Im 21years old I love my boyfriend. We are planning to get married my dad told me if I give up having him pay for a wedding reception , He will pay for a small wedding and my brand new car I got (I could afford that if I needed to). I thought sure I will pay for the wedding reception and he can pay my car off. Today my fiancé and i brought that up. I said all you have to pay is the car and a wedding dress, I said you don't have to pay for the church or preacher or anything. He said no if he paid for the car that no one else could help me pay for a wedding if someone helped then no car. he started yelling at my fiancé because his job just cut his hours but he got transferred so he is back at 40hrs. My dad started saying he was no good he was worthless, he plans to be a pilot and he is joining the air force. He is starting a great career and Im wanting to go to college to be a teacher. Anyway he chased my fiancé out the door and swung at him. My boyfriend did not swing.
My question is how do I comfort my fiancé he is upset. They had gotten along before. My dad is also know for physically and mentally abusing me and my mom. Im a little upset to because he told us we are never allowed at their house.
He offered he gave us a wedding and reception or a wedding and a car. I picked the car and I would pay for the reception he got pissed when I said I would pay for the reception he said I could only have a car. I don't live near him Im a Virgin so Im not shacking up I have two years of college behind me and so does he. He has taken pilot classes. I don't need to hear a stupid answer like stop digging in t o your daddy's wallet I DO NOT NEED HIS MONEY
2007-12-25 15:47:57 · 3 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Apparently, your father is stressing out....
Just give him time to cool off... and if you can never go back into his house again, maybe it's no great loss, especially if he's going to be nasty and abusive. who needs it?
2007-12-25 15:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure what the argument was about but i know that i would not say don't take your dad's money. parents need to help their children whenever they can. your bf seems like a nice responsible guy and did not deserve to be treated this way. since your dad has a bad history it seems he never got help for this. you have the right to be happy and that sucks that your dad is treating you this way. so sorry
2007-12-25 23:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by Trisha heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All right!, do you think that you have to have that attitude with the people your are asking for an opinion or for a help,or an orientation?, that's no the way honey, you can't said : "I don't need to hear a stupid answer like stop digging in to your daddy's wallet" because you are thinking that we are going to accuse you, that's no fair the way you express you self about us, before you ask, leave your anger at home.! OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-26 00:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by casera 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋