this girl has been off and on with her ex for the better part of 2 years now. as her friend prior to them getting together I was always there for her to help her through him screwing up and them fighting. during an off period, recently, we started dating, (kind of unexpectedly) for about 4 months. things were great. when she started to have feelings for him again I decided it was time to call it off and let her figure things out. she's back together with this idiot AGAIN and wonders why we can't talk anymore (I think she feels like we should still have that friendship we had before we got together) I told her I had to make a clean break and not be in her way, and that I need time to move on. I'm in the process of moving on, but she keeps texting, and messenging me, and wonders why I can't talk to her or see her anymore. What's the deal? Am I doing the right thing by avoiding her? Why is she so concerned about me now?
2007-12-25 17:00:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to clarify, we haven't been friends forever. I got to know her just before the "X" and her got together. we really were best friends for these past 2 years though. when I called things off I made it pretty clear what she decided was final. I don't like to play the on/off game.
I also found it strange that she didn't start to care about my well-being untill about a month and a half after "the talk" when she found out (through a friend of a friend) that I'd been going out for lunch and drinks with a new girl.
2007-12-25 17:18:40 · update #1
This is very simple. This girl obviously has self esteem issues and needs attention from a man to feel good about herself. And, if she can get more than one man to give her attention, that is even better. This is a very tangled web to get involved in and if you dont want your heart broken or the drama, I would suggest making the break and moving on. Tell her that she chose her ex and that you are no longer in the picture. And, you need to move on QUICKLY!!!!
2007-12-25 17:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can talk to her but not that much. If your broken up then you can stay friends but thats an occasionally thing. Its not an everyday thing. Just once in a while occasion thing. I talk to my ex's but its occasionally not on a daily basic. You should move on. You should. Well, she might really like you but went out with her ex for some other reason. She needs to understand though that you are moving on and that she has her ex and that she needs to either stay with her ex or find another guy. She also needs to understand that your friendship will not be the same as it was in the beginning.
2007-12-25 17:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has to talk to somone other than one person thats why we have friend and a man can have a girl as a friend and a girl with a man but it doesnt mean that your cheating on them or you fancey them or mabey thats not the case mabey she is too much of a controll freak and wants everything her own way maybe she thinks shes your mum or somit
2016-05-26 06:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"We chase that which runs from us."
Some people are confused and don't know what they want, but they don't want to lose that option of it being there and available to them. It's good that you're not really talking to her. If she really wanted to be with you, she won't keep going back to that guy. She is choosing him over you, yet want you to be available when he does something wrong. Consider yourselves friends, but I won't talk to this woman if I was you.
2007-12-25 17:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably still has feelings for you. If I was you, I'd still be the friend that she always knew and loved and just see what happens then. She still needs you, so you should still be there for her.
2007-12-25 17:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to live a merry-go-round like she's been living the last few years, hook back up. If not, leave it go.
2007-12-25 17:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants it her way and doesn't seem to understand that it isn't always going to be her way. Ignore her and continue moving on.
2007-12-25 17:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best to be friends only - a little sex is convenient but not worth the heartache stay as a friend
2007-12-25 17:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by Kim from Sydney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes an air head, let her wallow in her own problems...
2007-12-25 17:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she still loves you.
2007-12-25 17:03:15 · answer #10 · answered by pooja 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋