1.)I've been friends with this girl for a few months, she had a boyfriend then, but he cheated on her a couple months ago, so I was there to cheer her up of course. (She already had some rebound guy)
2.) We started talking seriously while I was vacationing in Florida. She'd ask me to call her, and always wanted to talk with me etc... and our conversations would be long and great.
3.) I get back, and hang out with her a few times, and we had a great time together, she'd always want to be close to me and cuddle. Continued the good late night phone conversatons and everything.
4.) One random night, she goes to a friends house, and comes back home having a new boyfriend, that I'm assuming her friend hooked her up with.
5.) Now she won't even talk to me, and I'm wondering what the hell I could have done, or what could possibly have gone through her head. She won't even talk as friends, or respond to my IMs, or anything...i dont get it
2007-12-25 14:43:38 · 17 answers · asked by The Man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe she's feeling guilt? i honestly don't know
2007-12-25 14:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dagon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't want to hear this but it sounds to me as though she doesn't think of you as boyfriend material, just a really close friend. You have two options.....tell her how you feel and take your chances (you could lose her completely if she doesn't reciprocate your feelings) or keep doing what you're doing....be there for her as a friend and don't push for anything more. Maybe she will see you in a different way someday. You are probably the kind of guy every woman wants---they just don't know it until they go through a whole bunch of the wrong kind. GOOD LUCK!
2007-12-25 22:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im just trying to help...
*Don't blame yourself. If you have no idea what you could have done wrong then its obvious that you didn't.
*Maybe her friend could have told her something about you that wasn't true? Maybe she wanted to break you 2 up?
*Maybe she was just looking for a boytoy until she found a new boyfriend (like a backup, sortof?)
*im really sorry that this happened! nobody deserves to be treated this way. Thats really all the possibilities i could think of. Best of Luck!
2007-12-25 22:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by miss alyss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wth? Hm, she was probably using you for comfort, time, conversation. She's obviously nothing if she just up and left you like that, that's wrong as hell. Or she did have feelings for you and she was waiting on you to make the first move and you took to long so she moved on. Whatever it was she is still wrong for just leaving you in the dust the way she did.
2007-12-25 22:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Tia08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do hope you aren't being used by her as a fail safe when she's in between other boyfriends. It happens.
If she really does respect you, she will level with you when you ask her about her behavior. But, for your own piece of mind, don't take much she says seriously.
I doubt that you did anything wrong at all. You may have to adjust your thinking about what she means to you, and vice versa.
2007-12-25 22:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by ThisIsIt! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. The boyfriend is the jealous type, so she can't IM you.
2. She is in total confusion.
3. She hasn't have a choice.
So I guess you gotta give her some space and rush to her rescue when she breaks up with him eventually.
2007-12-25 23:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows. But if she's going to be that fickle then the friendship wasn't that real to begin with. Sounds like she was using you till she found a new guy. Forget her and focus on finding a friend/girlfriend who will appreciate you and what you have to offer.
2007-12-25 22:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Q-mama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got caught being the nice guy. Now she went and hooked up with someone else and frankly isn't being nice! You did nothing wrong from what you wrote and nice guys DON'T always finish last.... there will be someone out there for you. Good Luck!
2007-12-25 22:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by laura 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to her house one random night when shes the only one there and just ask her, "what could i've done to you to rewin our friendship?" and if you get a chance to tell her how you fell about her.and if she stops talkin to you then she doesn't care.But if you really like her don't give up!! send her some roses,chocolate or something like that.
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2007-12-25 22:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by s.boardway419 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. Umm maybe she Though that U dont Like her and she Found some other Guy or maybe she Just Though that your Just a Really Good Friend that she can tell everything To and do anything with!
2007-12-25 22:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know this guy is he the type that would tell her to stop talking to you if not maybe shes moved on but theres plenty girly fishies swimming in the sea
2007-12-25 22:49:31 · answer #11 · answered by <3 TiNY<3 aSiAn cAllMe< 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋