Is my grandmother too intense?

Question

My dad's mom, Mom-mom, is too overpowering. At the X-mas dinner last night, I got up, excused myself, and left the room. B/cs I'm having my period, I called my mom on my cell and asked her about what to do w/cramps. As I was talking, my grandma comes out and says, "Who's that?" "My mom." "What did you need to talk to her for?" "I just had a upset stomach so I wanted to see what she thought..." "I have aspirin in my purse. It's time to hang up now." "Ummm, OK. Just let me say bye and everything..." "It's time to go in now, everyone is concerned. Let's go." She's staring at me with this grim, straight face. I have no choice so I quickly tell my mom I've got to go. She asks if she said something wrong or if my grandma just said, "It's not her concern." I tell her good bye and walk in. I feel like Mom-mom was controlling me. I told my dad and he talked to her about it but its still happening and has always happened. What am I supposed to do about it? How do I react?

Thanks beejay! I like your answer; a lot of the things you said were true. Thank you for answering. Thanks to everyone else too and Merry Christmas! Keep those answers coming!

Answer 1

I'd say shes very intense so she can be controlling. She is also very rude. You have a right to call mom whenever you feel you need to. I would have just told her I would be back in when I was done talking to my mother about a personal problem that doesnt concern her. Then if I had to I would have walked outside to finish the call. Im not saying be rude, Im saying you had a right to do what you were doing without her bossing you. This was a minor medical problem so it took precedence over grandmas wishes.

Answer 2

Are your parents divorced or separated? If so, this could be your Grandma not wanting your Mother to be a part of your life, or Christmas Day, which is unfair of her since your Mother IS an important part of your life!

One of my Grandma's is like this with my mother and after just putting up with it for a while, I finally started standing up for my mother, not in a rude way, but just in a way that let her know that I love my Mum and I didn't like the way she treated her. Perhaps if this continues regularly you should consider pulling your Grandma aside and letting her know how you really feel.

Answer 3

Well you can't yell at her, she is your grandmother..but yes she does seem kind of controlling, does she have anything against your mother? Try to talk to her, most of the time people act in ways that hurt others, but they don't know they are doing it. Maybe thats just her way of talking, you should have a talk with her and tell her how you feel, some grandparents/parents can be controlling.

Answer 4

start ignoring her. people like Mom-Mom are starved for attention, and she thinks that because shes your elder, and no one has stepped in to tell her otherwise, that she can just barge in your business and control your every move. so, if you ignore her, she will get tired of not getting the attention from you, and she will hopefully get the hint, and leave you alone, by finding someone else to be controlling to. if she gets in your face and all upset about it, then just be like "Mom-Mom, I am too old for you to push around like that. If you want me to do certain things, then you need to talk to me with a little more respect, and not be so pushy".

Answer 5

I'd deal with it....she won't be around forever. If it's small, deal, if she's telling you to get off the phone with your mom, just be like, "I'll be done in a moment." Leave it at that...what could she do? Hang up the phone? If she does then you can Definately say something about her demanding ways.

Answer 6

She may just care for you. However, things can become out of control, so try telling her how you feel and that you need some independence. She should understand, if she gets mad, let her cool off a bit.

Answer 7

smile and wait until she dies and hope she liked you enough to leave you the house or something

Answer 8

tell your grandma that your mother has and always will be your mother................ go straight to your father in front of your grandmother and tell him this.......dad could you please tell grandma to stop trying to control me and could i please call mom back ?