My husband ben was married before and has a 7 yr old son with his exwife.The problem is his exwife hates me and is very jealous of me. So his exwife is allways getting gifts for my husband that makes "diggs" at me and reminds him how inportant she is for giving him a child.For example for x-mas she gave him a very nice frame with a 8x10 pic of her,my husband and thier son that said "our family" or for my husbands b-day she gave him a nice dish that had poem about thier son and how he was made in love. If she just wanted to have thier son give a gift why not have him make one? Why does she do this and what should i do?
2007-12-25 14:01:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just ignore her. She has lost the man for you and you have him now. As far as the son goes, give him love as he is just an innocent boy. Best of luck.
2007-12-25 14:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by syehusin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if you are jealous.
As they have a son together, your husbands ex wife is always going to play a massive part in your husbands life, and to be honest, the best thing you can do, for yourself as well as him, is to accept that fact.
Coming between them will only result in trouble and hard feelings.
Why not make the effort to try and get on with this women ?
Perhaps invite her and her son over for dinner one day.
I personally think that by giving your husband such nice gifts, she is being very thoughtful.
May i also suggest that you make your husband aware of how you are feeling.
2007-12-25 14:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that he should have a talk with her and tell her to stop sending him things ,the marriage is over and the only thing that they have in common now is their son. So it is totally up to your husband to send these gifts back . He has a new family now and he needs to move on as well.
2007-12-25 14:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by bornfree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore what you think that she means. They do have a son together and the gifts are sweet from HIM. Have you talked to your husband about it if it makes you feel so bad? He may be able to have a word with her. I do sympathise as i have a stepson too and his mum some times makes me feel inadequate. Though we have a daughter together the other day she reminded him that she managed to give him a son and i only a daughter. I talked to him and he reassured me.
2007-12-25 14:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney and Jazmine's mummy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is much YOU can do about it. That is something your husband should deal with. If you attempt to do anything about it yourself it would just show her how much it drives you crazy and if she is jealous she would like that. The best thing to do is ignore it. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing it bugs you.
2007-12-25 14:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by shadowdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she does it because she's still emotionally attached to your husband.. but they are divorced and he has moved on, so he has no attachment, obviously.
he's married to YOU now... just ignore it, just as i'm sure your husband does....
this has nothing to do with YOU.. she gives him gifts because she cant let go. it's not about hating you...
i feel sorry for her... and would if i were in your shoes, too.
just take care of YOU... that's the best you can do.
2007-12-25 14:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming this upsets your husband too? If so, he needs to return them to her and ask her to discontinue this behavior. And if she continues, he just gives them back.
2007-12-25 14:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋