I just found out today My dad has porn on his computer. Now I would always think my dad would never look at stuff like that, but he has so much of it. He would also grap my upper theigh and " tickle it" put his hand around it and I hate that, but he's been doing that for a long time. Should I tell my mom or dad? :(
2007-12-25 12:24:35 · 68 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He does it out of love I think. he doesnt abuse me sexually, But im 13, And I'll just tell him to stop. Its nothing for the police or anything!
2007-12-25 12:29:28 · update #1
Like, I really don['t think its for the police, I dont' think its molesting or anything. But I don't think its serious for the police.. Thank You all for your answers.
2007-12-25 12:49:44 · update #2
I'd say something directly to your dad about not liking him touching your leg. Say it makes you feel uncomfortable. If he's been doing it a long time he probably thinks you think it's funny too. If he doesn't stop I'd bring it up with your mom.
As far as the porn, I wouldn't sweat that. Perverts aren't the only people looking at porn these days. Your dad looking at porn shouldn't be considered the first step to molesting his children.
2007-12-25 12:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by Andy 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-21 07:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you have typed out;
(He would also grap my upper theigh and " tickle it" put his hand around it and ....)
'would indicate that you are strongly suspicious of his intentions towards you already!
If you take a stand now and be assertive directly to your Father when next this occurs you could well save the break up of the family unity. You have to tell him 'Look .... I don't want you to do that anymore okay....?' (Leave the room, don't wait for a reply..........)
If this is too hard for you then talk quietly about it to your Mother and ask her to do it for you when you are not in the house..... in fact you will have to make sure she understands fully of your fears and actually confirms that she will talk to him about it when you are not present. Check back with her a little later when the dust settles to make sure she kept her end of the bargain. (be aware that some women often shrug these accusations off about their husbands as ridiculous)
At this stage your relationship with your Dad may be a little distant but should improve as he thinks it through. If he loves you he may well come to you later with an apology for his behaviour and say something like 'sorry I didn't really mean anything by it' (pride, shame, etc) and things will improve from then between you. This is good for future family harmony.
If these efforts of yours do not improve the situation then you will indeed have to seek the assistance of a counsellor from your school in private.
Don't be hasty on judging your Dad about the 'porn' on his computer. The only thing that would concern me on your behalf is the fact that you were able to access it so easily. If it is his computer and he hasn't locked it out.... does he know that you use it? That's a worry if this is correct!
Stay away from his computer from now on and if asked tell him that you want your own pc for your projects etc.
If I read you right then you may have a situation on your hands. Take the first steps yourself and be determined about it. You don't have to do it all on your own but you do have to start by yourself !
2007-12-25 13:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by John B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just ask him to stop, tell him that you don't like to be tickled or that it hurts when he dose it. Your dad is more than likely playing with you, not trying anything nasty. As far as porn on the computer, you had to be snooping on the computer to find it. Most men do look at it, My hubby dose but he hides it in folders or erases the history.
2014-06-25 13:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you probably will not understand, men think about sex all the time, and are sexually motivated by almost everything they do. It is perfectly normal to watch porn., unless its like some weird fetish thing, then its weird. If you honestly think hes "tickling" you in a bad way, then tell somebody, but if you all the sudden just think that cause you found porn. on his computer then i wouldn't tell.
2007-12-25 12:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by phil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many many men are into porn. How old are you anyway? If you are a teenager, and fear that your dad is looking at you sex*, then tell someone - a school counselor or a minister maybe. You have to be kept safe.
But if you are older, say young 20, just stay away if you can. Your mother may know already, and your dad is probably ashamed of it, and would be angry if you told him you saw it.
Stay off his computer too - for your own safety. Tell someone if you feel this is a threat to you.
Hard to tell what is needed. So sorry. So, so sorry. Porn is a dreadful thing and so many men are addicted, and their wives/kids suffer. Dreadful. So sorry I am.
2007-12-25 12:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is just tickling you no big deal, just ask him to stop, tell him that you don't like to be tickled or that it hurts when he dose it. Your dad is more than likely playing with you, not trying anything nasty. As far as porn on the computer, you had to be snooping on the computer to find it. Most men do look at it, My hubby dose but he hides it in folders or erases the history.
2007-12-25 15:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by stacie387 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad to not do that to you no more since you are not comfortable with it. If you have read on here a bit you know a lot of guys look at some porn. do not know what youconsider a lot. but it ets passes around on phones and email at work more than you can imagine. If your father touches you that way again after you asking him not to tell your mother and if he does it again go to someone else.
2007-12-25 12:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay 1st of all you dont want to over react or underreact either my dad used to grab my thigh ( near my knee nothing above that tho) because thats where i was ticklish at but it was nothing weird or anything. and some men yes even dads like to look at stuff like that doesnt really mean there is anything wrong with him. BUTTTT I would talk to ur mom tho maybe he isnt aware that you can see that stuff on ur computer that would make u feel upset. also tell you dad to please not do that to ur leg anymore u really dont like it and be serious abt i t and if he doesnt stop tell your mom. if it still doesnt stop tell other family members.
2007-12-25 12:30:28 · answer #9 · answered by missology 101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knowing your dad watches Porn is a unbelievable to ya but u got to understand that he too has his likes and dislikes okie.
Thats him.
As for the touch dear, u should have stopped him or told him long time ago. Now u feel very uneasy partly of the Porn dear.
Anyway, its time for ya dad to stop this Touching businss since u are growing..
Talk to ya mom abt it. Tel her that ya feel uneasy and ask her to put gd words to ya dad abt this issue.
As for the Porn, leave it. Its his personal.
2007-12-25 12:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by Esmeralda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋