My boyfriend and I of 3 years and 8 months recently broke up. This is the second time this has happened and is around the sametime of year. Everything was going great we were getting along great. He was even bringing me dinner!!! He just thought we should take time to ourselves since we are in our first semester of college and we are so stressed. It has now been 5 weeks. Throughout it though I was asked on a date and I didn't go and he knows that but he still wants to pout at me about it. The other day he said that he thinks of me everyday and catches hiself wanting to pick up the phone and call even though we have talked at least once a week throughout this. However he said he still doesn't know if we will get back together, but feels that hopefully everything will work out in time. Will he come back around?? Should I just "disappear" for a few week and then pop back up after I have given things time or will he already be over it?
2007-12-25 15:58:17 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes these timeouts work, but sometimes one person finds someone new and is perfectly willing to move on..... after all their feelings were in question or they wouldn't have needed a time out.
From experience 4-6 weeks is about as long as should be necessary for someone to sort things out and get back to the relationship. It may take that long for you to really miss the other person and decide you don't want to be without them. Most people can get over the pain of a relationship ending and the lonliness within 3 months. So the longer this goes on the more likely it is that he will get over it and move on. Tell him it is time to reunite and work things out, or to end it for good.
2007-12-25 16:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be. He might want you to just chase him, so don't!! Go on about your business. If he wants to get back together, if you're not over him by then, then do what your heart wants. Guys are not worth the heartache...Seriously I just went through a horrible breakup after 2 years of dating, and it went bitter. I broke up with him, still had to live with him (due to the stupid lease i signed), and he wouldn't give up the fact that we were over. Pretty soon he took his sadness and turned into being an asshole about everythign and after two months, he's leaving me with everything (as in he's ******* me over by booking it out of our place, not paying rent, leaving me to deal with everything). It's not worth it. He's not worth it. As soon as a guy starts hurting you, leave...Don't chase him...because it'll just cause you heartache and stress. And stress is not good in college. Focus on your studies rather than some guy who doesn't know if he wants to commit.
2007-12-25 16:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't give yourself any false hope at all. Honestly you should think about yourself right now and not dwell on whether or not you think he's going to come back. I'm in the same situation right now and I'm doing my best to focus on what i want right now and am not worrying about what it is he wants. Let things happen the way they are supposed too... live your life because who knows if he's doing the same while your sitting around practically waiting for this guy to come back to you. Do what you want, it's about you. Not him
2007-12-25 16:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by Roxy1316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe is the word, but that just leaves you guessing...you really ought to know for yourself
2007-12-25 16:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Vinteal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋