she has been gay for a long time & always said to me that if she was going to turn strait is would be for me, around 3 years ago she meet a guy on the net that she fell inlove with, she has known for most of the time we have known ea other how i feel & she has said that she has thought about us, she wants kids & has said she thinks we would be gr8 together, but the other day she asked me to get a loan to pay for a trip to the us for her & me so she can go & find out if this thing between her & her online bf can work, she says she need me to be there with her, we live together atm, & she knows it will rip my heart out to do it for her, but deep down she knows i will do anything for her.
Am i letting her take to much from me?, should i pay & go with her to the us?, should i just wait it out & hope?, or should i move out & just walk away?
Btw i do everything for her & her bf treats her like she's just there when he wants, should that matter? & how much does it matter?
2007-12-25 13:50:01 · 16 answers · asked by Glenn H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So, if you take her and she likes the online BF then she stays with him. If she doesn't like him she goes with you?? Sounds like she is very selfish. She has to make this decision on her own....walk away from her.
2007-12-25 13:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by tanzer360 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro...."she has been gay for a long time " this tells me she will never be straight...it is no point chasing her..she will most likely not have feelings for you...I know you feel very hurt atm but it is best to move on..
If you were to get together she may fall gay again and that would be even more painful for you....
"she thinks we would be gr8 together" if so why does she want you to see her dating another guy?....
If you pay and go ahead you will most likely be in for another painful round...my suggestion is to respect her and walk away.....
2007-12-25 13:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel bad in telling you this but it sounds kinda like a game. I use to play the same thing with a guy I loved. I was scared and tested his love way way to much. In the end I ended up ripping his heart out and I found out the value of what I had just a little two late. Luckily for me we worked things out but it took years for us to work out the many damages that I had created. I wouldn't pay for a trip for her to possible hook up with another guy but your both going to do what ever your going to do. I really do wish you the best of luck and hope that you both find a way to work things out if not with love at lest with a friendship. A true friend is so hard to find these days/
2007-12-25 13:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by austin_mssu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a good friend first, and be true to yourself too. Stay home, and give her the ear she needs. She needs to figure this out for herself. It will be too hard on you to go on this trip. Give her the loan if you must (I don't think I would though, and don't do it if you can't afford to never get paid back). If you are meant to be, it will happen. She is asking way too much of you and your friendship and the love you have for her, to ask you to take this trip. Good luck to you.
2007-12-25 13:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you pay for her to meet up with her online BF, you'll be making the biggest mistake of you're life. You'll literally be handing her over and your heart will break there and then.
2007-12-25 13:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl just sounds like someone who knows she can get you to do anything. Don't take the bait. She's not committed herself to you.Let her handle her own problems. She's just taking advantage of you and your love for her.Find a woman who returns your love. Stop pining for this girl.
2007-12-25 13:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy Horse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to back out of this situation Quickly. for your own personal welfare and do not give her any money. You are being used in a big way. Run for your life.
2007-12-25 13:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by sandy t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u do decide to pay for the trip for the 2 of u to go to the us, it could be a whole new adventure for the both of u..
and if ur gay, ur gay. u can't turn straight even if u wanted to. she might be bi, but not gay.
2007-12-25 13:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she's taking advantage of you. just tell her nicely to go alone and if something happens and she needs you there, then you'll go. or else, its no point being the extra person in her r/ship with the guy.
2007-12-25 13:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about time to ask her if she loves you so that you can move on. GOD will surely wants you to have a lifetime partner to share your happy and sad moments.
It's Christmas time! Allow me to extend my warmest season's greetings to you and your entire family. May the new born baby JESUS continue to bless you with good health, abundant love and prosperity!
Merry Christmas to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-25 13:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mutya P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋