lonely and depressed my bf is leaving and we love each other but it always seems like i never get what i want?

Question

im gonna lose him...
any1 got a story or problem or watever they wanna share?? any1 in a similiar/ complicated situation wit their bf/gf?? care 2 share pls, so i dont feel so lonely...

look hes mom's making him leave for sydney as punishment for something- to military skool and neither of us want him to go but he has to but we dont wanna let go of each other...

look they say there r plenty of fish in the sea but theres onli 1 that i want and need...
he is really perfect more than anything i could ever ask for in a guy, he's decent, honest, cares about me, he's a lil shy but he is realli like no other

Answer 1

I know you don't want to hear this but....... You seem needy and guys don't like needy girls. It's the truth. and I've lost so many men due to that one trait every women is born with. It is one of the worst characteristics we are given(besides PMS) the one that drives men away.

Answer 2

I don't have a boyfriend, but i will tell you my story and I hope it'll give you someone to relate to. I really like a guy. I told him about 4 months ago that I like him but he never said that he liked me. I don't think he does. but I can't get over him because I love who he is. every guy that I've had a crush on has never liked me back and when I was crying to this guy I felt like I would never get my true love. I still love him, but he lives kinda far away and I don't know if I'll see him again.

You have a boyfriend. You love someone and he loves you. If you guys love each other so much you'll find a way to stay together. I know you will. Love isn't always an easy thing and you have to fight to keep it alive. you can be far apart but then again right beside each other at the same time.

Answer 3

Dont let ur self be put down. Be strong, you must learn that u have 2 make ur own life. Those ppl dont matter, YOU matter. Your the most important person in ur life, and u have 2 be there 4 ur self. U have make ur life, go 2 school ,get a good job, and eventually u will find someone 2 be with. I know how u feel. I also feel lonely sometimes, but im concentrating on MY life, 2 make my future be better and not be struggling. If you focus on making life better , then in the future. I wont even need anyone cuz ur gona be strong and independent. Of course u will want someone, but u wont need them.

Answer 4

First of all, why is your boyfriend stating he is leaving? Next, what do you want? Then what does he want? Ask yourselves these questions then decide what to do. If he or you are unreasonable this will not do a thing for either of you and it's best to let go than to cling on and both of you will end up miserable. Always think of how the other person feels not just yourself or any selfish wants you or he may have.

Answer 5

aww, i went through that before. it might take you along time to get over it but you can't sit there and feel sorry for yourself you're whole life. there is better fish in the sea.
[heres my story]
i was with this one guy for about 6 months and yea we had our good times but it seemed like he always started something up to make me feel bad or to just see what i would say. someone like that is not worth you're time. so he would break up with me like every other week..twice a week on a bad week and he would always want me back. one day i finally had the stregnth to leave him and yea...i wanted him back for like two weeks but i didn't let myself. i met this one guy..and he was there for me through the whole thing. i started to have feelings for him but i didn't want to say anything because i was still heart broken but i let things take it's corse and we are now together, it's been nine months and we are happy :) everything happens for a reason. be happy :)
hope i helped at least a little bit

Answer 6

If he is truely committed to you - you will not lose him, and he will not lose you if you are truely commited to him.

My girlfriend worked about 200 miles away for a year. We would see each other periodically and talked on the phone and wrote each other lots. When we did see each other it was great.

After a year, we got jobs in the same town and married a year later. Still with her many many years later.

Answer 7

Here is a story: I hope it makes you happy:

I had a guy who tried to develop a relationship with me, and then I found out he already had a gf. He lost me, then he lost her and tried to come back to me. I told him, "I've been dating someone else." He said, "It's only been six weeks." And I said, "Yeah, and I've been dating him for four of them!" So, maybe you'll find someone else, too, and this guy will come crawling back and you'll be able to say, "Sorry, I met someone else within two weeks after you left!

I hope that cheers you up.

Answer 8

the only reason i had to let go of my ex is because he just didnt try enought to respect what i want.... he just always said "ok u tell me what to do and i will do it" ... thats just the way i didnt want things... both people need to make it work in a relationship and i just didnt want to carry his slack ... it was just too emotional for me... guys just dont get girls ... wow i really miss my ex bf but i wish he just could understand me :( im depressed too bcaz i still care for him a lot

Answer 9

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Answer 10

well, you obviously have a huge problem communicating your wants with him, if you were clear and explicit, if you show him your emotions and feelings as they are, with concrete ideas and explained details, and you don't wait for him to guess on anything, things would work out for you