I mean little spats about things like doing dishes or where to go out..
ღBF and I have been together for 9 mo and have just had our first spat. We never yell or raise our voice at each other (we are in our 30's BTW) Is that too soon for a first argument?
2007-12-25 14:05:06 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We had our first argument about 36 hours after we met.....we've been married now 32 years.
Each couple and each circumstance is different.
Don't compare yourself to anyone else.....just do the best you can in your relationship.
2007-12-25 14:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not too soon for an argument, actually I'm surprised that you have lasted nine months without one. Although some people are easier to get along with than others, an argument may be a platform for you to fix something or change something that the two of you may or may not be doing in the relationship. Don't freak out, just figure out what is going on, why, and what you two can do to fix it.
The most important thing is that you both are committed to work it out, compromise, etc.
As far as doing the dishes, hopefully the two of you can cook together and clean together. My husband and I love that quality time when we are NOT in front of a TV or computer and we can laugh and talk about our day. Most families seem to come together in the kitchen; it is where we pass, gather, and mingle. No matter how small or large the family, look at it as a place of joy, not chores.
2007-12-25 22:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Its good that you care to find out if it is, it shows that you really care about your relationship. I wouldn't worry to much about it because its normal to have little spats now and again. On the brighter side after a fight everyone gets there feelings out in the open and you have two choices. You can both say forget this and walk away or say OK how do we fix this so it never happens again. Since you care I can tell that you and your partner communicate well which is a key factor for any relationship even if its a fight. I hope you and your partner work things out and can learn from this experience.
2007-12-25 22:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by austin_mssu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I've been going out with my BF for almost 2 years and we have had ton of arguments to the point where voices have been raised and tears have been shed and no arguments happen and people make up if you love each other you'll forgive each other and put it in the past I'm actually surprised that you just had your first one i think you guys can go along time, don't worry about it, its not to soon normally i would think the first argument would be in the first 1 or 2 months, Good Job in what your doing and keep it up =] don't let it get to you. =]
2007-12-25 22:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by appleeater395 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm still waiting for our first argument, but it hasn't happened yet and we've been married for 8 months. Is it because I give, he gives and we let the little things go for goodness sake?...we think so. We've both been in previous relationships where arguments and voices raised happened often, so we are thankful everyday for each other...I think it all comes down to respect and companionship and general politeness. If you are kind to the person who means the most to you in the world, and he is kind to you as well, then there really shouldn't be any arguments. I think you are doing great with one little spat..as long as you both come around to understanding why it happened and how to avoid such a conflict later, you're doing wonderfully.
2007-12-25 22:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Beach Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the people! If one or both you are hotheads, then arguments will happen more often. I've been with my bf for almost 3 years now, and we had our first real argument about a year and a half after being together. It was all smooth at first!
Once you get to know the person for too long and you start caring about them more, the more you will argue.
Good luck!
2007-12-25 22:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by bluegirl87 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter if its too soon for an argument or not they happen. relationships not only come with the comfort of love they also have the tendencies to come with the spats and arguments and just the little things that get on our nerves to make it go on and on forever...the never ending argument...
2007-12-25 23:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by 1 UnIqUe InDiViDuAl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little concerned too. Maybe you two just need to sit down and get things into perspective before things get out of hand.
Often when families have problems all you need to do is sit down with a pen and pencil , write down the problem. And sit there till you come up with a solution to the problem:) The same advice works well for raising children....hint, hint :)
2007-12-25 22:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys did pretty good if you hadn't had an argument for 9mo until now. I think you'll begin to know when too much arguing is going on. like if you're arguing almost every week about something different or the same thing. Especially if you're arguing about the same thing then there's something definitely wrong.
2007-12-25 22:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well do you think that your "spat" was a little bite childish? Dishes don't really sound like grounds to start a fight. Maybe you guys are a little upset about something else......
2007-12-26 16:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by school girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just depends on you and the other half to how often you argue. Me and the wife rarely argue. But on the other hand our son and daughter inlaw do this quite regular. Guess they have not learned to over look small stuff and talk about the rest while keeping the other point of view in sight.
2007-12-25 22:37:09 · answer #11 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋