My boyfriend and I are 2.5 hours apart. He wants me to move where he lives. He likes me to visit him of course and shows that he cares about me a lot, but he takes very little effort to visit me so I am not so sure how much he cares....this could be a money issue also because he says it is expensive to travel. He doesn't find it necessary to call me everyday...but when we do talk we talk for at least an hour. When we talk he lets me know how much he loves me and how I am his better half, but why does he not take more effort to visit or call everyday? Is how he is acting normal in a long distance relationship?
P.S. I know that he is not cheating because I got to meet his parents who loved me and I do trust him and we aren't sexually active.
2007-12-25 13:32:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He can't move to where I am because of his job.
2007-12-25 13:37:54 · update #1
Your probably going to cheat on him eventually once you see someone you like that lives close its what always happens when people are far away.
2007-12-25 13:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A love relationship is not only the responsibility of the man but of the two of you.In your piece , all you kept saying is why does he not do this or do that not we have this problem. Why can't you visit him also, or call him every day or do all the things you want him to do.Don't you love him and are you not also in this relationship; isn't a relationship made of two people--a couple.Even if he did all you want, it still will not mean you are in a romance because you are not doing your own part to make it work. It takes two people to make a relationship. Think about it and if you agree with me , then start doing your share instead of just sitting down and complaining.
2007-12-25 13:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the way he is for whatever reason. Could be he does not want to spend the money or maybe he does not want to put in the effort. If it bothers you, do not continue the relationship, because it will not get any better. If he really cared for you a lot, he would make sure the burden of travel and phone expenses was shared equally.
My suggestion, look for someone closer and is who willing to share equally.
2007-12-25 13:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by Tony d:-) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL!
Only difference is my boyfriend stays like maybe six seven streets behind my house in a sub-division or whatever they are called. Our schedules be conflicting and in like two weeks he'll be leaving to move to Dallas and part of me feels like I won't be able to take it, but I don't want to break up with him (again... long story but it was only for four days) because that's like throwing two years down the drain. I can go on and on about me and my boy, but I'm not. You asked the question.
I would say talk to him and try to feel him out. See what it is really going on in his head. Ask him if you can make the effort why can't he? Long distance relationships are one hell of a test and it challenges both sides in great proportions and after a while you start having negative thoughts so it's best to get your thoughts and feeling out and on the table now before it reaches the point I'm at. I plan on having this same convo with my guy soon.
I wish you luck though.
2007-12-25 13:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by Inspired Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you from years of experience...I am 30 and in my 15 years of dating, long distance never works out how you want it. I find when a person will not sacrifice but wants you to, that is a true sign he cares about himself more than you. If you do really love each other compromise and move in the middle of both of you. Find a job that is closer to that area and start from there. Sweetie, don't let meeting his parents make you think he would/wouldn't cheat on you. Many of men/women could care less about that aspect they do what they want and move on. I sure hope your trust is right and things work out for both of you!
2007-12-25 13:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either move to his pad or respect that u do not have a majorly demanding relationship but u still love eachother deeply. Long distance relationships are just that--- not close distance relationships. That means you dont have to talk on the phone everyday or see eachother every week. Cherish the occasion of meeting and talking. Dont dwell on it. Relationships are meaningful if they make u happy. If you can't handle that kind of relationship end it or move closer.
2007-12-25 13:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you talked every day you wouldnt have all that much to talk about so be thankful for that... trust me i've been in a few long distance relationships. the visiting thing i dont know. it could be because you are not sexually active (not that i am saying you should be!) he may not see a whole lot of reason to put himself out there.
2007-12-25 13:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are young and unmarried and this is not the time to be considering such things, I would say a long distance relationship will be hard. Nothing wrong with remaining friends and if your paths should cross again in the future, hook up. Tough choices, but you will make the right move.
2007-12-25 13:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Chuck O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be asking your boyfriend these questions first. He will know better than anyone here. But as for advice, I would say just relax and let it pan out. If it becomes too much of a problem then just end it. Sometimes the simple advice is the best!
2007-12-25 13:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by justin l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, lacrosselover is correct. Your lucky to have him eventhough you have a long distance relationship. Being near to each other is not a big deal anyway.
Communication is the key. You do your best effort to communicate to him. If you make your time together make the most of it!
2007-12-25 13:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down
your over reacting 2.5 hours is not a long distance relation ship plus some guys don't like to talk on the pone
example me
im him or talk to him on myspace
plus gas is expensive to drive there everyday
2007-12-25 13:39:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋