my brother is gone?

Question

he was shot at 12 lost his left leg. he is now 18 and has gone away from home after blaming my parents in many nasty fights for his "position". he use to wear a prostetic leg which he lost at an airport after he fell asleep. He use to sleep at this airport hoping to get tickets out of the country back to our country in south america.Currently we don't know where in New York he is, he was last seen walking with crutches wearing khaki pants and a hoodie. my mom dreams about him every night and wakes up crying so does i; i have odd dreams of him. What does this mean? what can i do? of course theres a whole lot to this story but i want to put him out of my head for now and focus on college or else i'll have a second meltdown and my schooling will be put back because of family issues once more. help

He also blames me and doesn't trust me. And I beleive I'm the only one who understands him and genuinely wants to give all i have to help him. He's extremely sensitive and it's been a rollercoaster between me n him with trust and giving and hurting and drawing back into our shells.

Answer 1

I'm sorry about your brother and his situation. He understandably has things that are making him unhappy, and he feels that living on his own and returning to South America will be better. I believe he would do better to find a job locally in a local hospital, perhaps in Foodservice or a skilled position. He'll have benefits and could likely get a new leg. I suspect his income would be better here, and he'll be happier once he has established a life for himself with a means of earning money, finding shelter and food.
He is not likely to contact you very often. You will need to have confidence in his ability to make his own way. Until he resolves his anger, you'll be frustrated in your attempts to help him.
Take care of yourself and your education. It would be sad to see your future and school not happen because of this problem.
Your best help will be in taking care of you. Keep talking to him as possible. Make inquiries on his behalf to get him a job.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

That is very sad. You brother is going to do what he wants to do. He is a grown person with some traumatic experiences. You have to remember that worrying about your brother (which is totally normal) is only going to hurts your school work. A good friend of mines mother was a drug addict. They got in terrible fights over it, but no matter what she had to buckle down and do her work so she could better herself. You have to do the same. You can do nothing to help your brother at the moment. Well hope all end well.

Good Fortune

Answer 3

I'm very sorry... and i'm sure your brother is experiencing emotional problems because of everything he's gone through. It's not your fault, or his.

You won't forget him... but try to keep busy and find some focuses in your life..set some goals for yourself, and pray for your brother's safety when you can.

I'd also suggest talking to your school counselor or a therapist. Seems as if your family has been through a lot. Talking with someone would be another good way to take care of YOU... hugs

Answer 4

Your brother has a lot of issues that you cannot help with. He made his choice when he left.

As for you, you have to realize that you cannot help him no matter what. You aren't old enough to do anything that will help him. If he needs someone to talk to you can do that.

Your job now is to finish school. Then you can help support yourself when you get a job. It's important to look to the future. It's your life and you can only do so much for your brother now. He has lots of issues and needs to work it out for himself or he cannot mature.

Your mom will worry because that's what mom's do. Just support your mom as much as you can and do well in school. In that way, she won't worry about you and she can figure out what she can do.