i have a 17 year old son that made a false police report and almost cost my husband our job and home and other kids
2007-12-25 15:41:27 · 23 answers · asked by Anna M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wait till hes 18 then kick his *** to the curb
2007-12-25 15:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Tianna<3 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You need to get him into a program of some kind and hooked up with an in your face therapist. If he's done that, there's other stuff going on with him too. Skipping school, not doing school work, or not getting good grades, behavior problems, talking back, defiance, drugs, smoking, alcohol, sneaking out, breaking house rules. Etc. I would see if The National Guard Youth Challenge program is offered in your state, if it is, try to get him in. Or, if you have the money, a private school that specializes in troubled teens. They are normally between $3,000 to $5,000 a month. The National Guard Youth Challenge Program is free.
If you choose to not do that, at least get the school counselor on board and get him into immediately couselling. Also, have strict house rules. If these were false allegations, and if he's having major behavioral issues, no driver's license, no car, no computer, no nothing. Strip his bedroom and take away all priviledges. Earning back one at a time. Be firm, be consistent. And most importantly, don't dance with him and don't argue. You are in charge and you are the boss. He does NOT live in a Democracy, but a dictatorship. Period. Nothing is negotiable. You are in charge, so take control of your house. If you don't know how, then you and your husband need to get into counseling to learn how to parent him and take control of your parenting, your house or your children.
Sound like I've been there? Welcome to my life!
Good luck.
2007-12-25 15:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's almost an adult, and he's old enough to be responsible for his behavior. Don't think that because he's mentally ill he can't control himself and should be treated like a baby for the rest of his life. Millions and millions of bipolar sufferers manage their illness and lead fulfilling lives. Contact his school, his doctor and social services and inquire about moving him into an independent living situation for adults with special needs. There are resources out there, and there is help for him and your family. The sooner he has to take responsibility for himself, the sooner he will grow into a happy, productive person. Don't feel guilty and don't allow him to sabotage your entire family. It's time for him to grow up, and you're doing him a favor, not to mention your entire family.
2007-12-25 15:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..I'm not in favor of leaving my kids for anything, but if they start to falsely report me to the police I might have to change my mind.
See if anyone in the family will take him or put him into the system. He's almost old enough to live on his own!
He's obviously oblivious how much damage and pain he's causing you.
I love my children too, but sometimes you have to protect yourself and your other kids!
Good luck, I don't envy you!
~V.
2007-12-25 15:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him into Special Education like Sylvan or other specialized education with his diagnosis in hand and his behavior documented. Ask his psychiatrist for further ideas on getting him what he needs.
Bipolar with one offense at 17 is crucial to act upon, and will only worsen with age. If you don't act in the mental health field, his legal suffering will escalate.
Research bipolar online. There are resources galore.
And don't let the stigma of mental illness stop you. Until we all recognize its seriousness is on par with physical illness, the stigma is wasted breath.
2007-12-25 16:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Dinah 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get him into treatment !
Bipolar is very treatable, though it can take a while for the doc to find the right meds.
See www.nami.org
If nothing else, having a diagnosis on file may protect him and you in case of legal problems.
2007-12-25 15:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by redbeardthegiant 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What type of police report? Did he accuse you of theft, abuse or what?
I take it he is not on his meds? If he is not and becomes a danger to himself then you can forcibly commit him.
I would explain his condition to anyone who mattered. A boss and landlord, etc...
That way if he does it again you will have gotten ahead of the story. I am Bi-Polar myself and without my meds, my life is miserable.
2007-12-25 15:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by wcowell2000 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
seek a medical eval that might aid you to determine what meds or other treatment he needs...... he may be in need of an adjustment if he takes meds now. Work with the professionals to see if you can avoid future incidents= he can't be too happy with the current situation either.
2007-12-25 15:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Contact : International Clinical Research Associates and get him in an adult medication study. Depending on where you live there are many programs across the Country studying this disorder. He also may need some meds and time in juvi if he is aware of what he is doing.
2007-12-25 15:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Sky B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
umm u should kick him out or get him serious help
false police calls are no joking matter
there may have been soeone in serious need while the police where off on some wild goose chase...
if he wont leave or if ur afraid
u can call the cops and have them take him away [not to jail...just out of the house] and then theyll make sure he doesnt come back
2007-12-25 15:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by versus92 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you tried to get him the help he needs?
Bi-polar disorder is very serious. It's much more than just "depression." Try to be understanding. And try to get him the help he needs, which includes medication.
2007-12-25 16:50:03 · answer #11 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋