Ok so im 22 and i have an 18 month old baby and i am thinking of stopping my birth control pill as soon as my son turns 2 that way by the time i get pregnant and have the 2nd baby my oldest will be 3 ,has any of you moms done that and is it hard or do you think i should wait another year .
I dont want the age differance to be too much between the kids and btw i only want 2 kids so i am done after the 2nd so i was thinking i should just do it .
2007-12-25 15:53:39 · 13 answers · asked by Pregnant with baby # 2 :) 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The father is my husband and if it was for him he wouldve had one as soon as my son was born thats why i didnt mention him.
2007-12-25 15:58:59 · update #1
i am 29 married mother of 2 beaut full boys , they are 3&1/2 years appart we pland it that way and it has worked fantasticly you get to spend time with your first child as a baby then thay go to school and then you can enjoy the time with your next baby thay grow up too fast so enjoy your time with them while thay are still babies!!! (kids aged 2 and 6)
2007-12-25 16:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by aussie chic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, my kids are 4 1/2 yrs. apart. That might not seem like a huge difference but when my second one was born, reality kicked in. I had forgotten how demanding a newborn could be. I also felt guilty that my son had much less of my attention. Any age difference will be and adjustment. Having 2 children is a lot different than having just one. Pick the time that's right for you.
2007-12-26 11:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds okay to me, those were the exact ages my sons were apart, my oldest was 2 when I got pregnant with the other one and when he was born, the oldest was almost 3. I did not have a lot of trouble, because #1 was potty trained, off the bottle and sleeping all night, by the time #2 came along. Go for it.
2007-12-26 00:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by onyx1 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had my 2 girls 2 years and 5 months apart. For me I think it was perfect timing. My aunt always said 3 years is perfect and I have friends that have them back to back. It all depends on what you think is best. If your first is a handful and you feel overwhelmed I would wait longer, but if you have everything undercontrol and you and your husband think you can handle being up around the clock taking care of a newborn and still have time and energy to for your 3 year old then go for it. Only you and your husband know the right timing. Good Luck!
2007-12-26 00:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by medleyc1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had my son a few weeks after my daughter turned 2 and I wished I waited until she was atleast 3 before having another. That way she would be potty trained and out of her terrible twos...lol
My brothers are 6 and 2 and are a great age difference and get along very very well..the oldest calls his brother..his baby and they play very well together and the youngest copies the oldest so he potty trained earlier and learned other things like to eat w/utensils, go to bed well, and how to play w/toys and such.
Good Luck!!
2007-12-26 00:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by shortysml 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a 3 year age gap seems to be average around my circle of family and friends.
Me on the other hand, I'm a little different. There is a 5 year age gap between my first and second and a 1 year age gap between my second and third. But enough about me.....
What matters is if it feels right to you. If your think 3 years is the best for your family, than go ahead and give it a try. But if your a little apprehensive about it, than maybe it's not the best for you guys. Think it over, but remember one thing : Don't stress on age gaps! Just try to figure out if it's the right time for you or not.
Hope this helps! Good luck to you in either direction you chose!
2007-12-26 00:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mamma of 3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i had my 1st at 21.
when she was a little over 1 we got pregnant wanting them to be 2 years apart. We lost that baby.
but had another one when she was just a little over 3
so they are a little over 3 years apart i like it cause she can help with the baby and LOOOVEs being a big sister and is old enough to enjoy it without the jealousy.
I'm 25 weeks preg. now so these last 2 are only gonna be 17 months apart. so i can't really compare them yet. sorry.
do what feels right for you.
if you can afford it and have the patience and want to do it then go for it.
its hard even with them being 3 years apart,
2007-12-26 00:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by 3 girls call me mommy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My first two are 2 years and 3 months apart. Neither of them were planned, but I like having them that close together. They are 9 and 7 now, and USUALLY best friends. They do have their days though. I have a 7 week old now and they are both a great help with her. I was also done after I had my first 2, but I couldn't imagine my life now with out the baby, so don't rule anything out. Alot can happen to change your mind.
2007-12-25 23:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by bjenn53 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm from a large family, where all of us kids are each 5 years apart from one another. We grew up fine and all love one another, but we must've drove our mom nuts, because the older one doesn't want the younger one to hang around 'pestering' them, while the younger wants to hang out with and aggravate the older one. I, on the other hand, when i had my family, my girls are a year apart (not intentional on my part, it was God's plan, but I'm happy about His choice), it was wonderful. They were best of friends growing up, shared the same friends, did everything together, a built-in best friend. They had so much in common. Everything we did was compatable for all of us, because of their common interests and friends. However, having two so close together, costs double worse than when they're spread apart, such as, school things, proms, graduation. But still, if you have two the same sex children, they can share so much, clothes, toys, etc.. I wouldn't change how I did things for anything. But again, mine were both girls. I don't know how it would be if it were girl/boy. But however you have your family, enjoy them. They are young for such a short time.
2007-12-26 00:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My sons were born 3 years and 2 months apart, I found that the spacing was great.
The oldest was already toilet trained, verbally well adjusted, and knew how to dress himself and help pick up his toys at the end of the day.
They're 22 and 25 now and great pals.
2007-12-25 23:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by Lynne W 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋