I m 21years old I love my boyfriend. We are planning to get married my dad told me if I give up having him pay for a wedding reception , He will pay for a small wedding andmy brand new car I got (I could afford that if I needed to). I thought sure I will pay for the wedding reception and he can pay my car off. Today my fiancee and i brought that up. I said all you have to pay is the car and a wedding dress, I said you don't have to pay for the church or preacher or anything. He said no if he paid for the car that no one else could help me pay for a wedding if someoone helped then no car. he started yelling at my fiancee because his job just cut his hours but he got transfered so he is back at 40hrs. My dad started saying he was no good he was worthless, he plans to be a pilot and he is joining the air force. He is starting a great career and Im wanting to go to college to be a teacher. Anyway he chased my fiancee out the door and swung at him. My boyfriend did not swing.
2007-12-25 14:52:09 · 5 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My question is how do I comfort my fiancee he is upset. They had gotten along before. My dad is also know for physically and mentally abusing me and my mom. Im a little upset to because he told us we are never allowed at ther house.
2007-12-25 14:57:25 · update #1
Your dad is power hungry. If I were you, I would tell your mom about any wedding plans you may have. Pay for the wedding yourself and pay off your car yourself. Do not let your dad pay for anything. And make sure you tell all of your guests that you and your hubby paid for everything. This will make your dad look cheap and he will like a fool infront of all of the people at the wedding and he will be so mad that everyone will know what kind of a person he is. Which will make him even madder. And you will be away from him with a loving husband and not have to worry about him again.
You really do not need a control freak in your life like your dad.
2007-12-25 15:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your dad needs some mental help. If your really in love just go to the justice of the peace and do a big wedding after you get your careers started.
2007-12-25 23:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by stacie387 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your dad that if he keeps on doing things like that he will end up losing you because he is affecting your life emotionally.... and if you really love your fiance, then go with him, I'm sure you will have a better life with him...
Good luck, merry Christmas and congratulations on your wedding!!!
2007-12-25 23:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs some kind of help but in the meantime, I'd stay away from him. Anyone that uses violence to solve their problems has no place in my life.
2007-12-26 10:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well screw him. you're 21 years old. you can do what you want.
and personally i wouldnt wanna know someone that had abused you in the past.
2007-12-25 23:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by XxAkaneSoraxX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋