ok my mom was watching t.v and i was in my room my dad comes out and says these weird stuff and he left but i think he will come out again and start to fight with my mom im scared im shaking right now im biting my fingernails please help me
merry christmas
2007-12-25 14:36:07 · 27 answers · asked by John sXe (Straight Edge Savior) 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my father is an alcoholic my mum finally left him after 26 years of marriage,us kids are older now but when we all lived together sometimes dad would me the most nicest kindest person in the world but alot of the time whan he was drunk he was so scary he used to frighten us all. I love my dad I just hate how he is when hes drunk,what hes gonna say,scream or yell,what hes gonna throw or where hes gonna take of too. He would leave in taxis and sometimes we wouldnt want him to come back. It was awful to live with that we always wished that he would stop drinking and would always tell him so and say that if he loved us he would stop,we felt it was some way our fault.but it wasnt its a disease and a very sad one the only person who can stop them is themselves. I understand exactly how you are feeling but i dont really know how to help we just used to try and stay outa his way.
2007-12-25 14:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew your age. I don't know why people post a question such as yours and don't tell their age. That would definitely make a big difference as to how I answer your question. I suggest you try to talk privately to your Mom and ask her if she thinks you should call the cops or something. You don't need to put yourself in jeopardy and be worried about your Mom especially on Christmas. Do you have an adult relative you can call? Maybe if another adult was there he would be quiet and not scare you.
2007-12-25 22:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they begin to fight...
Do not get in the middle. If things get physical and you are very afraid of what your father might do, call the police. I know that is a hard thing to do and it won't necessarily make things easier in the future, but you can be the judge whether it is necessary or not.
I know this isn't easy. When you are ready, I would suggest talking to a trusted adult (guidance counselor, teacher, etc) about what is going on at home, because it seems very scary. In fact, I know it is, my parents divorced over my dad's alcoholism.
Stay strong and smart, my friend.
2007-12-25 22:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by Coffin33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're in school, tell your school counselor ASAP. In the mean time try and call a counselor or contact someone at your states Department of Human Services or Child and Family Services (every state has a different name.)
You need to get counseling and a counselor can better assess your situation and see if your family needs outside help or if your dad needs intervention.
2007-12-25 22:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by ladyellei 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry I know how you feel. Just try to stay out of the fight but if it gets physical you should call the police. Try not to worry. Just think about good things. Does this happen a lot?
2007-12-25 22:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your mom need to leave the house until he sobers up if you can go to a family members or friends house if you are unable to leave try to stay out of his way until he is sober my dad was a drinker so i know. If that doesn't work keep a phone near and if things start to heat up CALL 911!!! i'll be praying for you please when its all over leave a comment on here to let us know your ok
Take care
2007-12-25 22:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bless you and say a prayer and call the cops if it gets out of control....talk to your mom about your concerns...if she is responsible she will help. Are you sure is still drunk? I know by GF yanks and twist my chain until I explode sometimes..and I am passive..
2007-12-25 22:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by 2A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First pray, secondly if he does come back and seems to be abusive to your mother, do not be afraid to call 911. He may be your father, but abuse is wrong, and not to mention, you should not have to listen to that. I grew up with an alcoholic as well, so I can relate.
2007-12-25 22:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by Shelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK if he puts his hands on you or your mom then call 911 and report him he may need anger management and some time in a box to think
2007-12-25 22:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What ca "i" do???...i am on the other side of the Universe...it is u'r mother fault 2 stay w/him; lock him up until will be soberer.....or instant combustion, happened 2 some ppl.in the sleep b/c they consumed 2 much alchohol.
2007-12-25 22:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by SANTINEL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋