When she is drunk? I know everything about her disease so i don't need advice about that. Ive been going through this for years and still don't know how to react when she is drunk. I hate saying this but she is hopeless in getting better. She has even been in the klink two times in the past two years. Served a hard 3-4 months. And has been in treatment too many times to count and some other halfway house thing and still no luck. Anway im 16 so i have to spend two more years here until i am outta here. What ami supposed to do for two more years! Its practically tearing me apart and my home isnt a home anymore its HELLL! would appreciate alot of answers! thank you
2007-12-25 13:11:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do you have another family member you can move in with until you finish school? Dad, Grandparents, Aunt, Uncle? If so that would be best for you.
2007-12-25 13:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems like the 'klink' isn't going to work, because she wants to drink. What you need to focus on is changing her mind about alcohol. Is there anyone else in your family that she listens to? Maybe an aunt or grandmother or something?
If there is ANYONE that she'll listen to (don't rule yourself out) get all of them to talk to her CONSTANTLY to tell her about her problem, and have some type of proof to show how it is negatively affecting all of you.
Sadly, another thing you may want to be thinking about is finding somewhere to stay. The sad truth is that in these situations, a lot of times the child is suddenly faced with a situation where they need to quickly find somewhere else to stay.
Whatever you do, learn from this and avoid becoming the same way. One thing the world does NOT need is another alcoholic.
2007-12-25 13:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek other family for living with instead.
If there is no other family to ask, find a pastor of a church to help you find people willing to interview for guardianship, if your state grants people 16 legal rights to choose for yourself. In my state, the age is 14.
If there is no pastor of a church, make an appointment with your school counselor to learn your options.
If you have no counselor, find your county DFCS phone number -- every county administers this federal Department of Family and Children Services outreach program. Be sure to determine your legal rights in your state FIRST, because if you're not old enough yet, the county can enjoin the state to foster you, which is not necessarily always a well-screened program.
With your chosen adult mentor, find first your legal rights, if other family cannot be an option, with a reputable lawyer.
2007-12-25 17:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Dinah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look on the internet for information about ala-teen. It's a group for teenagers with alcoholic parents. You will find lots of information about dealing with your mom. Sadly, having an alcoholic parent is a common problem even though it doesn't feel like one. But there is help out there, and having people to talk to who understand your situation will help you. The people in ala-teen have been in your shoes and they will understand. Good luck.
2007-12-25 15:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by shadowdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know all about alcoholism, then why aren't you in Alanon, hon?
Living with an alcoholic affects our lives, and we need support. And Alanon is a support group especially for people like you.
Alateen might help, also.
You need to take care of YOU.. that is the number one rule when living with an alcoholic... take care of YOU... not her.
I'm sorry for your pain and living situation. Perhaps if you try alanon and/or alateen (or even adult children of alcoholics), you may get the support you need right now.
hugs.
2007-12-25 13:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear I'm sorry for your mother and all that she is missing watching her children grow up, its to bad she don't realize how much damage she is doing to your lives?or how much you'll all resent her-later?i don't have any wise wisdom to give you,but if you can keep a lot of good friends around you, so you can vent or dry on-there shoulder, it may help some,ask around at school, for some alanon classes or youth classes, so you can be among other kids with same or worse problems.try to have faith, and remember there is always , hope. you will make it and hopefully you will learn from this experience and it will make you a stronger-wiser person?i hope all gets better soon, god bless you and good luck.
2007-12-25 13:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away. Bring all your stuff. Stay with a friend, or a relative. Keep going to school & get a job. The only other alternative is being in foster care or juvie.
2007-12-25 13:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your parents divorced? If they are, tell your mom your going to live with your dad, or other family member. If they arnt then tell your dad, and if this doesnt work live with a grandparent or aunt.
2007-12-25 13:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by phil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum is drunk now
She yelled at me for telling her to shut up while she was playing singstar at 2 am... grrrr i hate her so much somethimes
2007-12-25 13:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Dais' 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do like i did to my brother....wait till they are drunk and go drive then call 911 they get arrested and i swear this works. my brother WILL NOT TOUCH ALCOHOL! not even rubbing alcohol....roflmao and he still dont know it was me.
2007-12-25 13:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋