We broke up in April. He still loved me and i loved him i just needed some time to think or get things together. Well now he has a girlfriend. I know he still cares about me and i told him how i felt and how much i miss him. He simply says he has a girlfriend now. His girlfriend and i have already had it out because she read his mail when i told hime how i felt. I need him, i know i cant be without him. Please what should i do to get him back? She just isnt right for him. She already has done things to make him question his "love" for her. All ten months we were together we never had an arguement, noe did i do anything to hurt him.
2007-12-25 15:37:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think its time for a BOOTY CALL!!!!! That might win him back
2007-12-25 15:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate to break this to you, but if he has a new girlfriend he's already moved on. I don't want to sound mean but please have some respect for him and his new relationship. He obviously knows how you feel and he's choosing not to act on it.
The guy I'm seeing now has an ex who can't let go and I swear she sounds so pathetic every time she calls and begs him to come back. He's at my house every night and she calls over and over all night long. All it does is annoy the crap out of him. It just makes her look like she has no self respect, you should never allow yourself to act that way over a man, especially a man you only dated for 10 months.
I know it's hard, but you need to try to move on, he obviously has. There's someone out there for you, unfortunately this guy isn't him. If you really care about him, then you should be happy that he's found someone who makes him happy, any other reaction to his new relationship is purely selfish. When you love someone for real all you want is the other person to be happy, even if that happiness is brought into their life by someone who is not you.
I get along with my ex's new wife wonderfully. I love him to death, but I know that we are not going to be together. She makes him happy and I couldn't ask for more. She's a great girl and as long as he's happy with her that's all that matters.
2007-12-25 23:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, i was in the same boat. me and my boyriend broke up in june on our 1 year anniversary. he was dating some girl 2 years younger than him the next day. he was 18 she was 16, you can imagine how much that pissed me off. even though i didnt want to i moved on and i was happy with the guy that i chose. my ex bf was vicious, he said the worst meanest things you could ever think of saying to someone and i was miserable bc i didnt understand why he would treat me that way. 2 months later we got back together i was hesitant about it and i put it off for a month. he told me that he only went out with the first girl he could to get me upset. he's completely changed and he's been an amazing bf for the patst 4 months. no fighting.
all you can do is wait. if he really loves you he'll come back.
good luck to you. go out, be happy. i know it's hard, trust me but if it's meant to be it will always find a way.
2007-12-25 23:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by smile =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really move on. When a man loves a woman the woman doesn't have to do anything to get him back. You only think you want him, because he's with someone Else. My suggestion is for you to move on, there's a old saying never go backwards in life, move forward!
If he really loves you, then you shouldn't have to do anything.
And don't be the jealous ex- girlfriend, why are you hating on her? That's your opinion that she isn't right for him, and not his because he is with her. You should let go, and move on, you are only setting your self up for failure with this type of behavior. And while you are stressing over him, you are totally overlooking your Mr right, who you haven't even noticed. Because you are fixated about your ex. Good luck, and good new relationships!
2007-12-25 23:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sha T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never know what you had until its gone huh. Sorry but hate to break it to you but this isn't going to end like a Ben stiller movie. You hurt him when you broke up with him. And of course he will have feelings because he loved you. You have feelings for him now because he had the courage to move on and find someone else while you are crying about it. The only thing you can do to get him back is to offer him something he doesn't have.
2007-12-25 23:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Fern 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like so many of us, you sabotaged your own happiness because you were confused about your feelings. He felt you didn't care enough to stay and work things out, so he moved on. You can't blame him for that, so now you just have to bide your time and see if he is interested in dating you again if and when he breaks up with this new girl. You can't make him want to try again, nor can you determine that this girl is not what he needs or wants, that is up to him.
2007-12-25 23:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really there is not much you can do at this point otherwise then tell him how you feel. But only do it once becuase once is enough for him to know. Don't bother him and tell him all the time cuz this could only push him away. If he decides he wants to try things again, he'll let you know. It's not up to you to decide whether or not he wants to leave this girl so let things be, they'll work out how their supposed too.
2007-12-25 23:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by Roxy1316 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what the answer should be. Let him go. People who reach that point where they "need time" don't ever really. You both reached a point where you were like "I could live without you," and now that he's living without you, you change your mind. It might be lonely for awhile and thats making it harder for you to think about when you didn't "need" him but you don't. You'll find someone else who doesn't have a girlfriend and you NEED to understand now that he moved on. Let them be.
2007-12-25 23:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Know the old saying. If you love them let them go, if it was ment to be they'll be back. SO TRUE! You need to move on he has, go out have some fun and forget about him obviosuly he no problem doing that with you.
2007-12-25 23:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by christin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I ended up losing my very best friend in a very similar situation... If he wants to be with this other girl... let him... he knows that you feel for him, and that you will be there no matter what.. So, now its your job to ride it out, and not let his relationship with this other girl get to you too bad... If she's not right for him, and is doing things that make him skeptical of her, then hopefully he will cut her loose soon...
Hang in there girl...
2007-12-25 23:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by Most Argumentative 07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to let this go or it will end up an obsession. Your ex and his girlfriend both let you know they have a relationship together and you are not in it. Sorry.
2007-12-25 23:52:54 · answer #11 · answered by lovely_one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋