Ok, so we went to camp together from the time we were 4 to 14...It was a big camp and we kind of knew each other, but weren't necessarily best friends or anything. After 3 years, I have found her on facebook and now we're facebook friends. I've always had a crush on her and now I feel like I might be ready enough to ask her out or something. Yet, I haven't said a word to her in 3 years. I can send her a message, but it would probably seem really random. What should I say? She's way, way out of my league, but according to her profile she's single. Can I just randomly ask her to hang out even if we were never really friends? What if she doesn't remember me? How should I play this and what should I say? I'm obsessing...
2007-12-25 12:57:29 · 4 answers · asked by Mick J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She lives one town over, so our lives have not yet moved apart yet, at least not logistically.
2007-12-25 13:07:11 · update #1
The only way to get yourself to stop obsessing is to say something to her. But you gotta take it slow. I found a friend of mine from college on facebook and I always wondered what would have happened if he and I had dated in college. I have never told him this, even though we've known each other at least 6 years. You know why? Our life went in different directions. We are now almost 2000 miles apart. Your life went in different directions with this girl. If you say something right away, you might scare her. Take it easy, boy. Get to know her a little more and then tell her how you feel.
2007-12-25 13:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by Lorraine_us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're facebook friends, she remembers you or she's nondiscriminating. Ask her to meet for coffe or soda or something nonthreatening, or better yet, have a get together of several camp friends, something simple. Often camp friendships don't translate real well out into the Real world, but some do. But since you didn't have a camp romance, that may not be a problem with you two. You two have a shared camp history, but do you have anything else in common?
2007-12-25 21:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by chatsplas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to come up with something witty/charming or friendly to break the ice. If this leads into a conversation, then you start to drop hints about your interest in her. You should be able to judge how she feels about you from her response. (This is probably the best way to approach almost ANY girl in ANY situation) At least ask her to meet up for coffee, ice-cream, or whatever she likes. Whatever you do, don't just come out of the blue and say something along the lines of: "Hey, you've been giving me wood since age 4. Remember me? Wanna go out?". Best of luck!
2007-12-25 21:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by Wizeguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i just talked to someone who I have feelings for over about 6 months. we seen each other once. I just said, have seen u in a long time, how u been. just make some small chat. if she becomes involved in the talk alot. and if the convo is getting more longer then ask her if u want to catch up together. but if she is not intrested move on
2007-12-25 21:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋