been with this girl now for about 6 months, going good for the most part, but there is one part about her that bothers me. She is a major attention freak. She has all these guys who chase her, ex's, guy friends, and I can just tell that she leads them on just enough so they'll keep chasing, but not enough to actually do anything wrong to me. Another example, shes switched jobs a few times, and has male coworkers chasing her, and instead of acting like she has a b/f, shes giving her number out, getting numbers, has guys from working calling her at all hours of the day. Like I said, nothing crossing the line yet, but enough to bother me and know she is leading them on to entertain her ego. Shes also the type who, before we were going out, completely surrounded herself with guys who liked her and that was it, had 1 or 2 female friend and that was it. So....should I be cautious dating someone like her? Is it a matter of time before I get played? Why are some girls like this? Thanks!!
2007-12-25 16:42:02 · 4 answers · asked by Jack B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately I actually would be worried about her eventually cheating. I used to do things like that before I grew up. It's a way of keeping your options open as well as an ego stroke. I would sit her down and tell her that you don't appreciate the way she is acting. Outline everything she is doing that is upsetting you and hurting your relationship. If she refuses to curb her behavior, or says she'll change, but doesn't, I would seriously consider ending it.
In answer to your final questions... Yes you should be cautious... yes you could easily get played (though she also may never go that far)... The reason some girls are like that are they are either b*tches, or (more likely) they have incredibly low self-esteem and depend on others to provide for their self worth. Either way, people like this make for incredibly hard relationships. Best of luck!
2007-12-25 16:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by AngelMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in all honesty yes I would be careful. There are a lot of guys out there who would love to take advantage. What works is when she tells you about all the guys. Its ok to be hanging around with guys if infact she enjoys the company more then female company though its not ok for her not to tell you everything about them. Its not ok for her to have a ton of guys either. A ton of guys could equal more trouble for your relationship with her. It might be a matter of time before you get played. She probably will get hurt more then you'll get played. I have a bunch of guys and three females. My boyfriend and me talk about them all the time. He knows exactaly who is who etc. He knows that if something ever did happen that I would tell him and that I would be honest about it. He tells me within reason what guys I can talk to as well. He sets the limit. You can talk to him but you can not talk to him for whatever reason. Sometimes you need to set that. Or you can have this many guy friends at a time. You need to be able to have the phone and listen on what she is saying to these guys and what they are saying to her. If she can not do that then she is hiding something from you.
2007-12-25 16:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trouble and I think you already know that. Drama queens SUCK!
1 of 2 things is going on.
1.She is either so insecure that she's got to constantly prove to herself that other people find her attractive. Deep emotional issues like low self esteem are as bad as it gets and will take years or longer until she has a healthy outlook...in the meantime she'll destroy every relationship she has either by cheating or creating he own conflict.
2. She is over the top self absorbed that she doesn't care about any ones feelings but hers. Again, impossible to have a healthy relationship with.
Hang with her until you find somebody better...but make it quick. Since she's so desperate for approval but multiple men...It would be interesting to see how she reacts to being dumped.
2007-12-25 17:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by rob d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
buddy if i was you i would confront her
i made it very simple to my girl you can have guy friends but we only meet up with them when i come because my girl is like this too i just cant trust her
2007-12-25 16:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋