd say YOU should do the inviting sometime, and not be the guest. Secondly, bring whatever food you want to eat with you when you do go to his house.

Your reasoning about beef and pork seems illogical to me, probably to him, as well, but it should be respected. I don't invite people pork when that is what I plan to fix, or fix two main dishes for parties when I know I have non-pork eaters coming. But that is me, not your brother

If you have food to eat, and you go to your parents, I suppose you should tell the chef to "stick it", you do not eat pork. Everyone ought to stop making a deal out of it. You stand up for yourself, or stay away if this is really a problem. Skip one family meal beause of pork and you'll see a change in the menu.

Answer 4

I am a vegetarian and card carrying member of PETA. This is how I handle it. I tell people I will not purchase or prepare meat. I cook vegetarian meals but if others want to bring their own prepared meat for themselves, I do not judge them. However, I will not cook meat in my kitchen. When I go to a dinner party, I will generally talk to the hostess and ask if there will be vegetarian options. If not, I ask them if they mind if I bring my own dish. Then I show up a little early to make a discrete entrance with the dish for the hostess to serve. Those are my rules and I have found that everyone in my life respects that... or they are at least too polite to say otherwise.

In the case of your brother, I don't have that problem with my family since the majority of us are vegetarians so the meat-eaters would be ganged up on. I do get questioned by my co-workers when I go to work lunches. Typically, people will let it be once I say I don't eat meat and as soon as I bring up PETA they totally back off. So I don't know how to give you good advice, but bring your own dishes to the gatherings and just explain to your brother that your position has not changed and is not going to. Say it firmly, but politely and after that, just go about the party.

Answer 5

I love eating meat, because I think it is tasty and nutritious. You have a right not to eat it, and your brother and family should accept that.

You too must respect him and the family. If the majority of your family are meat eaters, they should be able to expect that as a main dish. After 10 years they should respect your decision, especially since it takes nothing from them.

I assume that you are able to eat well at the meal eating non meat side dishes.

Your choice is not my choice in food, but stick politely to your guns.

Answer 6

I don't eat pork and when people ask me why I just say because I don't ,and leave it at that.Whenever my family has pork I just load up on the side dishes.

Answer 7

Don't be to panic when it comes to u,for not eating pork.
If u like to eat pork and u r not eating it because of Diabetes so I will give u one suggestion,when Ur brother force u to eat pork u don't say no to him because he don't like it.and the fact that u can't eat whole pork but u can take one small piece of pork after that u can say to Ur brother that he had not asked u to eat whole pork so u ate it by one piece and it gives u a good satisfaction that u had eat the pork and its taste will give u the feeling of satisfaction.so just try it once and see how it works.

Answer 8

everybody has their likes/dislikes,it seems as if family tradition is brother cooking and pork being main course or playing a big part. you are in minority here,bring one of YOUR speciality veggie dishes to share,and eat the sides. Try talking to your brother before event and explaining these are your feelings and you are not backing down so please don't make an issue in front of crowd,good luck,Robin

Answer 9

to easily say that he no longer eats beef because of the fact he would not like it anymore. It provides him this and that and, as a result, he no longer desires to consume it. Edit, many human beings communicate approximately telling the dad and mom. What if the guy who converted continues to be a baby, let's imagine, of 13. the place is he gonna stay and who's gonna help him if his dad and mom do no longer desire him at abode any extra? this question became asked because of the fact the guy who would not desire to consume beef can not tell his dad and mom he turns into Muslim.