Birth Control?

Question

Alright. I am sixteen and I have a boyfriend who is seventeen. We have almost been going out for a year now.
We are completely in love and I know we are, we love each other with all our hearts. Please don't say anything about you don't know what love is or any of that BS. I know what love is..

So we recently have started taking about sex. I never planned on having sex until i was engaged or completely in love with someone and i knew it. I guess I'm just old school like that. I never would have thought I would find my true love this early in life, but I guess how it was supposed to be.
I want to get on birth control and my boyfriend wants me to get on it too. We want to be completely safe. We will use condoms too. I just want to know, how i can bring up ME getting on birth control to my mother.

my question: Is there any easy conversation starters on this? I don't want to feel awkward, even though I already feel a little nervous on how she will react. Advice on how to approach this?

I thought i said not to give me any BS about being in love?
just because you've been left heart broken before doesn't mean that it will be the same for me? eh?

I love this boy. Since when dose age matter about being in love? does it say somewhere in the bible or somewhere written down in ink about you have to be a certain age to fall in love?!

Yes, i am being very defensive. I have to stand for what I believe in.

And yes, we don't have to have sex to be happy. We are both virgins now and obviously don't need it to keep our relationship.
No one is pressuring anyone.
We want to make this decision.

We are mature enough to know how to stay protected and we know the risks.

I would just like my question answered.
enough said.


thank you.

Answer 1

"I know what love is.."

BWAHAHAHA!!! And you're how old? I don't mean to be an *** but, yeah, you don't know what you're talking about kid. Just look through the answers archives...there must be atleast 1,000 16 year olds out there who thought they were in love just to be heartbroken.

And lets just pretend you are in love...Why is sex necessary? Who ever said that you need sex to express love?

So, you've got a long way to go before you understand what you're talking about.

To answer your question: There's really no way other than telling your mother straightforward. And honestly, if your mother has any sense left inside her, she'll refuse.

Answer 2

Start by asking you mother about birthcontrol.My daughter is 16 and has asked me questions.To me that was a hint that she was thinking about having sex. After a few times of being questions I asked her if she wanted to see the doctor about a perscription. However it depends on on your relationship with your mother how she will react.Don't be surprised if she gets a little freaked out.In her mind you are still her baby.Myself I am an open minded mother and although I do not like the thought of my daughter having sex I have a little piece of mind knowing that she is at least being responsible about being protected.Better safe then sorry I say.

Answer 3

Sorry to say but he is not your true love. I thought my boyfriend at 16 was mine but it turns out he wasn't. We all think a significant other is true love in high school but it rarely ever is.

I think if you're not mature enough to discuss this with your mom then you really should not be having sex. And at 16 you shouldn't either. Didn't the Jamie Lynn Spears incident teach you anything?

Birth control is not 100 percent. Don't risk it just because you have a naive belief this young man is your true love.

Answer 4

Tough one. My 15 year-old daughter casually informed me she was sexually active. I was divorced from her mother and immediately called my ex and was told she already knew and had started daughter on pills. Frankly, I was flattered that my daughter was willing to share this with me. So I suppose it really depends on your relatinoship with your mother. Ask her if she's willing to have a frank talk about sex with you. Unless she's pretty dense she probably has a good idea you're ready for the experience. So bring it up in general terms and ask her advice. Tell her your friends are becoming involved and you're thinking about it but want her advice and recommendations. Good luck.

Answer 5

omg i am in the same situation as u..i am 16 and my boyfriend is 17 also..i am already on birth control though cause my cycle is so bad that my mom put me on it.

maybe u should just tell ur mom that ur periods are real bad and tell her that some of ur friends are on BC for their periods and it helped them a lot.

all i can say, if she freaks out and says no then just use protection and be careful.

Answer 6

hmm i wont tell u ur not in love...could be true...but is he ur true love? doesnt really make a difference...so how could u talk to ur mom about it? i dont know about a opener but wat u said in ur question is pretty good...try saying that...be honest with her...shes ur mom...i bet she will have no problem with it...tho she will more then likely have a lecture for u lol....dont think theres anyway around that...dont listen to people on here saying it wont work...it will if thats wat u both truly want...good luck...i hope u n ur boyfriend have a good life...together hopefully

Answer 7

put some peanut butter on your cooch....open up the legs...and say "come here boy, atta boy"

should do the trick!