Ever since my dad passed away I just can't talk to my mom about him..It's like I really want to talk about it because crying is not working for me and its hard to just wake up everyday knowing his gone..It just makes me go crazy when I see his picture and I think about the good times we had and well when he passed away my family told me make sure she doesn't cry and I don't want her to start crying but i need to talk about him...what should I do???
2007-12-25 16:15:24 · 6 answers · asked by Me 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
heres another think..its been 5 years his been gone
2007-12-25 16:22:22 · update #1
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Your family was wrong to tell you to make sure your mother doesn't cry. I don't have any clue how old you are, but that is a burden you shouldn't have to carry. Sometimes families/people say things and don't really understand what effect it will have on the person they are saying it to. People all grieve in different ways .. some cry, some need to talk .. there is no right or wrong, it is what helps you heal.
Of course she'll start crying, she misses him too, but you need to understand that you are not the parent here and you need to go to your mom and ask for help. I would imagine that if she knew you felt this way that she would be the first to tell you to come to her and to talk about him. Is there an aunt/uncle, grandparent that you feel you could talk to about it if you really don't want to go to your mom with this? But really, personally, I think you need to go to your mom.
2007-12-25 16:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Curtis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start writing a letter.
Write one to your mom saying how you feel. Sometimes it is easier that way you can actually say how you feel. I start writing to letters to people anytime i am upset and need to talk to someone and most of the time i figured things out by the time I finish the letter and nobody ever gets to see it. I am sorry about you loss, but remember you are allowed to have feelings and miss him.
2007-12-26 00:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your loss...
I have a close friend that lost his father a year ago and i always tryed to talk to him and help him out so if u need some one to talk to find a close friend or another family member so u dont have to get emotional with your mother.and u can still get your feelings out and talk to someone about it.
2007-12-26 02:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by i like cereal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. I bet your mom feels the same way you do, and is trying protect you the same way you are trying to protect her. I would try to talk to her and you will know soon enough if it is the right thing to do. Good luck
2007-12-26 00:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by Toolegit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your Dad's gone, hon.
You could just go up and hug your mom and let her know you miss your dad. I'm sure she does, too.
talk to your school counselor if you need to.. sending hugs
2007-12-26 00:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One im soo sorry about your dads death
two ive gone through a family death and i know how it feals i could talk to my parents about my grandmas death for 2 years but then i went to my school guidence counsaler and it helped alot and i know wat ur thinking gudence counceler so lame well it really helped and you only have to go once(thats wat i did)
i hope u feall better
~~~~~bassist next door
2007-12-26 00:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋