Over the past two months I became friends with this girl in physics class. She always makes an effort to talk to me and be nice, and even made me a cd for me a while back after she asked me if I liked a band. She also copied notes for me and asked me my number recently, so we could study together. When we got done studying and I was walking to my car she stopped and picked me up and we talked in her car. We went and got coffee at school the next day after she waited a few mins for me to finish our exam. She also dropped out of her lab project group to be in mine after I couldn't get in hers. She then asked me to goto church with her recently, and we've studied together outside of school. In passing one time she said didn't want a relationship when talking about this guy from church that called her...we've been hanging out for a few weeks now at her house or going out to other places.
2007-12-25 14:17:38 · 6 answers · asked by cracky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's very much into christianity which I can deal with since I'm an agnostic leaning towards christianity, but I dunno if she would be very tolerant of some of the stuff I like - she didn't seem to enjoy me watching family guy at her house, even though she said "no offense if you like it". But, we get along great and we like alot of the same music and act similiarly. Everytime I invite her out to do something, she brings her sister (whom I've met before) or a friend...which I take as meaning she isn't interested in just being with me yet. After all this time she still hasn't said anything about becoming more, at all. I don't want to confront her unless I know for sure she likes me (and likes me for who I am), since I don't want to get attached and take this farther than it should. Is it normal for a girl to go through all this to get to know some guy she barely talks to in class? I am ok with being friends with her, I just wish it could be more.
2007-12-25 14:18:06 · update #1
...besides getting it hand to you on a silver platter, what else
do you want...oh! one more note, do it something on your own
initiative with help her, it will really make it a relationship.
2007-12-28 13:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm similiar to this girl. When I enjoy hanging out with a friend (doesn't matter if it's a boy or girl), I will go out of my way to do things with them. A lot of times my guy friends will end up asking me out when I just thought we had a brother/sister relationship. I relalize now that if I keep giving attention to boys they will assume I like them, even though I just want to be friends with them and enjoy their company. A lot of boys don't see it that way so I have to be careful. It took me a little while to realize that.
Since the girl is bringing her sister or friend along with her, I think she is showing you that she just wants to be friends. I would bring a friend along with me when I didn't want the guy thinking I like them and that we were just friends.
Sometimes later on, I might develop a crush on one of my friends, but it usually took awhile to develop. When that happens, I wouldn't bring a friend along with me.
Think about the girl's age too. How old is she? When I was younger, I just stayed with groups and didn't single date.
I wouldn't make a move unless I knew the person liked me. Whenever my guy friends told me they liked me, I ended up treating them differently--I was more cautious, so I wouldn't lead them on. Our relationship was never the same as it was before they told me. I think that is more my fault, but I don't want to lead anyone on.
Now that I'm older, if I like a boy, I will tell them that I like them. My motto is: They won't know, unless I tell them. This girl seems young, so I don't think she is at that stage yet. If she hasn't had a boyfriend before, she can be kind of nervous into getting into a relationship too.
2007-12-25 16:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by sgrag3003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh, if you can stand to put up with those fairy tales, I guess you should ask her out. The worst thing that could happen is that she would say no. Religion will impair your ability to understand the female psyche though. Good night!
2007-12-25 14:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what she's telling you is this: "I want to be your girl friend, but it can't go any further than that at this time." I think she is a religious girl with religious convictions regarding "proper" conduct.
Do you catch my drift? No premarital sex.
2007-12-25 14:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Signor Spaghetti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just looks like you two could be someting more in the future, but as of right now, just friends. keep it going though, and from what it sounds like, you two could have something soon.
2007-12-25 14:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful what you wish for...
2007-12-25 14:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by madmike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋