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My aunt and uncle are getting a divorce and they have two daughters, both of which are legal adults. My uncle is my blood relative and I am 14. My uncle is visiting us for Christmas so he is here right now. When he filed for divorce my aunt did alot of hurtful things to everyone and my 2 cousins did as well. Today I recieved an e-mail from my aunt & 1 of my cousins. It was all happy sounding and they apoligized for our gifts being late because they didn't get them in the mail soon enough.

It seemed as if they didn't think I knew about everything, but I do. My parents and uncle thought I was mature enough to know what was going on in our family.

Should I show my parents and uncle the e-mail? Do I respond? My parents told me that we would probably never talk to them again and we shouldn't expect anything from them this Christmas. It's like they are trying to cover up what is going on for my and my brothers sake eventhough we already know.

2007-12-25 16:22:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

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It all depends on you. Your aunt and cousins I'm sure have their reasons for not being happy with your uncle. There's two side to every story.

Just because they have issues with him does not mean that they don't like you. If you want to continue your relationship with them, feel free to do so. If you want to cut it off from them then do so. Don't let anyone dictate to you who you should or should not love.

I am still very good friends with my ex-sister-in-law. We were friends before she met my brother and we are still friends after. Her feelings for my brother have nothing to do with her feelings for me. The two of them simply were not good for each other.

2007-12-25 17:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by happybujok 3 · 0 0

What is going on is their business only. Your parents and uncle were wrong for filling you in on dirty divorce details. Your relationship with your cousins should be completely separate from your aunt and uncle. Don't show them the email and make an excuse to leave the room the next time they start to tell you all the nitty gritty. Divorce doesn't make sense to most adults never mind kids. There are two sides to every story, but only one truth. That one you'll never hear. Keep your relationship with your cousins positive; they are hurting during this time.

2007-12-25 16:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by trixxi_fan 3 · 0 0

Hi friend,
The nice thing in our life is as much as there are so many people doing hurtful things to one other, many of them end up realizing their mistakes. Many of them end up regretting their actions and reach back to those people they've hurt. Do you know how difficult it is to "swallow your pride" and "admit you screwed up"? That seems to be what your aunt & the other cousin is doing right now. If you don't feel like resuming normal relationships with them for the time being, atleast have the proper decency to reply a "thank you" for their gifts. Believe me, that "thank you" will mean a lot to them & can lift up their Christmas spirits. Now, you're asking if you should show the email to your uncle? It's ok to show it to him, but if you're gonna add comments, make sure it's for a reconciliatory purpose. Make sure, it's one that lessens anger rather than adding it. I believe as bitter as their divorce proceedings is going through, hearing your aunt reach out to you can still bring a glow in your uncle's heart. After all at one point, they were husband and wife.

2007-12-25 16:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0 0

If your parents thought you were mature enough to know the truth, then you should be mature enough to make this decision.

Every decision you make has consequences, you are going to have to figure out what they are and then do what you think is best.

Some things to think about:

It seems a bit odd that they contacted you directly, instead of going through your parents, why would they do that?

Could contacting you be part of another "hurtful thing"?

2007-12-25 16:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Don't get involved. Let your uncle handle his problems. You don't need to get involved. I'm sure you don't know all of the details. I'm sure you only know your uncles side. Divorses affect the whole family and its sad that the children have to get involved.

2007-12-25 16:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by liliana 4 · 1 0

Yes, tell everyone if you want to cause drama.. otherwise, keep it peaceful, and respond to your aunt, say thank you and be done with it.

2007-12-25 16:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0 1

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