How to deal with a break up????

Question

I just broke up with my girlfriend and it's getting hard to deal with it. I still love her and care for her, and still want to be with her... but I just can't. I mean she said she'd take me back but I can't. I told her I wouldn't hurt her and I need numerous times, and I treated her wrong, even though she claims I didn't. I acted like a asshole the night before we broke up and it really got to me to the point were I couldn't cope with it and just had to break up with her. Anybody know how I deal with this or do about this?

Answer 1

Find some balls, man up and go back to her. Learn from your mistakes and make the relationship go.

If you don't want to go back because you don't lover her or she isn't the right one, that is fine.

But, if you are not going back because it will be hard or you will have to work at it, then go to a strip club. You don't deserve her.

Biggest mistake people make and why relationships fail is that people don't realize that they require work and commitment.

Answer 2

That's a terrible situation to be in. I say be open and honest with her. Tell her you don't want to hurt her anymore and you need some time to yourself to truly appreciate how special she really was, what a large part of your life she was. Then, if you think you can try again withotu hurting her and she is willing, then it's worth a shot.

But if you broke up with her, that's red flags that maybe you feel there is something missing between the two of you, and that's okay. If it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

There's a saying that goes... there is a TIME for everything...

I think in your case, you need a TIME alone with no one else but yourself... a TIME to mourn, a TIME to cry... and after you have let go of all your sad emotions within you then it's TIME for you to move on...

Well, I presume your decision to break up with her is a well-thought, carefully-made decision. I respect that.

I think in a relationship that works, both parties should always be able to come to a compromise or an agreement in dealing with issues of the heart no matter how hard it gets.

When a compromise or an agreement cannot be reached... I think it's only FAIR to break up... I mean, obviously there is no point staying in a relationship in which you are not happy with.

To help you move on... I think you need to write a letter to her to clearly explain to her why you did what you had to do.

Don't rush in finishing the letter... draft one... read thru it a few times with an open mind... and made changes where needed... bottomline the letter should be able to help her clearly see the situation from your point of view and your stand.

When you know she accepts and respects your explanation and decision in a positive manner then you know it's TIME to move on :).

I think breaking up should not make people feel bitter or become enemies... It should make us better.

I think even after the break up, both of you can still remain as "normal friends". The break up is only the end of your "romantic relationship" it's not the end of "friendship".

If both of you are able to see the bright side of the break up... that will certainly help.

So, good luck brother! :)

Answer 4

If you are gonna be a jerk, what can anyone do about it? Even if you have someone to put up with your lousy behavior, you have to deal with your own issues. Since you can't be with her and shouldn't, you need to deal with yourself, so you don't treat everyone like this in the future.

Sounds like you got some anger issues, ya might wanna talk to a pro to get that under control. You cannot make promises to someone when you can't trust yourself. You got some "homework" to do before being with anyone else.

Answer 5

Well you're already doing the right thing by not going back to her if you know you were treating her wrongly. It's also good if you and your ex can stay friends.

I would suggest concentrating on the positive things in your life (career? family? friends? etc) while you get over her, and speak to your friends and get support. Someone else will come along in no time and you can have a fresh start =]

Answer 6

A break up around the holidays is bad. Here's the best thing to do move out of town, go to Europe, meditate, do yoga, have a torrid affair with a transition woman who won't break your heart--have fun. Thing is, it's hard to forget a love, a life--walking away is like tearing a hole in the universe. If you go back, ask yourself this--are we good for each other. Can she live with out me, can I live without her. Try thinking about the other person, not yourself--what's best for them?

Answer 7

You should really check out Michael Fiore's video on how to get your ex back in a matter of days through text messages. It's crazy but it works, I never believed I could get back with my ex wife in this life time but it did happened. I cheated on her a lot of times and still we are back together (won't do it again), unbelievable what some psychology can do.

Anyway, watch the video here: http://www.textyourexback.link - it will blow your mind. Good luck!

Answer 8

Don't do anything drastic is my suggestion.
Try to find a way to have your cooler head prevail.

Look into reengaging with other friends you have and joining a club of some kind (sports/drama) if you're in school.

Relax and try to find some good hobbies I would suggest and just take it slow, 1 day at a time....

Answer 9

LEARN from your mistakes and never do these things again. Realizing you LEARNED something should ease the pain a little. Allow yourself some grieving time, but don't wallow. It makes NO sense to make yourself miserable. It takes too much energy that you could be using in a positive way. Treat yourself well, realize we all make mistakes but the smart ones learn. Good luck!

Answer 10

ok so im only 13 but im really good at these relationship things cuz i deal with this all the time with my best freinds and bfs.

if i were you id probably talk to her one on one facing each other where theres not so much commotion and talk about how you still love her and want to be with her and she means the whole world to you that if you ever were apart for too long you wouldnt live your life in a normal way. try not to go to fast on trying to get things going in a ok mood swing take everything calmly and apologize for how you've been an asshole that night you broke up with each other. all you need to do is talk to her CALMLY idk if you want to go back with her but its your choice so good luck and i hope i helped!!